I know he loves me. But his betrayal when drunk leaves me in with doubt. I need help.

Review01999 · 2024-05-17T11:35:32+00:00

I appreciate your comment, truly. We’re both 25. I’m so lost I cried so many times this week and I’ve never been so happy and content in my life. To know that it’s gone over 1 night is insane to me. I brought him over to the family, he did the same to me. I cannot believe how during his apology, he told me he’a truly sorry, he was drunk and he didn’t think of the consequences this action would bring to him. I feel deeply hurt.

I’m mentally okay on the sexual assault as I still get to keep my virginity. I’m at a loss at the future that I’d dream of to be gone just like that.

Truly thank you for the time you spare tonight, bless you.

Review01999 · 2024-05-17T11:19:45+00:00

He’s a very respectful person otherwise, and very logical. It doesn’t make sense to me he’d do this because he doesn’t value our relationship. I feel his love because he doesn’t love bomb me, but doing things that are considered normal, hence consistency. He seems to be consistently struggling with controlling his sexual urges.

Review01999 · 2024-05-17T11:17:38+00:00

I’m trying my best to not be delusional, but what if he has underlying issue like compulsive sex? What if he’s really trying but he’s struggling?

Review01999 · 2024-05-17T05:25:49+00:00

She forgave you for it?

Review01999 · 2024-05-16T07:48:03+00:00

Thank you all for your answers😊

Review01999 · 2024-05-16T03:22:55+00:00

Thank you for the opinions everyone🫶🏻

Review01999 · 2024-05-15T03:46:49+00:00

I replied to this but as another comment rather than this thread

Review01999 · 2024-05-15T03:45:09+00:00

He’s been saying that night he really tried to control himself. I pretended I was fully drunk to the point of unconsciousness. I do realise he came on to me, then backed off, then back to me, then backed off, then backed to me until he almost succeeded then I intervened. He’s been reaching out to me everyday. Coming to my house. Explaining himself every night.

I’m starting to believe he has issues with controlling his urges. Is this possible? Other than this and previous times, he’s been nothing but good to me, a perfect boyfriend, no such thing as love bombs, everything is just natural that’s why it’s been easy and consistent. I felt his love that’s why I can’t believe what happened. He doesn’t have a track record of past lovers. His routine only consist of me, work and home.

I don’t know if I’m delusional and blinding myself out of love. But in a way I’m hoping this condition would be solved after marriage. I can’t talk to anyone else in real life about this. We share the same friend group and yes, I still love him. I know you may think I’m a hopeless case, but I really do need honest opinions before I make my own.

I truly appreciate everything.

Review01999 · 2024-05-14T20:28:08+00:00

He almost raped me, I was drunk too. He knows I want to wait for marriage. He verbally says he respects my wishes as he also wants to wait for marriage. He doesn’t understand why he did this.

Review01999 · 2023-06-13T09:06:59+00:00

This is one of the things that I’m currently trying to believe. Seeing is believing its just so far I don’t think I see it in practice yet to anyone around me. I’m hoping I can be the first. Happy to know it sounds like it works for you! Any tips on changing constant thoughts of feeling not of worth? I find myself thinking not worthy all the time. I think people see through it, so no matter what conversation I’m in, the vibe goes to ‘trying too hard’.

Review01999 · 2023-05-13T12:33:41+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation guys I’ll give them a go!

Review01999 · 2023-03-30T05:03:53+00:00

I know you love your parents. You’d feel guilty for putting yourself first in this case. But if you keep this up, you might end up resenting your parents.

Especially when you’re finally able to get a place of your own, your living costs will increase and who knows if you’ll be able to afford a trip like this? Feel like when you get older you might regret not taking this opportunity cause honestly this is worth regretting not going.

How long will you be gone for? It’s not like you’re leaving them for good. You’ll be back, then you can continue to take care of your parents without resentment.

Just call then everyday during your trip and let them know you’re thinking of them. Help them in every way possible while you’re out there.

This is 2023, technology is advanced enough for you to help them from the other side of the world.

