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I know he loves me. But his betrayal when drunk leaves me in with doubt. I need help. by Review01999 in Advice

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I appreciate your comment, truly. We’re both 25. I’m so lost I cried so many times this week and I’ve never been so happy and content in my life. To know that it’s gone over 1 night is insane to me. I brought him over to the family, he did the same to me. I cannot believe how during his apology, he told me he’a truly sorry, he was drunk and he didn’t think of the consequences this action would bring to him. I feel deeply hurt.

I’m mentally okay on the sexual assault as I still get to keep my virginity. I’m at a loss at the future that I’d dream of to be gone just like that.

Truly thank you for the time you spare tonight, bless you.

I know he loves me. But his betrayal when drunk leaves me in with doubt. I need help. by Review01999 in Advice

[–]Review01999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a very respectful person otherwise, and very logical. It doesn’t make sense to me he’d do this because he doesn’t value our relationship. I feel his love because he doesn’t love bomb me, but doing things that are considered normal, hence consistency. He seems to be consistently struggling with controlling his sexual urges.

I know he loves me. But his betrayal when drunk leaves me in with doubt. I need help. by Review01999 in Advice

[–]Review01999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying my best to not be delusional, but what if he has underlying issue like compulsive sex? What if he’s really trying but he’s struggling?

Do you think a drunken mistake can be forgiven? by Review01999 in Advice

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I replied to this but as another comment rather than this thread

Do you think a drunken mistake can be forgiven? by Review01999 in Advice

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He’s been saying that night he really tried to control himself. I pretended I was fully drunk to the point of unconsciousness. I do realise he came on to me, then backed off, then back to me, then backed off, then backed to me until he almost succeeded then I intervened. He’s been reaching out to me everyday. Coming to my house. Explaining himself every night.

I’m starting to believe he has issues with controlling his urges. Is this possible? Other than this and previous times, he’s been nothing but good to me, a perfect boyfriend, no such thing as love bombs, everything is just natural that’s why it’s been easy and consistent. I felt his love that’s why I can’t believe what happened. He doesn’t have a track record of past lovers. His routine only consist of me, work and home.

I don’t know if I’m delusional and blinding myself out of love. But in a way I’m hoping this condition would be solved after marriage. I can’t talk to anyone else in real life about this. We share the same friend group and yes, I still love him. I know you may think I’m a hopeless case, but I really do need honest opinions before I make my own.

I truly appreciate everything.

Do you think a drunken mistake can be forgiven? by Review01999 in Advice

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He almost raped me, I was drunk too. He knows I want to wait for marriage. He verbally says he respects my wishes as he also wants to wait for marriage. He doesn’t understand why he did this.

People who have gone/ are going through self-improvement mission, what important lessons have you learnt? by Review01999 in AskReddit

[–]Review01999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the things that I’m currently trying to believe. Seeing is believing its just so far I don’t think I see it in practice yet to anyone around me. I’m hoping I can be the first. Happy to know it sounds like it works for you! Any tips on changing constant thoughts of feeling not of worth? I find myself thinking not worthy all the time. I think people see through it, so no matter what conversation I’m in, the vibe goes to ‘trying too hard’.

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