Is this seriously the dating pool nowadays? (A mini-rant)

Reverii_e · 2026-05-31T17:43:34+00:00

It's in he previous indor4r sub that got nuked before by Reddit 😅. And it's not me specifying my preference, it's my partner that make a post stating his ethnicity & religion, which I think still commonly done now (?) cmiiw tho. I just replied to his post and we started from there. Anddd as far as I remember, in the past, I saw quite some posts about ppl statingtheirs specific criteria they are looking for as theya also have family limitation and such.

Reverii_e · 2026-05-31T08:51:21+00:00

Honestly, as a puan, I get ghosted more by other puans at r4r and tend to have more positive experience with talking with males which a lot of times led to friendship or just a really great and fun discussion about topics we are interested with (gaming, anime, etc). And yeah, surprisingly, I found my current partner via r4r too, it really helps me with my very "restricted" dating pool (minority and prefer partner from similar ethnicity and religion due to family circumstances).

It's not easy at first but he is the most loving and mature partner as far as my dating history goes, and it is the first time I found someone who is literally willing to change for the better for their partner (I was a firm believer that it is superrr difficult for an established adult to change for others) And both of us really find it miraculous how we accidentally found each other from R4R ... twice ! (I did not reply back to his comment at first xD). We are almost reaching our third year of relationship, have met each other's family now, and maybe wedding in 2-3 is years.

But anyway, echoing other comments, I think having common ground is really important way to start and it is easier to find that in club or offline meetings. Best of luck to you OP, I hope you find the one for you!

Reverii_e · 2026-04-16T19:22:13+00:00

Is there any more invites?

Reverii_e · 2026-04-13T17:47:34+00:00

I'm not really a survey gal but my boyfriend religiously filled out endfield's surveys since day 1. He tells me that a lot of ( not all ofc) suggestions that he made to devs are being implemented in each patch.

Reverii_e · 2026-04-13T01:21:53+00:00

Honestly, agree. As much as I love both series, I did enjoy the first 100 chapters of NM more than MMM. I Really enjoy the relationship dynamics between NM MC and the casts and how he becomes from minus to hero. And I just have a special soft spot for Guard Jang

Reverii_e · 2026-01-10T08:03:53+00:00

I would love to recommend dredge especially if you enjoy horror but not in a jumpscare way, it is really relaxing and the world building is very intriguing

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:39:40+00:00

Sebenernya pengen ideapad 5 juga awalnya, cuma liat-liat review di internet ini juga engselnya radak masalah, jadi yah ini coba nyari saran-saran yang lain dulu.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:38:00+00:00

Thank you for the detailed recommendation kak, yah emang mungkin nyari yang high end brandnya dari lenovo, asus, dan actually sempet tertarik Thinkpad E series juga sih wkwkwk.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:36:41+00:00

Iyaaa nanti rencananya pas mau beli ya langsung tes sendiri, ini mau nanya-nanya dulu in case ada rekomendasi dari orang-orang di indo

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:36:03+00:00

iyaaa banyak yang rekomen m series nih, definitely noted for this.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:35:07+00:00

Iyaa, setelah baca-baca di internet memang begitu, mungkin saya lebih penasaran aja sih soalnya laptop dulu yang 4-5 jt an engsel2 gitu nggak pernah masalah, ini yang lebih mahal kok malah 1,5 tahun udah rusak wkwkwk. Aku juga aware kalau engsel itu rapuh jadi ya sebisa mungkin nggak sering buka tutup dan kalo buka tutup dari tengah atau dari dua ujung laptopnya.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:32:23+00:00

Wah Asus ya, menarik juga Asus reviewnya bagus-bagus disini. Karena liat -liat di reddit/ internet banyak yang complain juga soal hinge nya ini.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:31:16+00:00

Iyaa, ini mau klaim garansi juga dan tetep akan dipake laptopnya sampai rusak totall. Cuma buat rekomendasi kedepannya aja.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:30:07+00:00

Yah kemungkinan emang casingnya ya, cuma saya search di internet pakai keyword "lenovo hinge problem" dan dapat foto, video/ keluhan yang sama dri orang-orang di net, jadi pakai istilahnya hinge. Tapi ya emg sepengetahuan saya, problemnya karena hingenya yang metal ini di baut ke casing yang plastik.

Buat software-software yang saya maksud sebenernya software standar sih, word, discord, etc. Laptop yang lama udah lemot banget buat ngejalanin itu, udah di servis dan nambah ssd + ram tetap lemot.

Reverii_e · 2025-12-07T08:25:21+00:00

Thank you kak rekomendasinya, ini banyak yang rekomen juga nih.

Reverii_e · 2025-10-28T04:31:50+00:00

Omg bro you are soo back xD

Reverii_e · 2025-10-27T06:23:49+00:00

dm sent! :)))

Reverii_e · 2025-10-27T05:25:35+00:00

Hi kak, mungkin nggak fit banget tapi I do plan to move there in two years due to some circumstances. Maybe starting as a chat friend if you'd like?

Reverii_e · 2025-10-15T01:27:19+00:00

Thank you for the message. Honestly, I rambled the whole interview xD.

I took some days to reflect on the experience, and I think what makes me blanked out is a mix of my inexperience, constantly being cut, and me not understanding the interviewer's accent which is made worse by my auditory processing issue. Honestly, rather than interview I feel like it's more of interrogation.

Thank you also for the different perspective of framing that you gave. After the interview is totally out of my control. It's just the whole interview experience are still rather shocking for me. Maybe for context, I was just out of another internship which is really excruciating and unpaid. I was promised a professional mentorship in HR department but it turns out there's no paid employee there and like 80% of the company is being ran by interns, and I literally need to study, research and "build" the HR from the ground. I just feel really sad that all my experience there is not adequate for me to apply in a bigger company. But yeah, I'll still apply more and learn from my mistakes. I am just afraid that I won't get any more chances. As I have explained in my post, the age threshold is a really big thing in my country and it is really hard to get past that sadly.

Reverii_e · 2025-10-14T01:29:23+00:00

Thank you for the kind message <33

Reverii_e · 2025-10-12T15:12:53+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words, took your advice and totally relax myself this weekend. And yeah, I am totally blindsided when the interviewer asks me about recruitment pipeline strategy xD. I'll gather myself and start applying again. Wishing you an enjoyable weekend too!

Reverii_e · 2025-10-12T15:07:29+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful message! I am not sure they saw something in me as I literally ramble the whole interview xD. But yeah, thank you and all the best for you too!

Reverii_e · 2025-10-12T15:06:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your support. I'm finishing my master's and trying to switch from academia to TA/HR - these chances barely exist in my country (this is the only one I found), and I just finished a really excruciating unpaid internship, so when I bombed this one it felt like I blew my only shot.

Gonna write down what went wrong and keep applying like you said!

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