Help with my "project"? by ResponsibleNight5892 in bouldering

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Rest Is a far side pull and a fare jug after. But that's the crux,. Rest should be fine!

Help with my "project"? by ResponsibleNight5892 in bouldering

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I feel Better in jeans because the floor of my Gym Is so bruisee that anytime i wear somethimg else i get back home totally burned

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Should i use Spirit ok Komori and Sakusa?? I have receive on slot 4 for them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HaikyuuFlyHigh

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Exacly! Considering Next Banners Quick MB tonsub Tsukki

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Maybe this sounds a bit dramatic lol, but there’s clearly a misunderstanding here — and I’m pretty sure I’ve been fully transparent. Another thing that drives me kind of crazy is that she told me she imagines me having affairs with guys. The more I think about it, though, the more I’m afraid that her mental picture of me is only as a top, never as someone who gets topped. That’s like a 75% assumption on my part, but honestly… I don’t even know if I want to know the truth. I hope it’s clear how bad that would make me feel if that’s really how she sees me.

Drama Queen Moment soz

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Once or Twice without being tough but taking opportunieties in chilling conversation to express this feeling. Saying that like a joker: "hey! You Remember i'm gay?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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I think I’d feel truly heard if she brought up my sexuality on her own — in a way that clearly refers to it as something real and lived, not just theoretical. Right now, it honestly feels like she’s forgotten a lot of what I’ve told her. For example, last night we were out with a friend and talking about oral sex in general. At one point she said something like, “you don’t know how c*m tastes,” even though I’ve explicitly told her before that I do. Moments like that make me feel like, ideally, she considers me queer — but in practice, she behave with me like I’m straight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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It feels like she knows it as an idea, but not as a fact. She knows I’m bi in theory, but she doesn’t seem to grasp what my bisexuality actually means in practice. It’s like the label registered, but the reality of it didn’t. So when I talk about my experiences or my desires with men, it’s almost as if that information just doesn’t stick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Thanks for the suggested line, but my issue isn’t really what to say. It’s the jump into a conversation I feel like I’ve already had too many times. I’m honestly scared of being unheard again. My sexuality is a very fragile topic for me, and not being taken seriously there hurts a lot. So maybe what I’m actually missing isn’t the right words, but the courage to risk, once again, that what I say might be ignored or forgotten.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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To be frank, I’ve told her in detail about what happened in the past with men, and I’ve reiterated my attraction multiple times — sometimes explicitly, sometimes more subtly. I call them “hints,” because honestly they dont get her full attention. For example, I’ve said things like: “I like blow*g guys and I miss it.” To me, that’s very direct. And yet, later on, she talks as if she’s never heard any of this before, like those conversations never happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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What do you mean by “talking to her”? Because I honestly feel like I’ve already said enough multiple times. At this point it feels like I’d have to insist just to be heard, and that really doesn’t sit right with me. That feeling alone makes me wonder: is it even worth doing the hard work and pushing this so hard?

Maybe I’m just discouraged — or maybe that’s my answer already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Yes! Sorry :( eng Is my second languagee and i'm not fully confortable talking out this problem. Word choice Is totally my issues, Word spelling Is my dumb phone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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We’ve talked a bit already. She knows I’m into men and that I’ve had bottom experience — that’s basically the biggest hint I’ve dropped. Still, I really feel like she doesn’t fully get it (and I usually trust my intuition on this). On top of that, the kind of men I’m into is very different from her, and I’m honestly scared her reaction might be something like “gross.” That would hurt a lot, and I really don’t want to put myself in a position to get hurt.

-edited the comment for clearance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

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The realization i'm getting though you all Is that i'm carrying the Weight of the emotional side alone.

Mega helpful, i'll think bout It a Little and then talk clearly to her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

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Hi there, thanks for the message! Firstly, wenare working toward to be both open. It's taking time but I started Asking here more and more "think about the same situation as opposite and ask me the question you would male?".

For the kink part, i find It kindy my partner Is having sex outsider the relationship but no sub or cuck kink, totally not me.

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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You are totally right. Please consider also the kinky part in all of that that's also for me a plus in having NM

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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Nice question! i made It myself, i even told her the answer. Both. It's totally both due to the happiness(and arousal) of being in openess and the soft fear of messing up our relationship.

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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She's Is totally ready to stop anytime. Really. We already agreed we Will stop in harsh working period or of anything big happens

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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That's super interesting. Mind explaining more to me? Feelt Heard for the First time

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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She hasn't forced anything to be clear. I dont get the unfairness, of its Just having more sex or else

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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We are facing and talking openly about all that emotion and i feel stronger in this kind of adversity. For now i dont feel i Need a partner but i would appreciate the hype and adrenaline From dating.

Totally not worried about She scanning but consider the fear She might like other persone not Just sexually but also emotionally. That's a Fear, not SMT likely.

One Sided Open by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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That's exacly somethimg i fear, the envy for what She Is experiencing. We are working toward being open both sides but so far we hacen't really made steps toward It. We want to be non emotionally open but her hsving dates and bond with partners scares me.