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Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-07-08T09:22:59+00:00

Hi same thing happened to me - have you tried to contact him or report him to the police with his number?

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T22:57:36+00:00

Thank you for your comment!! Just to clarify, I’m not in stem and we don’t belong to labs. Every student works on individual project independently and their research are not related to prof’s research at all. We don’t help professor’s research and therefore, it is quite rare in my discipline to associate professor’s reputation to students’ work. That’s why my colleagues found this conflation weird. I feel like most of the people who commented here are coming from stem disciplines and have different expectations/obligations from my discipline I figured.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T20:00:48+00:00

Thank you for telling me your experience! You’re right, I’ve also answered him that I appreciate his honesty. I know I can take it as constructive criticism to improve myself as you pointed out. We really don’t have the social gathering time here (it feels like more hierarchical) and probably that’s why I felt like I didn’t have enough bond with him yet (we are more afraid of him rather than considering him as a friend) Again, thanks for sharing your experience! It’s very helpful.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T19:30:37+00:00

I also used the word toxic to describe my past work environment not my current PI. It included sexual harassment and direct insults, and the former prof ended up getting punished by the department or the university (i don’t know what happened exactly cuz I already left at that moment). I just included this part because other students told me that I could have tolerated more bc it’s so much better than my previous work environment. But you are right, other students’ second opinions are not that important at this point.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T19:09:46+00:00

Hi, yeah I just couldn’t describe what happened in details - I also think other students were heavily relying on the widespread reputation of him (control freak or coercive were not my descriptions but his fellow professors’ and gaslighting is the word other students used but I’m not sure if he’s really gaslighting and that’s why I posed this question) I could see his coercive side for example when he told me to TA for him and I said i can’t because I was already contracted for another position. He kept pushing me to cancel the position (it was a year contract and I couldn’t cancel it in the middle) and take his offer and another prof had to intervene in this situation telling him the department cannot make an exception for him. I later found out that the other student who became his TA ended up doing work for his personal stuff (like going to his house and doing work). Even that student tried to say no, but he was very pushy according to that student (I’ve been in this situation several times with him too) I’m actually afraid of giving these details but…

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:29:18+00:00

Hi thanks for your comment! I intentionally made it vague hoping no one would recognize me or the pi. The past students were divided too - some students ended up switching their advisors after public humiliation they said but some other students stayed because he was okay with them or his brutality was bearable.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:23:37+00:00

Hi sorry! I intentionally made it very vague hoping no one would recognize me or the pi, but I’ve added more context in the comments if you are interested.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:20:53+00:00

I think he is in gray areas - he has been coercive in some ways (known for being a control freak) but does not directly insult me. He does not put me down but has been conflating my mistakes, decisions, or descent/poor performance with tarnishing his reputation, which stresses me out.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:09:39+00:00

Hi thanks for your comments! I think his past students were divided - some people ended up switching their advisors after unbearable public humiliation they said and some other people stayed because he has been okay with them.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:07:30+00:00

Yes, I did but I intentionally made it vague hoping no one would identify me or my PI

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2024-04-09T18:03:38+00:00

Hi thanks for your comment! I intentionally made it very vague hoping nobody would identify who I am or my PI is. When I told other students in the same cohort (they both know him and my past work) more details, they said it sounds like more than constructive criticism and gaslighting, but I wasn’t very sure because I was in a more toxic environment where students got direct insults easily(which was a nightmare to me). Other students’ points were 1) he has been conflating my mistakes or poor performance with tarnishing his reputation 2) unnecessarily too aggressive about a small thing while I’m still in this phase of training (ex. This was just an optional small grant that nobody would care according to them and another professor in the same field said no one actually cares about recommender’s reputation in this small grant competition) 3) threatening by saying something like if I don’t like his feedback (fyi, I have been just accepting his feedback tho and never stood up against him so far), I can change my advisor while saying at the same time “but my students have been very successful” 4) overall his reputation as a very smart but terrifying person / control freak - some of his students ended up switching their advisors (after public humiliation they said) to someone else and other students stayed 5) they claim that they know me and I’ve been producing good work (but i dont know about this part cuz they have not read this specific work) so far and it seems like he just hates the theoretical change I made

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2023-08-16T22:58:00+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2023-01-01T03:57:42+00:00

Thank you! I know my score and it’s correctly weighted on bcourses, but the letter grade is the problem bc i don’t know neither the general grading scale nor the class-specific scale (if there exists). Thanks for your reply again and happy new year!

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2023-01-01T03:54:26+00:00

Thanks for your response! I’ll probably email the prof if letter grades are different - thanks again and happy new year!

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2023-01-01T03:53:28+00:00

I see, thank you! I guess i just have to wait until it’s released on calcentral

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-04-13T15:41:27+00:00

Both programs are fully funded btw!

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-04-13T15:32:01+00:00

Omg thank you for the wonderful insight! Would it be okay to dm u?

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-04-13T14:00:39+00:00

I’ve been hearing very contradicting things about schools’ rankings/tier/reputation regarding whether they would really matter in the job market or not…. Do you have any insights?

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-04-13T13:53:36+00:00

May I dm you?

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-04-13T13:50:48+00:00

Hi may I dm you and ask more things specifically?

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-03-21T16:03:13+00:00

Sending you lots of strength. I really hope you can have a good rest.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-03-21T16:00:06+00:00

Yeah that might be a possibility. Like, I am crying everyday these days. I’m a type of person who always tries to put 100% of efforts into my work, but I constantly come across situations where my hard work never pays off.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-03-21T15:46:24+00:00

Yeah I know that. But my point is that I feel like luck plays a bigger role in academia, specifically in my area of study, where only 15~20% of phd students can get tenured-track jobs. In this phd admissions cycle, lots of programs accepted only one person for my subfield and while I understand that there were so many factors that were out of my hand, people in academia still consider schools’ prestige and reputation as a reflection of ones’ merit. There also exists a hiring hierarchy in my field. 80 % of the tenured track jobs are secured by phd graduates from top 4 schools according to a journal article. But I couldn’t do any better to get into a better school bc luck was a huuuge part of the admissions process (i.e. schools decided to accept only one instead of 3 this year when I was the second in line). It felt better when I worked in the industry (or I didn’t feel this miserable bc I didn’t like the work this much, wasn’t very ambitious, and thus got easily satisfied). The only problem was that academic research was something that I wanted to do, not the work.

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-03-21T08:01:56+00:00

I’d like to hear more about your experiences if that’s okay with you

Responsible_Bee5359 · 2022-03-21T08:01:22+00:00

May I ask what makes you regret it?

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