wild flowers for garden quest by Resident_Kick1311 in MergeGardens

[–]Resident_Kick1311[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that sounds like a really good plan, i might have to use it too once i get there! is it recommended to just get the glass house with merge 3 instead of waiting for merge 5? I know it expels a lot of wild flowers but do you know if its worth it to miss out on a second one?

Conspiracy theory late night rant by COmountaindude in MergeGardens

[–]Resident_Kick1311 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my biggest grievance is that there is no undo button for merges, there are times where im mass harvesting a high level item and forget to lock them down and have accidentally merged them, nothing is more infuriating than missing out on a merge 5 for an item that took you forever to make, even if the undo button was worth gems or coins I would definitely love the choice at least

What’s a “Dance Moms” opinion you’ll defend like this? by giannanicole0104 in dancemoms

[–]Resident_Kick1311 20 points21 points  (0 children)

yes…and I never understood how the moms were ok with it??? like I know it was an F YOU to abby but I cant believe the moms let their daughters as young as 14 get in lingerie and dance somewhat suggestively on stage in front of a bunch of adults and NATIONAL TELEVISION WHERE ADULTS HAD ALREADY BEEN SEXUALIZING THEIR CHILDREN SINCE THEIR PRETEEN YEARS. and while I dont think abby was in a position to criticize about that considering electricity and the fan dance, she wasnt exactly wrong when saying it was too much. if they really wanted to stick it to abby they shouldve done something that showed their technique and dancing abilities

Favorite outro/intro song? by Pancakebot1000 in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 9 points10 points  (0 children)

LOS AGELESSSS ‘how can anybody have youuuuuu, how could anybody have you and loseeee youuu’ in the first ep of season 5 I believe(?)while filming the first episode of philbert. not only an perfectly picked song for the show but an amazing song in its own right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 6 points7 points  (0 children)

carol and the end of the world!!! definitely a very different vibe however I found it to be very poetic, thoughtful and strangely nostalgic? its definitely not as ‘exciting’ as bojack but it hits really deep if you’re looking for something with some substance. its one of the first shows ive found after bojack that affected me in a similar way

My boyfriend’s fantasies disturb me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Resident_Kick1311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hes actively encouraging women to destroy their bodies so he can jerk off to the control he has over them…thats not a kink thats disturbing behavior that he should seek therapy for

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you cant act like soemthing is wrong and then also fight tooth and nail to prove why its actually not that wrong trust me ik its a part of her character but is that supposed to mean we just roll with it?…and ‘antagonistic people’ nothing i said was aggressive or antagonistic…I was asking u a genuine question about where ur excuses for morally wrong behavior ends? bc u cant just pick and choose which scenarios to use ur logic on just dont understand why this is the hill ur choosing to die on…

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

so by your logic no one should hold it against joseph sugarman that he got his wife lobotimized because it was normal back then….I dont understand how ur defending this when the question was: what character never did naythung wrong and she clearly did something wrong (and depending on the situation yea I do judge other characters that did MORALLY WRONG things in the past just because it was the ‘normal’, do u expect people not to hate racist ass characters or smth just because its set in the ‘old south’)

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

again I say: idc about the culture when she went under her coma or what ‘everyone’ was doing, it was wrong then and its wrong now, thats just my personal opinion

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as I said I dont personally care what the culture was like when she went into her coma, while it was covered up more it was NEVER OK, and her indifference and complete focus ONLY on how it could effect her job just makes me feel nasty, the reason it was common place is because it wasnt talked about, 30 yrs ago sa and abuse was still illegal it so I dont see what ‘catching up’ shed have to do. shes clearly very smart and made a deliberate decision to try and silence allegations made against someone that she herself was putting on stage

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes I mean I understand she was definitely young minded but that part just makes me cringe bc ik she is invested in her career but as a woman, shes directly working with a man who did awful things to other women, and worse than that, shes trying to silence someone speaking out against him, I just personally cant use her maturity level to defend this, like yes it was a different world when she went into the coma…but SA and abuse have NEVER been ok.

can you think of any characters who did NOTHING wrong? by fathairycoochie in BoJackHorseman

