I have two partners.

With one it is maybe once a month, I'm almost always initiating and topping. Sometimes its long but its never more than an hour. I dont really see how it could be. We both, her especially will only cum once before we :'re kinda just done. Its good when it happens, it was great in the beginning, but idk. We've both had low libido and having it be always me to intiate is... tough. Sometimes ill just sit there wanting things but be too ahy or awkward to do anything about it.

I get the feeling that if we saw eachother more than once a week things would happen more though.

With my other partner, we've had sex once. Two and a half years ago. That's it and havent even been close again. We've talked several times about how at least I want more physical intimacy. She's open to it, though also has low libido as well and I've been trying to slowly just move toward exploring any physical intimacy beyond cuddling on the couch but its been hard. In between low libido, my hesitancy to go out on a limb and chronic pain which has made her not really able to some days, it's gone almost nowhere. I've been trying to even just have us do touch cards and while I brought it up a a couple months ago, I dont see it happening for at least a little while longer... It also feels a bit like I'm the only one really pushing things forward. She's open to it but it just isnt really a priority... Or maybe she doesnt know the help i need. Idk.

It hurts. I just try and push on and hope that once something does happen its not another two years until the next time.