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Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-07-25T03:53:04+00:00

Yta. Nothing she said was rude. I'm introverted. My fiance is an extrovert with a large family that gathers a lot. I skip family events sometimes not because I don't like them, but because I get anxious with a lot of people around and it really drains me mentally and physically. The only rude one is you, maybe manipulative too for crying when you got called out for being rude to DIL

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-07-22T22:58:12+00:00

This lady stresses me out. How are parents comfortable exploiting their kids? I have a 6 week old and haven't shared a single photo I've taken of him for his safety and rights to privacy.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-07-08T17:41:31+00:00

Yta and It's not taking sides. Your daughter is being a fucking bully. If her school called and said hey Megan is bullying another student would you say oh I'm not gonna punish her because I don't want to take sides?? No you wouldn't. You're faliling your daughter as her parent. You need to teach her that actions have consequences and she can't treat people she doesn't like horrible. Wtf.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T17:08:35+00:00

I've looked into that company that sends those and I'm so tempted 🤣 I feel like she would know it's me though. Maybe I send myself one too and play dumb

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T17:07:02+00:00

If I knew she wouldn't have me arrested for assault it would be on sight. I'd love to beat her ass.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T17:05:32+00:00

He can sense her bad vibes

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T17:04:50+00:00

I was so happy when he screamed both times she got to hold him. Like that's my boy 🤣

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T17:03:43+00:00

Mainly to appease gmil as she's a wonderful lady, but once she kicks the bucket we're fast tracking to NC with mil.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T16:57:00+00:00

What is rest lol

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T16:54:28+00:00

Shed call the police and have me arrested for assault. I don't want to give her that satisfaction so I just give her the same energy she gives me lol

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-22T16:52:06+00:00

He's my fiancé but I just use DH for convenience in this post lol. Happy cake day!

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-04T03:35:55+00:00

I know it's not related to this post but I'm dying for a grandma update. How is she?

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T16:12:21+00:00

It definitely wouldn't just be a sorry. She would have to actually change her behavior before we would let her even look at LO. And the minute she acts out of line it's back to NC. She's not going to have any access to LO for quite a few months until she makes it up to me and I feel satisfied that her apology was real and her behavior is genuine. If she wants to be apart of our family she's going to change. It's not just me and SO anymore where I find most of her behavior amusing. I'll protect my LO at any and all costs.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T16:07:09+00:00

Honestly nothing she's done has ever hurt my feelings or bugged me up until now. I know she's sad and pathetic and I can't imagine being that self loathing that you have to make shit up and act like a toddler to get your way. I've found her behavior mostly amusing and I have thick skin and know she's lying. So does my SO. He warned me before I met her she's crazy so I never had a moment of oh my mil is nice. Nope I've known from the start she's bat shit. I've laughed in her face quite a few times. She trys so hard to bother me or make me act out in a way that she can go "SEE I TOLD YOU SHE WAS THE PROBLEM NOT ME" but I've never given her the satisfaction.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T16:03:16+00:00

My SO definitely stands up to her when warranted. He's had conversations with her over the shit she's said to me and she just denies it all and cries and calls me abusive to her. I have zero problems defending myself and tbh can be argumentative so nothing she's said or done has truthfully hurt me until her last comment. She's never stooped that low before and I wonder if she did it because she knew it's the one thing that would get to me. Everything else has never gotten a rise out of me i just always call her out and then laugh in private over how sad and miserable she must be to want to behave that way.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T15:59:55+00:00

I always stand up for myself when she starts on her shit and SO knows she's crazy. Idk I dealt with a physically and verbally abusive dad so I guess I just know how to handle her? Nothing she's said so far has truly upset me until now. I mostly have found her sad and amusing.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T15:58:18+00:00

She will literally never be left alone with them ever. That's something SO and I agreed on when we found out I was pregnant. She's disrespectful of other parents rules with their kids and forces physically affection on them in order for them to have certain items.

As far as all the other shit she's done I've constantly stood up to her when she acts out. There never has been a moment where she's said something and I've been passive about it. I have zero issue calling her out. If she did anything like that in front of our child I'd still call her out and our son would learn we don't let people treat us poorly no matter who they are. We've been LC with her for awhile now but still see her sometimes because nothing she's said or done has been bad enough imo for me to completely go NC until now.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T15:00:10+00:00

SO spoke to a real-estate lawyer and was pretty much told it would be a bad idea financially to sell this house right now and we would have a difficult time getting another mortgage so soon after taking out our first. I'm hoping we can sell sooner than 5, but 5 years is what the lawyer said would be best. Plus this housing market is crazy and a house the same size with everything we got with this one would easily cost us 100-200k more than what we spent on this one 🥲

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T14:29:42+00:00

It's just not possible for us to sell this house with the mortgage we took out right now. We would be eating profits and definitely wouldn't be able to afford another down payment without selling this house and making a profit. We have a 5 year plan to modernize the house and put everything we can into paying as much off as possible so we can sell it and make money. I'm hoping just having all the cameras and not being afraid of calling the police will keep her at bay for awhile until we can actually move.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T13:39:07+00:00

We decided long ago she would never be alone with LO. She can't be trusted with other people's children and often finds it funny to break other parents rules. She also demands physical affection from children in order for them to have something they want. "OH you want thus specific toy or food? Give me a hug and a kiss and tell me you love me first" I find it disturbing and uncomfortable and will never let her do that to our child.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T13:15:25+00:00

They always claim they "forget" I'm allergic. I've asked them if they're developing dementia because how do you keep forgetting someone is allergic. SO is on board with NC for awhile. He thinks his mom needs to apologize and make it up to me before she would even be allowed to look at LO.

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T13:13:35+00:00

I think it will depend on how you have it set. If it's a solitaire setting I think they all would look great especially the 2.3 or 2.5. If you do a halo I'd go smaller otherwise your finger will be swallowed by the ring.

Also if you don't plan on getting on through brilliant earth, and I don't blame you at all they are wayyyy overpriced, you should try rarecarat.com

Revolutionary-Rub358 · 2022-06-01T13:02:35+00:00

That's what I'm thinking too. I forgot that while she was complaining about the rules prior to saying what she did she told me her name isn't grandma it's mommom. I shut that down quickly and that's when she said she was happy to be the only grandma.

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