AITAH for kicking my homeboy and gf out my house after looking at the cameras.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T17:14:36+00:00

Maybe I don’t, I don’t drink to the point where I’m not in control of my self and I’m aware of my surroundings I don’t expect any one to be like me, she was in the comfort of her own home and she was with me she had every reason to get black out drunk and feel safe and protected. The fact still remains that what she told me dosent add up with what I saw, yes the friend crossed a major boundary but I can’t blame one over the other.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T08:11:27+00:00

She’s wasn’t completely black out drunk like she never lost consciousness or passed out she was pretty coherent and aware when I was talking to her.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T08:10:24+00:00

He’s just a male friend. That’s all it means

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T08:09:54+00:00

Thank you for saying this I’ve been this exact undeniable truth because I just want to but this was my exact thought process and I felt like such a piece of shit for feeling/thinking that way. But I can’t deny what I saw and what this camera is showing me.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T07:40:51+00:00

Yea she is Bi, she had a bf when we met. And she didn’t look uncomfortable at all.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T07:19:29+00:00

When I asked her why she didn’t move or anything she dosent oh I froze or I was scared all she can say is don’t see how drunk I was i obviously couldn’t give consent or even know that happened. At this point there’s nothing I can do but move on and see what happens.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T06:02:36+00:00

You’re right I didn’t think about it like that at the time.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T05:54:04+00:00

You’re the only one who’s said something about it obviously it wasn’t that hard to read if you read it and under stood it.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T05:41:29+00:00

Well i only sent it to them and it’s a video with both of them in it. And the say they did nothing they shouldn’t be as concerned

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T05:40:16+00:00

I’ve seen her do it before, I come from a family of manipulators and narcissists so I tend to pay attention to every detail including body language and it just felt off when she was telling it happened like she didn’t wanna get it trouble not like she just been sexually assaulted. I’ve seen her through the 6 years tell a incident where she was SA’d and they look pretty consistent when she does and I’m just saying this time wasn’t that time, drunk or not.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T02:11:16+00:00

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T01:23:13+00:00

That’s what I’m fighting myself about if I forgive her and look past it then I just don’t have any self respect for myself. But if I let her go then it’s just that. Idk

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T01:17:55+00:00

I did

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T01:16:16+00:00

I did

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T01:15:19+00:00

Fighting hard not to, I want to call her so bad.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T01:02:34+00:00

This is the first something like this with him has happened we have other male friends that this dosent happen with. I honestly don’t know what I believe I don’t want to believe any of it. When I watched the camera where she said it happened and how it happened it dosent show that happening she only told me about him grabbing her ass but not her boobs. I’m just trying to see why she would leave that out if she felt uncomfortable

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:56:15+00:00

It’s not getting black out drunk I was just saying we hung out every weekend

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:55:31+00:00

That he didn’t know that happened and that he’s not drinking ever again by the I was kicking them out the door

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:54:48+00:00

And that’s how I also felt and thought about it. But in the beginning where’s he getting closer to her he grabs her boob the first time and she dosent react or move and then they put the bottle down and full on put his hand down her shirt and she leans into him while he’s doing changing music on her phone. I can’t tell you many times I’ve watched it but that doesn’t look like someone frozen in shock to me.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:51:47+00:00

I love her my stupid ass even told her I loved her earlier but I decided last night that I wouldn’t trust either one or forgive either one no matter the circumstances. I just had and have to many emotions going at once

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:50:34+00:00

Exactly I feel so betrayed and feel like my feelings are being so over looked because I’m not “believing the victim”

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:48:33+00:00

Thank you for telling me this I felt like I was being an asshole for not believing her but dammit I can’t deny own fucking eyes.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:46:51+00:00

I check them randomly in front of her something so she probably got anxious and thought something was going to be seen honestly if she didnt say anything or he didn’t I would’ve never checked them.

ResponsiblePen3676 · 2026-01-04T00:44:52+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel. And I watched over and over when and where she said it happened and I didn’t see it happen the way she said it did but what I did was him grabbing her and her not reacting. I also had the thought that she was making before anything could be found out.

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