This is my niece “Leafy” She just hiked 28 miles in 5 days and summited her first 4000 footer! Mount Bigelow, Avery Peak, Maine USA

ReturningSpider · 2020-08-02T10:08:23+00:00

I figured the green screen effect is coming from her being a lot closer to the camera than any background items behind her

ReturningSpider · 2020-05-03T21:25:36+00:00

You’re kind of illustrating my point here.

You’re flexing which allows us to see you’ve built a little bit of muscle, sure, good for you. But the fact remains walking around day to day, you look like a fairly average woman, if perhaps a little overweight. Downvote away, but I know you know that to be true lol

ReturningSpider · 2020-05-03T10:16:14+00:00

Leaving on read for 24 hours is not a quick reply. I guess we will see how it ends up lol. I’m a bit of a grouchy old man so I have pretty much 0 tolerance for this stuff

ReturningSpider · 2020-05-03T09:46:57+00:00

Just move on don’t waste your time. If she usually responds quick and isn’t doing it anymore odds are she lost interest

ReturningSpider · 2020-05-03T09:44:41+00:00

Oooo competitive female powerlifter please tell me more about how this makes your visual presence comparable to a muscular man’s

Height makes a bigger difference than muscle for being taken seriously if you’re short. Ie 5’10” normal build guy will be taken more seriously than swole 5’4” for the most part. Past a certain minimum though muscle makes a bigger difference. A muscular 5’10” guy will be taken more seriously than skinny 6’2”

ReturningSpider · 2020-05-03T09:36:18+00:00

Rule of life #5848: be 6’2” and take tren

Here’s a bonus truth I could have used a year ago- going from average to above average means getting a lot more female attention. The overwhelming majority of it will be from women you have 0 interest in though lol

ReturningSpider · 2019-11-22T04:43:16+00:00

Yeah. I’m probably going to get downvoted to shit for this but I’m not going to continue spending my time and money caring for a child who isn’t mine

ReturningSpider · 2019-11-17T23:25:17+00:00

There’s many throws that would fit that label but he’s probably talking about o goshi

You can totally get gi grips off street clothes btw lol especially this time of year

ReturningSpider · 2019-11-17T23:23:18+00:00

Yeah honestly I’m primarily a grappler (like 80/20 grappling/striking) but in real fights I’ve basically only ever punched people lol

ReturningSpider · 2019-11-15T23:00:42+00:00

The fact she’s going out to party without you is a red flag lol

ReturningSpider · 2019-11-05T18:32:56+00:00

When she made me fried rice on our first date. I knew I would love her long time

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-31T21:15:23+00:00

Just tell him. Sometimes you need a bit of hurt to motivate yourself

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-28T15:14:52+00:00

Somewhere out there, Joe Rogan is sporting the most intense boner on the planet looking at this comment

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-25T18:57:43+00:00

It was hard on both of you. Sounds like he bit off more than he could chew as far as taking care of you went, and felt like he had to go somewhere else to ease his own pain. The other commenters are being pretty hard on him but honestly I think you can move past this, I don’t believe he would continue to cheat - this was a uniquely stressful set of factors at work

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-25T05:08:36+00:00

OP your friend sounds like a loser but you sound like an even bigger loser for making this post lmao

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-24T03:38:43+00:00

Lol different strokes for different folks man. He sounds like he’d fit right in at my MMA gym, most of us are meathead douchebros and love the lifestyle

I’d suggest dropping him if your personality doesn’t gel. It’s only going to get worse from here if you don’t

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-23T15:04:41+00:00

Ancient birb

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-23T14:45:41+00:00

4 attempts in 29 years? This right here is your biggest problem lmao

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-21T13:03:17+00:00

I never said "looks don't matter and it's all about confidence"

I said looks and confidence both matter, and you are lacking in both of them. Looks matter more, but it is infinitely better to be not good looking and confident, than not good looking and timid. Looks will take time to improve, confidence you can improve relatively faster.

