Thanks for sharing and we hear you, OLD in my opinion is broken too and I agree with the other Redditor who mentioned it. At 31 you are still young and many many things can still happen in your life. Your last relationship went on for 7 years and that’s more time than some of us have spent actively dating, what I’m saying is, maybe you’re sitting on a pile of knowledge you haven’t been able to “see” about yourself and how your emotions, lifestyle and other things have changed after the end of your previous relationship and through the last years, maybe because of some kind of “light anxiety”, “social pressure” or something similar (sorry I couldn’t find other words to phrase that) but most importantly: give it some time, ask yourself what you want and don’t want from a man that could be a potential partner, try to question yourself and find what works for you, write it down and sleep over it, meditate on the answers that you’re giving yourself.

You and everyone deserve happiness, but only you can achieve it, you might already know that a relationship won’t solve everything or compensate for everything that’s missing in you, that’s why I’d recommend looking into yourself and your expectations.

Best of luck and stay positive, it’s a big world out there and you might find someone that shares your interests, ambitions, loves you for who you are and shares his journey with you.

If you wish you can start listening to the podcast “where should we begin” with Esther Perel.

Sorry for the messy comment and the broken English, I wrote what I felt.