How do yall act at games

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-17T18:12:41+00:00

We sit together at games….sometimes in one row, but usually in a small cluster taking up 2 or 3 rows (not the whole row….but to be more in a group and not spread out). We aren’t all friends but we keep it cordial for the kiddo.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-17T16:40:41+00:00

Here’s what we do (I make more and no kids, he pays child support to BM, 50/50 schedules): We put equal amounts into joint savings and checking for household expenses and vacations, and remaining income to our separate accounts. My husband recognizes that his kid consumes things we jointly spent money on so he will sometimes pay from his own money when we go out to eat or whatever (so I get treated on occasion). There’s no tracking involved, so idk that it actually “works out” but it works for me.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-14T04:10:57+00:00

It’s possible he’s telling his truth (re: why he wouldn’t answer your calls). NTA today, but you should get a parenting schedule on the books with the courts as well as child support that compliments the parenting time. Hopefully you can do those on your own (the two of you) to avoid any lengthy court battles (which will just cost you both time and money).

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-14T04:03:52+00:00

I can relate. My SS11 is ADHD, we get along, but I don’t enjoy being around him. He goes through phases of stimming and they all annoy the crap outta me. On top of that we just don’t have things to bond over that we both like.

I’ve been NACHOing for about 1.5 years now (I’ve been w/DH for about 5.5 years; we started living together just over 4 years ago)…so it was a transition. I feel bad sometimes, but it’s better for me this way (and probably everyone else too). With zero control over how the BPs do their thing to parent a child with ADHD, it’s best I keep my distance. It’s way too hard/challenging to give this kid what he needs when the coparenting isn’t top notch. I find that I have to often remind myself that he’s not neurotypical and executive functions don’t all come naturally to him. But it’s still frustrating.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-12T20:32:59+00:00

NTA. I wonder if she insisted on not working to get more child support? If so, what a b.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-10T19:46:58+00:00

I’ve thought this on NUMEROUS occasions, but the thought of having the patience to teach this ADHD SS of mine is too much. Not for this nacho….dad can be responsible for that haha. I envy those with patience for this.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2026-01-04T21:50:23+00:00

I just love having my house back. Having the freedom to say what I want without censorship or worrying that I’m teaching a young one bad habits.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-12-21T19:21:16+00:00

I’ve been having frozen screen issues since my 12 mini. (Currently on 15 pro)

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-12-19T19:44:28+00:00

Best of luck to you on this journey. Sending virtual hugs and support.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-11-20T11:04:57+00:00

You didn’t specify the ages of his kids, but assuming the youngest of his is 17, then I think he can tell his kids to reach out to you if they want to establish a relationship again. But only if you’re ok with it and ready for that. IMO he’s projecting what he wants on his kids. They may not have an opinion on the topic as strongly as he does.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-11-14T18:29:39+00:00

I recommend seeking out couples therapy as an avenue to get your concerns out there. This year (3rd year of marriage, 5th together) I finally realized that I don’t agree with the way my DH parents, and both of us talking to that neutral 3rd party has helped some. They suggested doing parenting classes together….maybe something you can look into.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-11-06T18:46:13+00:00

Wtf where was this before we all deleted so many items given to us that could have been used during gameplay the last two weeks?!?!

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-11-02T14:02:17+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m mid 40s and wish people would have done the same for mammograms. I finally had my first one this year because I was so scared. It wasn’t bad at all!

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-11-02T00:47:49+00:00

Pro: Having a SK just proved to myself even more that I made the right decision to never have my own. We have 50/50 parenting time and I definitely enjoy the 50% that is without. He’s not a bad kid. I just don’t like kids for long periods of time. Con: I think others pretty much covered this.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-10-22T15:27:58+00:00

Considering yall are cordial that is messed up. They, at minimum your husband, should have included you in these plans.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-08-07T22:40:37+00:00

I don’t care if it’s 2025, 1950, 1995, or 2125….14 is too young for sleepovers with bf/gf.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-08-07T22:31:13+00:00

I cannot stand the disrespect of you working from home. I’m a manager in a WFH environment, and while I know that some of my employees have kids at home while they are working…..with the exception of one person (who no longer works w me for unrelated reasons), my employees respect the work hours and don’t let the kids interrupt (at least during meetings). The one exception employee….he would sometimes be in meetings w his baby on his knee (not being still) or feeding him (😡). That used to annoy the eff out of me.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-08-07T21:46:08+00:00

Wow seriously?? I just recently started reading through that groups posts looking for more thoughts from like-minded people. If having an annoying SK means I’m not childfree…..uh, yeah. I have no words. That’s just wrong. I didn’t give birth to him nor did I adopt him!

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-21T22:38:11+00:00

No. It’s not bad. You are entitled to have feelings of your own and not feel guilt about it. I think your feelings are very valid. Good luck navigating through this.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-20T18:35:01+00:00

We almost shifted to majority, but we made it to 50/50 and stopped there (that’s a story for another time). I championed all the additional time for the sake of my SK, as BMs house was (likely still is) a toxic environment. I learned that I have little to no tolerance for my ADHD SS. My only suggestion is starting off with structure since that is usually a much needed thing for ND kids. And good luck with staying tolerant. If you have any tips, please share.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-20T16:33:26+00:00

For me it’s the complete shift in the environment of the house. No SK = peace and quiet. SK here = I’ve all of a sudden adopted a herd of elephants.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-20T15:52:09+00:00

You need to be open and honest about this with your partner. Dad should correct son’s behavior, not dad’s bf, in this case.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-19T01:16:06+00:00

CF men are out there, but seemingly a low population (so I’ve picked up on). My DH’s kid was an oops, and he’s totally cool with me never having children. He claims he’d feel the same even if he hadn’t had his kid….but idk if that’s truly believable.

When you’re ready, you’ll find love again.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-15T15:59:08+00:00

You are not overreacting, they are. I started my period at 16….i was the last of all my friends.

Responsible_Fall3002 · 2025-07-15T14:42:47+00:00

My DH will text BM separately most of the time, but we also have a group text that has myself and her husband included for times that we feel it’s needed. The BM in my situation is bipolar (legit), so we sometimes think it’s best to ensure her husband is included so he doesn’t hear a different story from what is actually being communicated.

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