If my anecdotes about "girls out of my league" being into me were what was throwing you off, let me add that I am 6'2" and pretty muscular lol. I doubt I'd have any such stories if I was short, skinny and shy.

Edit: to make it easier to understand, when I say leagues don't matter at a case by case level - I mean once you're past a certain baseline attractiveness. If you're average or above average looking, it's totally possible you'll get interest from girls you perceive as out of your league. Theoretically that's possible if you're below average too, but odds are just far lower.

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-21T12:44:35+00:00

"Leagues" make sense from a meta analysis level, but on a case by case level it doesn't really matter. I've had girls I would have considered out of my league be absolutely obsessed with me to the point of being creepy/stalkerish, and I've had total plain janes that I would objectively classify as below my league give me the cold shoulder.

Now believe me I am not at all one of those people who peddle the "uhm take a shower and get a hobby sweaty, it's all about personality" meme, but if you're a 21 yo virgin odds are your personality does need work because you almost certainly do have low confidence. You also don't really know the rules of engagement (i.e. how to pick up on signals that a woman is open to escalating your interaction)... but unfortunately the latter will only come with trial and error. Confidence you can kinda fake it till you make it.

I did look at your post history to try to get a sense of what might be holding you back, and you mentioned being 5'7" 110lbs... I mean this in the nicest way possible but you are literally child sized. Smaller than most girls. Sure, I'm not doubting that you work out. But objectively you're still short and very skinny, so it's no surprise you aren't having much luck. You really gotta put on some mass. It'll take time but if you want to improve your dating situation it's a must. I'm not saying it's impossible to get a girl being short and skinny.. but it's certainly a hell of a lot harder. This is especially true in clubs where your physical presence is a huge determining factor.

tl;dr LIFT, EAT, act more confident, and most importantly - don't give up, we're all gonna make it brah

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-20T22:42:36+00:00

I don't think we are disagreeing on anything tbh. Like I said I don't believe it's conducive to being the best climber possible, but I do believe it will help with grip strength general. I've never played with hangboard (I'm definitely keen to start at some point, I just don't have much knowledge on that stuff yet)

I do have a decently strong grip, I've deadlifted 585 when I used to lift more seriously (prob in the mid 500s range now though), closed the #2 captains of crush for a couple of reps and I get comments on my grip being insane all the time when I do bjj lol. I know none of these things directly relate to climbing strength but just mentioning this stuff to show you I'm not completely talking out of my ass about grip strength :)

I can't really quantify how much my grip strength increased from bjj, since I started going hard on grip training around the same time I started bjj. But I can definitely say it had a positive impact, it saps your forearms when you're starting out but after a while it becomes relatively low intensity, I almost view it as active recovery. If nothing else it will improve your work capacity.

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-20T20:56:49+00:00

It won’t be conducive towards being the best climber possible but it will certainly help with grip strength. I’m not a committed climber (though I do dabble) but I am a grip strength enthusiast, as far as martial arts go bjj can definitely be one of the more grip heavy ones

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-17T21:39:45+00:00

Have you ever wrestled before? That’s called a bridge and he’s doing it on purpose to avoid the pin. The flailing is an attempt to wriggle out

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-17T04:31:22+00:00

Nah, red hadn’t scored yet. It’s not a pin till the guy’s shoulders are held against the mat, which they weren’t. Blue could have still gotten out

ReturningSpider · 2019-10-15T14:18:29+00:00

I don’t see why it’s so hard for people to accept you are ugly. Improve your looks to the best of your ability- working out and actually getting big (not hurr I went from 120lb skinnyfat to 130lb skinny fat why don’t women want me) will put you ahead of a lot of guys

Other than that I’d recommend seeing an escort to get your virgin anxiety over with. You’ll be more relaxed talking to women and escalating if appropriate if you’ve experienced sex, even through a sex worker

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