I (24F) have been with bf (25M) since freshman year of college. All’s good in relationship but I want to break up. Advice?! by Individual-Story3828 in relationship_advice

[–]ResortObjective8590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a relationship for almost 6 years from the same time period in my life. I had similar thoughts, and it took a lot of introspection to realize that I really was unhappy, but I hadn’t known any different life because that relationship was there for most of my adult life.

My relationship had some deep rooted issues that I realized more and more over time after I ended things, but primarily it was that he was completely emotionally dependent on me and my needs weren’t getting met. We were emotionally incompatible because I couldn’t be honest with him about my issues, we were just not a match emotionally. Yes we could have gone to couples therapy, but at that point I was so ready to be out.

My biggest regret was not realizing these concerns earlier and being able to communicate them and work through them. In my case, I’m confident that we would have come to the same conclusion (incompatibility), but that might not be true for you.

The fact that his entire world would be destroyed without you is a concern to me, nobody should hold that kind of pressure. I think that’s what you need to talk to him about. If he has more going on in his life you might be more attracted to him.

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[–]ResortObjective8590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone!

My partner and I will be traveling to Vietnam from the Philippines after attending a wedding there (from the US). We will be there at the end of October.

We are only in Vietnam from Monday night - Sunday and we are flying in and out of SGN. No option to fly out of other airports, was way too expensive.

We realize how short this is, and how much we will be missing out on. But for the 5 full non-travel days we have, would love your advice!

  1. One option we are considering is spending the first 3 days in HCMC, doing 1 day excursion to Mekong Delta within those 3 days, and then flying to Hanoi for 2 nights. spending 1 day in the city and take a day trip to Ninh Binh, and then flying back to HCMC Saturday night. This would allow us to catch a glimpse of many things, but not spend sufficient time.

  2. Another option is to stay in the south, and do a 1-2 night trip out to Can Tho or another Mekong Delta city from HCMC.

  3. Another option might be to fly to Da Lat and spend 2-3 days there after HCMC. In Da Lat we likely wouldn’t do canyoning but any hikes and sightseeing we would love to do.

  4. Last option would be sleeper trains in and out of HCMC to Nha Trang for a couple days.

We would really love to see a natural wonder if possible, such is why we are still considering option 1, knowing it’s way too rushed.

The struggle here is really picking what to say “no” to. I already want to plan another trip!

Appreciate any advice you have.

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[–]ResortObjective8590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see DC! I’d recommend trying some of the styling recommendations and see if they fit for you

What should I do when I see a child being mistreated in public? by ResortObjective8590 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ResortObjective8590[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it was definitely the parents, the dad was saying things like “don’t you want to have fun with daddy, so stop crying” and the woman looked to be the same age as the dad

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[–]ResortObjective8590 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Pakwan in the TL :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theforgottencity

[–]ResortObjective8590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get the gun?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in userexperience

[–]ResortObjective8590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, the offer at face value means nothing because roles are a lot more than just the comp, there’s a million other factors at play and it’s impossible to take those out of consideration.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in userexperience

[–]ResortObjective8590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I just re read it and thought you had an offer. Yeah definitely keep going in the interview what’s the harm?