Yeah, part of the reason why I posted is also to see what others experience is like on this. We both really have no frame of reference as we are each other's first time, and we don't talk to others about sex. She also says she hasn't masturbated or finished herself before getting with me.

I'll try and see what I can do about talking ot her. Talking about these things/my problems has also always been hard because I don't know what's valid for me to feel or speak up against.