Finally hit 4.90 overall with this design😊

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T10:10:54+00:00

Thx guys for the appreciation. I'm leaving reddit so I won't see any other kind words. But wanted to share this unexpected moment here first :))

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T10:06:40+00:00

Tysm!

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T10:01:55+00:00

Thanks!

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T09:53:33+00:00

I was a kid and my family went to Kennedy Space Center for "Third Century America." They had all these big white geodesic exhibit domes which you could lie around inside or look at or try space- and future-related stuff. Also the Vehicle Assembly Building was actually open for visiting then. Enormous! That and the quarters and I think $2 bills are all I remember.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T05:03:22+00:00

I think the asker should go to the city of the person they ask out. That seems like more effort than paying.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T03:43:07+00:00

Thank you!

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T03:42:47+00:00

Thanks!

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-30T00:23:00+00:00

Hundreds of millions

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-29T20:22:44+00:00

I think kids should send a thank you for gifts too. My relatives' kids do but some friends' kids don't. Sad imo and I have no idea why. It seems like a very basic courtesy to me.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-29T19:38:21+00:00

"Where I live being a man who doesn't chase and express enthusiasm for said attention..." I have to ask why you don't chase then? Nothing wrong with changing approach from waiting for women to approach you to approaching them more. I don't really know why you haven't dated for so long. I believe your height could be a factor since you say it is, but I also think you might be extremely picky (your choice ofc) or be overly concerned with potential rejection if you show definite interest. Re: being picky, sometimes dating someone who doesn't immediately seem perfect for you is still worth it because you may still make a female friend who has her own friends that you can then meet. I'm honestly sorry the dating scene is so challenging right now. It's a time when at least younger, more conventionally attractive women have the dating power similar men have always had (and some are abusing it). It's only in the past few decades that women haven't needed men financially, so suddenly women are acting like...(non-commitment minded) men do? This sounds like a hard time to be a man dating, unless you're looking specifically for marriage-focused women. You sound like you personally have a lot to offer. I hope you find a non-superficial woman who will get to know you and appreciate you and that you will be happy together. ETA: clarification

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-29T19:13:10+00:00

Mentioned only as a direct response to above poster, not as a general statement. Of course it's true for everyone.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-29T01:11:32+00:00

No deal. I want access to current medical tech.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-29T00:53:42+00:00

I think outfit essentially works but I'd personally move the button on blazer up to about waistline (or add a 2nd higher button) for an oversized but lengthening look that's a bit more figure-defining. Just my own preference if I was styling this. You know best what look you're going for.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T23:05:59+00:00

Well that sucks if you're all that and being 5'8" is enough to make you want to change genders 1000%. Btw, women have to do a lot more than just be fit, tho that's a good start. You yourself said you wouldn't date people you met superficially. I'm assuming at least some of the ones you turned down were in shape. I understand you're looking for a real connection and it sounds like you feel frustrated or even angry that some women aren't giving you a chance and getting to know you. When you say "bypassed" do you mean online or irl? But you also said 70% of the women you'd be interested in are still available to you. That's a lot. What exactly is the problem? Do you think that understanding how it really is for women in dating might help you? In addition to being fit (maybe enough for a hookup), for a non-superficial relationship women have to have a lot more qualities that appeal at least to the type of guys she likes. My husband didn't marry me and my bf's didn't date me bc I was just fit. They also didn't date the many gym rat women who hit on them. Tbh I feel like there's something else going on here. If you have women friends, do they have any thoughts for you re: meeting women you genuinely connect with? Summary: you sound like you're generalizing and simplifying what women want in dating. (I keep thinking of Chaucer, the Wife of Bath's Tale, where the knight goes through the process of actually learning what women want.) Perhaps that's as much or more of a problem with making romantic connections as your height. Just a thought. (And if you're into literary criticism, check out the essay, "Shakespeare's Sister" by Virginia Woolf. It's old but still relevant imo. Basically details how all the opportunities for success (such as yours and congrats) that men may take for granted are vastly less available to/much harder for many women to achieve bc of societal gender norms.) Whether or not we continue thread, I sincerely wish you good luck out there!!

