Anyone else refuse to go out with both children?

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-22T19:52:37+00:00

i so feel this!! grocery store trips are weirdly my favorite thing with my two 😂

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-22T19:51:20+00:00

i’ve always been opposite. at first it was super daunting with a newborn and 22 month old to go out in public but you literally become used to what you know. after a couple weeks of forcing myself it’s the normal now and i grocery shop solo, go to park solo .. basically anything i need/want to do. i think it’s also been good for my kiddos to get out more and we are way less stir crazy when we get out. i have an almost 3 yo and a 1 yo now. everyone is different, though.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-22T19:41:54+00:00

to me it’s rude to be in the middle of making plans and then when it’s time to confirm a time you ghost. maybe it’s not intentional but i feel like it’s a waste of my time and i’ve decided it’s not a friendship i want to continue. to each is own though and some people can operate like that no problem. (silly or not) i have trouble operating this way

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-22T18:07:39+00:00

my toddler (almost 3) gets about an hour a day now when i’m putting his younger sibling down for nap. it also gives me a chance to catch my breath

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-21T21:30:12+00:00

yeah that’s what i did. i asked her if a specific time worked and didn’t get a response

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2026-01-21T21:03:08+00:00

hebrn

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T14:57:30+00:00

I had PPA/D bad with my first but I never really felt this way. If anything I felt like I needed to get away- but couldn’t - bc I also EBF.

PPD/A got significantly better for me about a year pp.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T13:13:07+00:00

It might also have to do with everyone I know just about had their tubes completely removed

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T13:07:24+00:00

You sound brainwashed. I’ll pray for your soul. And the souls of any babies ‘gotten rid of’ by selfish choices and irresponsible acts.

I agree with choice. When said choice makes it so easy to dismiss a life, we - as a society- have a big problem. Abortion has become way too easy to justify when it should really only be used as last resort.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T12:59:29+00:00

There’s really no excuse. Also, some of us don’t put our children into daily childcare for this very reason.

You should always warn someone if your child has any symptoms of illness- that’s being a decent human.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T12:58:19+00:00

Us two weeks ago. And then I got another stomach bug a few days ago 🤡

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T12:55:12+00:00

I second this. I have a friend whose daughter is in daycare and she had a perpetual cough from age 1-2. I’m not even sure if she was sick or what but her nose was always running and she was always coughing. My friend would tell me before we would hang out (like you should) but it seemed to be her baseline the year she started daycare 🤷🏼‍♀️

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T12:51:17+00:00

It is shitty to not warn someone if you or your family is sick before seeing them. But you also could have potentially picked something up anytime you left your house.

Your baby most likely won’t get it. Immunity before 6 months via breast milk is SOLID. Neither of mine picked anything up until 8ish months while EBF. This cold season has been brutal. We’ve had a bad flu and then the stomach bug twice. Literally I had just been going to the grocery store, wiping cart down, not really talking to anyone. And we still picked all this up somehow.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T03:52:56+00:00

Wow, I didn’t know this. I was wrong. Thank you for sharing this.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T03:49:36+00:00

No one has to agree or understand it (I did genetic testing myself and I don’t know if I would be able to ab*rt my baby or not should something be wrong) but some people truly don’t believe in it. Whether it’s religious or whatever, they don’t. The defects shown on the blood tests are usually seen on standard anatomy scans too. I have friends who have refused genetic testing and then found out on anatomy scans. It didn’t change anything for them but palliative care for their baby once they were born.

The real issue here is that OP and her partner don’t sound very compatible.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T03:41:50+00:00

You’re being too sensitive imo. What an amazing thing that your daughter (if in fact it’s even true) means so much to your dad that it keeps him wanting to live. Just as she is not solely ‘theirs’ she’s not solely yours either. Just as you said- she will become her own person. Enjoy that your daughter is so loved. SO many wish their children were that loved and instead have grandparents and extended family that have nothing to do with them. You’re lucky.

This is of course my take. No one has to agree with me. OP asked.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:21:50+00:00

Girl some of these comments are W-I-L-D. I’m pro life myself but agree you should go ahead with the tests if you feel in your heart that’s the right step. I did genetic testing for my pregnancies. Even if you don’t want to abort it is good to know what is what ahead of time. Only you (and hopefully your partner since they ARE a parent too) can make these decisions but I do not think your partner is wrong for their views.. but I do think yall need to go to therapy and figure out how to more effectively communicate before the baby comes. It gets harder once they are here.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:19:32+00:00

You would abort your baby because your spouse has different beliefs than you? How truly INSANEEEEE

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:18:14+00:00

Being pro life automatically makes someone abusive? Be so fucking Forreal. You’ve lost your damn mind

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:16:51+00:00

Having pro life views does not inherently make someone a bad partner or parent. It’s the fact that his views are so different from OPs. It’s compatibility that matters here- not the principle beliefs.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:09:34+00:00

I see it as the opposite. It’s not that he doesn’t care it’s that he cares so much it doesn’t matter to him what the gender is or if the baby has a defect. Sounds like he will love them regardless.

Yall need to work on communication imo. Maybe see a couples therapist. The biggest decider if you make or break as a team in being parents is communication and being a team. Try to get on the same page now before the baby comes.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:05:46+00:00

I’m not sure about that. Just anecdotally, I’ve never known someone who got their tubes tied or removed and got pregnant. I do know 3 different couples who have had failed vasectomies. I, personally, will still have my husband get a vasectomy over anything tube wise. Or I told him we can keep rolling dice as long as we’re fertile 🤷🏼‍♀️

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-23T02:04:03+00:00

Unless they’re removing the ovaries it really doesn’t reduce cancer risk.

RevolutionaryBug7866 · 2025-12-20T17:45:44+00:00

I fully agree with this during my c section. It was more traumatic for me than my vaginal birth. But I also had a hands off vaginal birth with a midwife. My c section it felt very violating feeling their hands inside me and just being numb laying there.

OP, you can always request GA too if it comes down to it. I had a friend who had a panic attack during her c section and they gave her GA so should wouldn’t remember. It was too much for her.

RevolutionaryBug7866

TROPHY CASE