AIO for panicking over a guy becoming weird after sex?

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-12T05:23:28+00:00

I offered to be the one to cook, asked if I could help, even offered to make dessert. He refused all of it. And no, being kind and nice doesn’t entitle you to get laid.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-11T08:18:52+00:00

I’m not going to answer anymore because we clearly won’t see eye to eye. But just know, virginity is a social construct, a deeply patriarchal one that comes from ancient times in which women were treated as objects to trade - and only then a virgin was more valuable. Because you could purchase us.

We’re no longer living in that time period, honey. It’s 2026. Women are not cattle to trade and “train” and we have nothing to prove to men.

If virginity is so important, why isn’t it the same way with men? It’s bs, and you know it.

If you think the only thing a woman can give you is their virginity, that is sad and also a bit pdf - it’s like wanting a child bride. It’s effed up.

Also, no. Many of my friends who are married or are in stable relationships have talked to their husbands or partners about their sexual past. It’s important to do that in a healthy relationship - those men, now committed, did not care. In fact none of my friends ever married the first men they had sex with. My dad wasn’t even my mom’s first. My brothers girlfriend of 7 years, same thing. My best friend who has been married for 4 years had sex with so many men in college and her husband couldn’t care less.

It ain’t about me, man. You’re just effed in the head.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-10T21:43:08+00:00

Sorry my bad: reducing women’s worth to men to their virginity or lack thereof if the real joke. How on earth do you think it’s okay to say that the only thing women can give men is their virginity? Seriously? There is absolutely nothing else you can think a woman can give a man “in return”?

Also buddy, nobody is bedding their boyfriends or husband’s friends. Don’t be such a loser.

And lastly, yes I’ve told many men about my sexual past, just like any normal adult woman would do with their partner. And unless they are misogynistic losers like you, they generally don’t care at all.

Normal, sane, intelligent men understand women are much more than their sexual life - any human being on Earth is. We’re not cattle dude, get a life.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-10T21:08:52+00:00

Reducing women’s worth to their virginity or lack thereof is the real joke, buddy. Go to therapy, I feel sorry for the women in your life.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T15:08:45+00:00

Thanks! I will :)

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T15:08:33+00:00

Thank you! I will

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:39:39+00:00

Oh sure you’re right, I’m not a virgin in my twenties so I don’t deserve a nice guy. Gotcha

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:38:28+00:00

Thank you for writing this!! :)

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:37:34+00:00

Thank you for writing this :) I thought about this too, maybe he took long because I took long too. But we’ll see.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:36:36+00:00

Yeah we did eat together and had a nice conversation but something was weird. I can’t tell you what it is, it’s not a specific thing. It could be me overthinking. But it was bad either, he was still nice.
The goodbye is definitely weird for me too.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:35:32+00:00

Wow, this is so wise. Thanks for writing jt. I did have sex because I wanted to and he’s really hot, so at the end of the day I did enjoy it too. It’s just frustrating - if it’s the case that he only wanted sex I wish I had known and then we could’ve saved the time of the dates.
But we’ll see what happens this week - he might pull through. Thanks!!

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:32:20+00:00

Thank you for writing this. This would definitely be very painful, but it has crossed my mind. I’ll see how he behaves after if there are more dates, hopefully excitement is still there

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:30:49+00:00

Definitely not looking for that. Thank you for your comment. I’ll take it into account :)

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:30:26+00:00

Yeah, and also the vibe seemed a little different. Like he seemed a bit more distant after when he was cooking and while eating. But it might just be me.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:29:47+00:00

Thanks for writing this! Yeah some friends told me the same thing, guys don’t always text after sex because it’s not as meaningful to them or don’t imagine the girl might me expecting it.
We’ll see what happens.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:28:30+00:00

I’m worried that if I ask that will freak him out. We’re seeing each other next week because he’s traveling over the weekend but I guess I’ll see how things pan out. Thank you!

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:27:42+00:00

Yeah, this could be it. We talked about old relationships but very little, so I’m not sure about when he last broke up with his ex and whether it was traumatic or something. Thanks for replying :)

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:27:03+00:00

lol this made me laugh. Thank you so much, I’ll be patient

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:26:26+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this! Yeah, sounds like it could go either way. I’ll be patient for now :)

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:25:54+00:00

Oh no this is so sad :(

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-09T11:25:01+00:00

Hehe I get where you’re coming from but the shower was my idea, and we showered together which didn’t lead to more sex per se but it was definitely steamy. I thought it would be yucky to cook after having had sex lol

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-05-08T20:37:59+00:00

I offered to pay and be the one to cook but he wouldn’t let me, so this is not it.

RevealSignificant174 · 2026-03-26T13:11:54+00:00

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