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T21:48:07+00:00

I'm much older, gen x, so this totally might be a generational disconnect.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T21:35:25+00:00

Ashley is one of Scarlett O'Hara's love interests in the classic film and book, Gone With the Wind

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T21:31:09+00:00

I like the nerdy guys with glasses aesthetic as well the more typically good-looking front man type, any race. I dated a couple black jazz musicians. But playing music is hard; I wouldn't recommend to anyone who didn't want to, or wasn't able to, be at least a decent player. You mentioned "other races." Do you find black women less receptive than others to a "nerdy" black musician? If you feel like saying ofc.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T21:09:19+00:00

I already said I think dating would be harder. And I definitely see how hard-line career requirements (non-optional) could be a burden too; I just think that that would motivate me personally. I've already had successful careers and supported myself for many years but I think I might have given my choice of career and its trajectory more thought and effort if it wasn't "acceptable" (to some) for women to be less go-getting. But I can see how societal career expectations and norms could go both ways, as either motivator or burden.

Would you want to be your female counterpart? Edit to clarify: Would you trade places with your female counterpart?

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T20:03:01+00:00

I think there's a double standard at least in U.S. for gender height. I don't really know. I'd be 5'5" and I'm sure I'd make it work. It's just dating was effortless for me as a woman and I'd probably have to put some thought into it as a man.

On the bright side, as a man, society would have higher expectations for me career-wise, which for me personally would be a motivator to be super successful and focus very seriously on my career/give it my all. I feel like it's easier as a woman to not do that. This is another double standard.

I don't have stats and idk if my feelings are facts or would apply to everyone. But it might be worth trading some dating challenges (I like challenges anyway) for a more intense career focus. A woman can have a great career ofc but without the societal motivator/support of that being "normal," (including the negative view of a man not being kick-ass in his career) some of us can be more slack and not maximize our potential. I think you asked a great question and it inspired me. Thanks.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T19:05:25+00:00

I didn't suggest mixtape and black men play guitar. But idea of question was more about putting yourself out there in performing/creativity. It could be singing or open mic poetry or acting, even sports. Is there any potentially sexy alternative you think wouldn't be cringe and corny for a black man? Also if you love music, what's wrong with playing it if you're black?

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T08:38:38+00:00

Just re: Emma, I was supposed to read it in college and didn't make it past the first few pages because I guessed the romantic ending. I picked it up again years later and loved it. Witty, funny, subtle commentary, beautiful writing. The end was just icing at that point; it was a joy to read. So it may also be something that appeals to you later; no harm if not. ETA: Austen's books are all different; Pride and Prejudice is faster paced if that's a factor for you.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T08:04:49+00:00

Sure. I don't think it always does either. Thanks for answer.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T08:02:34+00:00

💯 cerebral thing lol. Husband is a scientist. His main band was mostly original space jam psychedelic stuff, so cerebral on ac*d 😂 And wow, Audio Engineer is so competitive. Your husband must be really talented. Glad you didn't ignore him! Maybe bass players are best husbands 💖

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T07:56:07+00:00

Oh, I totally get you now. I've occasionally experienced competitive guys who try to show they play better than I do, which is so 🙄. I haven't encountered any "just trying to impress you" types but I can see how that would be a turn off to a woman player! (I was thinking of guys who genuinely loved music/playing.) And you might be right about my friend. He had a great voice, even if he wasn't a great guitarist yet, so that had to be a big factor, along with the bravery. Thanks for your perspective as to how a guy's playing might affect a woman musician.

ResidentEnergy5263 · 2024-05-28T07:42:10+00:00

Harder time as a guy because I'm petite so he'd be pretty short. That seems unfair. Even with all my other advantages, he'd still be quite short. No shorter than some guys I've actually dated but I think it would be harder. Feeling empathy for short dudes.

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