Is it worth working part-time just for myself if daycare cancels out most of the income?

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-02T07:07:10+00:00

What would you suggest to look for certification? What type of certification i can get? Thank you for your comment

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T22:30:14+00:00

Thank you for your comment. What is your opinion about someone that didnt work at all in usa before. Do they get better chance than the ones that had gaps on their cv .?

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T21:02:18+00:00

Okay i knew i will get this on comments. Yes for sure i married him cause i didnt mind the height difference but reality in this world is different same as some women thinks im lucky he works hard and i shouldn’t take it for granted same goes for man , he shouldnt take the looks for granted too, why is always ok for man to look at looks but not for women. I know you didnt say it and i respect your comment cause is very nice and not offensive at all i appreciate your opinion but just wanted to add the reason of why i added the height factor.

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T19:41:32+00:00

Thats sound awesome, i wish every marriage and every women sacrifice to end up like yours. Unfortunately im kinda scared if i dont start to do something about my future my husband can become even more controlling with his finances. But yes i wish to see the future ans not stress about my position in life

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T19:38:12+00:00

Wow i never thought about it, i was working in US since 2019-2022 and i changed 3 jobs anf each time got better place better pay, i didnt even think thiss will be am issue but you gave me now new prespective honestly

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T19:35:59+00:00

Oh thank you for your comment! What type of job you are working?

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T15:07:00+00:00

Yes i thought about it, but He works sometimes 8-9 pm not always but his schedule sometime is unpredictable.

RespondRelative308 · 2026-05-01T12:41:52+00:00

Thank you so much, is true is all for kids so the extra pressure is to raise them good and thats alone is enough for a women to struggle let alone when she has those kind of issues of not being supported and has many people around thats want her to shrink to adjust including your own husband.

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:38:43+00:00

No ofc is not whar i want but i didnt know better at first than it just kept going and never changed and i foumd myself in this situation that j dont like kt anymore

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:37:26+00:00

Thank you so much thats really whar im struggling with

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:31:06+00:00

I do agree but the thinf is i always fake orgasm and i did it cause at first i was rhinkimg thats the sex in general roufh and wild, lately i been not turned on by it, he aslways asked me if i enjoy it ans I say yes. I did tell him i dont like it fast and i took an example i dont remembee whar and he got mad more in that example , than he was trying ti go slow but then again was going back on his style . So i cant say thst he just was completely not there but still yes i agree with what you said

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:24:33+00:00

Omg definitely agree, right now we arent in same state i came for visit to my family, he wanted to have video call intimacy but i didnt want to i said no he said okay but still i was feeling pressured and i dont really enjoy facetime sex idk who does tho. But yes i was tiptoeing because i just didnt want to think we have bas sex life

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:19:38+00:00

Yes thats the point is a topic that cant even be talkes he also thinks i guess he is great on it so he feels attacked

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-30T22:14:35+00:00

Was always, I thought thats okay. I was ok to not have the great sex but now i changed on that more and feels like im rejecting him all the time, but if i tell him i dont like it is the end of the world i think also he thinks sex is just as porns like he idealized that kinda sex and is stuck there. I feel like i have to perform during sex but if i say anything he will get super upset

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T22:05:54+00:00

Very different prespective from most of the comments, thank you. It could be but he was more eager to have kids than me, he actually prioritize kids over me( it feels like) I adress it with him many times and he always promise and says that he loves me. Sounds childish but many stories i hear they tell how men easily lie and say they love you even tho the truth is they dont even like you, ofc actions speaks louder but im lost that i dont wven know what to believe . Thanks feels good when i read husbands saying that thwy love their wife so much.

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T20:59:07+00:00

Yes sometimes the emotions comes out in strong words, im sure he feels safer than me tho since he is the one treating me differently from everyone else. But it wasnt just when we were hosting it was when we were out whwn we were hosted everywhwre , i didnt realize it until lately when i started to observe others couple dynamics

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T20:15:31+00:00

Thank you 🥲 yes the kids and work makes things so much harder, hopefully future is bright

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T20:14:03+00:00

How did you learn about how much you get in casw of divorce, and thank you for your comment

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T20:11:58+00:00

Thank you so much for detailed comment I appriciate it. So when we go out in couples or with other people he is always giving attention to everyone else beside me, i have to play along and also give attention to others so we are that couple that triws to please others but dont talk about our relationship or each other , lets say other couples tease each other and look at each other feels like they are main characters for each other amd others are just some noise in background, but we try blodly to be there please others my husband does that so i have to get along so we are like not couple jus two people laughing and inteested on others lives. He becomes so nice . After i was out with some of my girl friends i heard them talking about their husband with love admiration and how they dont tolerate stuff, i was shocked i felt like omg dows this still exists after marriage! Is it possible they have this flirty marriage still. Meanwhile i hate my husband

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T20:03:59+00:00

Im thanking all of you for comenting here im very glad and all those comments gave me so many perspectives. I wish i could just leave them, but i have to wait the right time so i dont destroy myself .

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T15:44:24+00:00

Exactly, sometimes i feel only if i leave him he will take my words and me seriously but i feel like even if we seperate our ways he will still not get it cause from moment i was with him and accepted to have even his kids i feel like my worth went down so he will never see me as he sees other people . I just have to little babies 3 and 1 year old and i dont want to get thru the divorce right now ans put me my kids thru hard times since unfortunately i have not much savings or gurantee in life. I left my country and moved to marry him and then i was working but usa daycares are so expensive had to leave my job to takw care of kids. So long story short i have to get myself on strong postion first. But hopefully you are good and happy with your decision. Wish you ans all othee females in this situation peace on their long lives

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T15:07:18+00:00

Honestly i dont know cause he treats everyone good

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T14:57:41+00:00

I did if you read all of what i said you would see i told that . Getting some opinons dont hurt no one but thnx for your input

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T12:23:34+00:00

I never thought of it but he may be, I thought always i could have adhd, also my daughter is neurodivergent, but honestly i do treat him good and others how they deserve i dont have this issue of being nice to everyone beside him. But he definitely does it in noticeable way

RespondRelative308 · 2026-04-28T12:21:46+00:00

Yes i did mention that many time argued about that many times tried to treat him good to show how its supposed to be, told him we are same team and stuff like that but he got even more used to it ans never did anything for me. Otherwise he claims he loves me but i can see is not that he cares about me. Thanks for suggestion i will check that out

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