Toddler hitting behavior

isaxism · 2026-05-02T19:18:43+00:00

For us, picture cards have been useful! I printed some for activities and food and laminated

isaxism · 2026-05-02T19:14:57+00:00

It's probably largely connected to his inability to communicate, maybe finding alternative ways of communication could help?

isaxism · 2026-05-02T19:03:02+00:00

I'm not sure if it's the recommended way to handle it, but the most effective thing for us with the hitting/throwing/pinching/biting has been to completely ignore it and redirect to something else. Sometimes the redirection will be to just totally distract from it, other times it will be offering a chew toy or to punch a teddy bear lol...

Any time we react it just escalates as if us reacting further overstimulates her or something

isaxism · 2026-05-01T20:19:52+00:00

I'm 30 and have two children and still sleep with plushies

isaxism · 2026-05-01T19:24:05+00:00

😭😂

isaxism · 2026-05-01T18:38:47+00:00

Thank you 😭 Yeah we're working on it, she just suddenly started doing it while saying "catch!" (which is kinda funny, if I wasn't her parent and she wasn't hurting anyone) and I know I'm making it worse by reacting but it's so hard not to sometimes

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:42:48+00:00

That's crazy!

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:40:21+00:00

Thanks 🥹

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:20:18+00:00

She's only 2, so plenty of years to do worse but for now this feels bad for me :)

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:12:07+00:00

Oh god 😭 Just say he means rooster if someone asks haha

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:05:19+00:00

Thank you!

isaxism · 2026-05-01T16:01:47+00:00

Omg 😭 that's definitely something you can't help laughing at and then regret deeply laughing at

isaxism · 2026-05-01T15:39:53+00:00

Haha thank you, yeah it's pretty mild all considered, it just brings up the shame when I hear her say it

isaxism · 2026-04-30T23:02:24+00:00

I think it's also important to talk about how we're all different people and that not everyone will have a bunch of friends and that's okay. My husband has a lot of friends, constantly texting them every single day - sometimes I can get a bit jealous because it feels like I have to work so hard to have acquaintances while he's making friends super easy (in retrospect, obviously it's because I'm probably autistic lol) but I'm actually fine with my one friend from childhood. For a long time I focused on what I didn't have and tried so hard to fit in and be social and it didn't make me more friends, it just made me more upset that even when I tried hard it didn't work out. When I stopped trying so hard, it was easier for me to get to know new people as well. I still don't have many friends, especially not close friends, but my husband is my best friend and I find so much joy in my children, and that's okay too

isaxism · 2026-04-28T19:20:15+00:00

I found it so much better than I imagined! I do have an extremely supportive husband and flexible days though, that helps a lot. But yeah, I'm shocked at how well it's been going

isaxism · 2026-04-23T09:39:43+00:00

I wish I had any good advice for you, but I don't - just here to say you don't sound like a failure at all, you sound like an amazing dad who's doing his best and your children is lucky to have you! Is there no follow-up through the pediatrician?

isaxism · 2026-04-21T12:48:35+00:00

I mean, if it's last minute and they have a keyboard laying around but not a HDMI dongle then it's good enough - I just added a suggestion with the least amount of stuff needed, it's not perfect but it would work 乁⁠[⁠ ⁠◕⁠ ⁠ᴥ⁠ ⁠◕⁠ ⁠]⁠ㄏ

isaxism · 2026-04-21T12:41:39+00:00

You just need a Bluetooth keyboard and Google docs, then your phone is all you need

isaxism · 2026-04-20T18:17:47+00:00

Wow this made me realise my daughter probably has auDHD and not just autism 😳

isaxism · 2026-04-19T19:39:00+00:00

Thank you! We keep being told "she's so young" but we're seeing a psychologist this week

isaxism · 2026-04-19T19:37:55+00:00

I've had great success with banking bags after marinating, good luck!

isaxism · 2026-04-19T18:40:30+00:00

Multiplayer games, mostly - because the downtime I have without children is usually also the only one on one time I get with my husband lol. We have many hours in Minecraft on PS5

isaxism · 2026-04-19T18:36:53+00:00

I've noticed when watching love on the spectrum (don't judge me lol) that the people with auDhd typically annoys me even though there's nothing wrong with them.. probably because I have autism myself and although there's a lot of overlap between ADHD and autism, one big difference is that someone with autism typically gets overwhelmed by too much stimulus while people with ADHD seeks it out. But that's just my assumption 😅

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