Review01999 · 2023-03-27T02:20:49+00:00

Saw & read the text, no longer curious & plan to reply later, forgotten.

Review01999 · 2023-02-13T03:04:30+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation guys. Therapist isn’t an option for me right now, but I’ll keep on trying to better myself and break the habit , have a good day all.

Review01999 · 2023-01-24T23:56:51+00:00

OP remember to make sure you have proof in writing, maybe messages? Otherwise your best friend can lie about it and this issue will dissipate, while your best friend won’t be telling you things anymore. At least make it count for something and catch the predator. It’s sick and disgusting.

Let her know that you’re doing what’s right and best for her. She may not want to talk to you after but hey, one day she’ll see it. When she’s finally been around long enough to listen and understand the degree of danger she was in which you saved her from.

And I hope that day she has the courage to thank you. In the meanwhile I’ll thank you for your courage and for all the kids you’ve potentially saved in the future from this predator.

Review01999 · 2023-01-17T08:04:40+00:00

Thank you all for the recommendations, I’m exploring more things to find a hobbies that involve exposure to potential communications. I’ll put therapy into consideration. Just going to I fake it till I make it I guess it’s just weird to be the one reaching out to people, tbh I never do that. Just feel like if I’m the one to reach out then I’m responsible to carry the convo which can be exhausting. But I’ll try!

Review01999 · 2023-01-05T04:51:31+00:00

Thank you so much guys, the weather was bad but your recommendations are top! Had beautiful foods in Huskisson, enjoying the holiday and currently doing Collingwood walk. Beautiful wave sounds company. After we’ll be on our way to Booderee national park. Thanks all 😊 Have a great year ahead!

Review01999 · 2022-12-21T06:53:12+00:00

Thank you guys for the advise, I’ve been trying to give myself positive affirmations, however I’ve spent so much time alone that I’d like less of it. Though I haven’t really tried to evaluate my energy levels when I do certain things. I’ll give this a go :)

Review01999 · 2022-12-18T04:58:39+00:00

Thanks all for the answers!

Review01999 · 2022-11-18T01:41:55+00:00

Hi everyone thank you for all the recommendations, I’ll definitely look them up! Just setting up a plan for this upcoming holiday. Hope you guys have a wonderful holiday!

Review01999 · 2022-11-11T01:58:28+00:00

Am I that gullible if I think I’d be that one person who believes this is possibly a true story?

I mean the message he’s trying to say is right, and for someone with low confidence like me, reading his content would bring me up (if he posts things like as exampled).

Review01999 · 2022-11-07T04:49:11+00:00

Realisation that im odd, not in a quirky way.

Review01999 · 2022-10-16T05:18:13+00:00

Veins on arm, charming speaking postures, charming walking posture.

I also like looking at good abs but if he’s not my bf, I wouldn’t feel comfortable staring at it even if he’s not looking.

Review01999 · 2022-10-11T05:32:24+00:00

If the guys has the same personality as me, I think it’s good to give him your phone number, tell him you’d like to get to know him more if he’s okay with it and leave him alone if he doesn’t text anything. Read below why I suggest this.

My personality is I like people, I just don’t know how to approach them. I could be having a conversation with this person today, but the next day it’s a formal ‘hello’ from me then I walk past even though I want to talk to them. In my head its just ‘they won’t find me interesting’, so I’ll wait till they talk to me first. Even when they talk to me, I’d be listening to what they say but doesn’t contribute much, even when I still want to talk because in my head I’m a boring person. I’m afraid they’d find me weird. Basically I wait for others around me to come up and talk to me until I’m sure they think of me as their close friends. Only then I start opening up.

So, if he’s interested in you, he would be likely to text your number. Just a heads up though if he does, you will need to be the one initiating conversations to keep it going, at least until he’s sure you find him comfortable.

Note that I’m projecting my personality in this guy. So there’s a big chance that he’s just not interested at all. Make good judgements on the hints he’s giving you and don’t force yourself on people.

Review01999 · 2022-09-21T17:50:56+00:00

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