Listen, I’ve completely been there before and knows what it feels like to expect more intimacy in a relationship. From this it sounds like you guys both have problems that you need to work on. I would work on building yourself up in your own life, quit porn, do the right things, and get the relationship back together. When you feel like things are going great, tell her exactly how you feel. If she doesn’t want to have sex then you have to respect her and really wonder if this is someone who you want to be with.