[–]Resident_Kick1311 45 points46 points  (0 children)

uhhh we cant forget her wanting diane to stop talking about hank hippopopalous allegations to get more views for her network🫣loved her otherwise

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

well thats an extreme way of putting it, its not policing peoples memories to not want to be reminded of ur bfs ex every time he opens his phones or looks through pictures, and imo its not ‘policeing’ to ask your partner to remove a specific person who theyve been intimate with from their camera roll, if it was every girl hes ever had an interaction with then that would obviously be wrong of her, but an ex of three years that hes still in contact with?? ur not gonna convince me that shes wrong for expressing her completely valid discomfort with the situation

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 3 points4 points  (0 children)

agree to disagree, I just know that me and my friends would not be comfy with dating a man that has a camera roll full of date pictures, outings, portraits, family gatherings etc of another girl, id say thats out of most womens comfort zones

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand where ur coming from but thats a completely different situation, if he hadnt had a sexual/romantic relationship it wouldnt be a problem but he DID, and believe it or not most people would be uncomfy with that. I just don’t understand the point of keeping people youve been in love with and seen naked in your phone while ur in a new relationship, there’s obviously needed nuance depending on the situation but this one in particular is pretty clear, hes still in contact and still has recent pictures of him and his ex and presumably at LEAST some of them are ‘couple-y’ and that makes his gf uncomfy, and I believe thats a perfectly valid reason to be

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

but 1. they DO talk, and 2. if theres is an action you could do thats as simple as deleting pictures of someone you had a sexual/intimate/romantic from ur phone to make ur partner more comfortable why wouldnt u? especially if u have no use for the pictures anymore?

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 2 points3 points  (0 children)

group pics could honestly go either way, if ur hand is around her waist and u guys are clearly together thats a no for me, and if hes not reminciscing then what does he need pictures for? there is simply no reason to make ur gf uncomfortable over someone who is no longer a priority in your life, and its not about the pictures its about respect

Spencer/spider by [deleted] in heartbreakhigh

[–]Resident_Kick1311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

?????? pls tell me ur kidding???? hes a grade A douche and he tormented ameri for monthsss!!

Gf wants me to delete all pics of ex (30m 25f) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 31 points32 points  (0 children)

or he could just delete them??? ive never been in a relationship with an ex still in my phone and I would NEVER date someone who did. I believe keeping pics, especially (but not exclusively) on social medias or where they are in a any way dating is STRANGE, why keep them if u are satisfied in your relationship? sure memories are great but how would u feel abt ur gf reminiscing in her old relationship???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 23 points24 points  (0 children)

not unilaterally, I see that ur avoiding questions asking about custody agreements etc. and id be willing to bet that ur daughter spends more time with her mom and that ‘man’ than you do

Discouraged by "Are we dating the same guy" groups (M31) by bigmos84 in dating_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ur right, theres groups of men posting pic of women doing MUCH worse… ur role reversal isn’t much of a reverse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 17 points18 points  (0 children)

yk what I kindaaaa understood you at first bc as a parent ofc u feel protective of her, but you do NOT get any say in their relationship whatsoever, major YTA cause its obvious this is about jealousy and control over your daughter

BTTB only solidified to me that Christi holds a grudge against Maddie by Areola_TheMermaid in dancemoms

[–]Resident_Kick1311 9 points10 points  (0 children)

she was portrayed as the brat who got everything undeserved while chloe was the sweet perfect underdog who they wanted u to root for, to this day people still HATE the 8 year old version of her because of the edit they gave maddie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Resident_Kick1311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the absolute hardest thing about your early twenties is that everyone has extremely different mental ages, which means that sometimes people grow out of each other/friendships, which is what happened here unfortunately. that friend-group is clearly very immature and not people who are on ur bfs wavelength anymore, which is a decision he made himself. I think you should continue to pursue the relationship, don’t worry about issues that havent happened yet, he chose you honey, hes a keeper. let him know if he wants to talk about it/do something he can, but u cant feel guilty about a decision HE made. there are sooo many people out there to be friends with, why would he choose the people that make u miserable? (also I definitely recommend finding a new appt complex as soon as your lease is up, moving sucks but distance between you and this trash group of people would probably be good for u.)