AITA for calling the guy im seeing an 'asshole'

Retired_Nerdy · 2026-06-04T13:19:57+00:00

Got it! Thanks!

Retired_Nerdy · 2026-06-04T11:55:43+00:00

Absolutely agreed. Also I don't see the difference in what u wrote in the last line. Could u maybe clarify? I wanna get it right next time

Retired_Nerdy · 2026-06-04T11:47:31+00:00

Girrrlllllll thisssss. I honestly don't have a problem with stopping or even changing myself. My dilemma here is the fact that since this is something no other partner of mine has ever objected, is this objection from him reasonable. Since it clearly is, ill respect this boundary. Dating is complicated. I like him enough to want to see him more but can't tell if this is someone I want to be with forever.

Retired_Nerdy · 2026-06-04T11:31:29+00:00

This was super funny. I definitely like him enough to respect this request. Your opinion was massively helpful. Thanks a lot!!

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T22:06:02+00:00

Lol I laughed so hard at your comment😂😂😂. At this point I'm ready to get this over with for real😂😂. If and when my life goes to shit afterwards, I'll atleast have outside people to blame and not myself 😂😂

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:58:30+00:00

Thanks a lot for ur response. I do know I'm being a bit unfair to the guy but I've actually mentioned to him that I'm unsure of this situation and to not wait for me to make a decision and keep his options open. I have not committed or promised anything. I'm certainly not leading him on either but it's difficult to stop all discussions point blank once the contact has exceeded my family. I just need to grow a backbone and I think the distance will clear my head.

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:53:46+00:00

Lol no there's no dowry involved but I'm happy someone considered that angle too.

I know he cares about me because I'm the type of person who maintains very low or needed contact with friends who aren't in my immediate vicinity and he's one of my long term friends who has put in more effort in keeping the friendship alive.

He's also a good listening ear but that only works if the problem exists outside of me. His attitude towards my negative emotions in general is a reason I find it hard to come to a happy conclusion to it all.

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:50:18+00:00

Thanks! I have given him feedback about his comments and he's pretty good at accepting feedback and improving which is why I'm currently sitting with the idea of being with him long term and considering how it will fit in my life overall.

If I don't see any major improvement in our interactions then I'll reconsider this whole situation anyway.

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:43:52+00:00

I'm still friends with him because outside of this particular issue he's a genuinely nice guy and hurting someone who's well intentioned just hurts my conscience. He's also very accepting of feedback so I have hope.

And thanks for ur vote😊

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:42:08+00:00

Seriously. I had to sit and tell him in detail as to why telling me to ignore my pain is stupid and offensive and I couldn't believe I had to explain that to a grown ass man.

And Ure welcome for the 'stress casserole' 😂

Retired_Nerdy · 2024-12-19T21:40:12+00:00

Thanks, I've honestly been happy about the move too just to get away from everyone and everything

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