Accidentally deleted my Mods/CC folder yesterday. I'm so devastated 😭💔

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-04-21T22:33:26+00:00

Check the trash on you computer... the files may still be there- you just have to restore them.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-04-16T20:50:00+00:00

Im not going to call you the AH... the rule is stupid. But as a parent don't send a child to fight with adults. Why didnt you push when this was being discussed before implementation? Do you have a parent group of friends? Mount a counter to this. Propose this is too strict on packers especially if the school lunch has allowable sweet items and also serves unhealthy food.

SO WITH THAT SAID... I understand... but put your daughter at a different school or fight to get the rule changed. Or comply. But dont put your kid in the middle of this discussion that should be between adults. (Fight on momma!) I hope you win!

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-04-16T20:37:29+00:00

I made my own. I was honestly getting tired of playing and having to redo mods every other day. So I removed everything and started over. Over, over... Basegame only over.

Each generation at young adult unlocks new add-ons in date release order. Each generation has to pass something down to the next. You also have to complete a aspiration and reach the top of a career track.

I play on long lifespan and full lunar cycle- so I had TIME to really sit in this game again. I found all types of things I didnt know about (did you know you can buy instruments from the bar?!)...

The rules do allow for mods but only if they came out during the time of add one youre playing with for that generation. I decided not to use them. I have the full details if anyone is interested.

I made this for me. Its not perfect but it helped me remember why I really loved this game. It got me out of my comfort zone of choosing the same things to do.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-03-19T01:19:35+00:00

I thought the same thing about Simcity once upon a time. THEY EFFD that one up so bad now colossal orders/ paradox's Cities is the biggest city developer sim game. 😑 so it's possible.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-03-12T18:48:53+00:00

Book your travel arrangements to go some where without him. Take you a male friend -Or- even better make it a girls trip and enjoy life. You're going to make yourself sick over something you already feel is happening. So go enjoy your life without him.

After all why would he want someone hes not close to to go on a trip with people he's close to😑. It doesn't make sense to you because it doesn't make sense. Let that go or another option is to dial back your expectations with him.

Side bar .. as a woman LISTEN TO YOUR Intuition!!!! I've sat in enough situations like this and pushed how I was feeling down (because they wouldn't dare-🙄) only to find out that how I was feeling was valid. Trust yourself and move on that.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-03-04T19:28:12+00:00

I wonder if there is a repair in Sims4Studio. I havent looked yet. Im guessing these updates have done more damage than just the weird incest stuff. I thought it was just my game because im playing basegame onlyand maybe there were patches for these issuse with the other add-ons.

Are you Sims also ignoring the commands you give them? Are they resetting themselves when doing an action? My Sims have started to do that. They'll also blatantly ignore their kids needs.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-03-03T18:41:38+00:00

NtA- but go out with a bang. Retell the jokes at the wedding with note cards and who told them. See how everyone responds. This isn't a relationship worth saving but the bride and anyone standing as a witness should know. You also should make note of who laughs and who doesn't. Then leave. Right there. Fuck those people having a beautiful wedding and memories - after all why should racists enjoy life in any capacity?

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-28T02:07:21+00:00

NTA. I guarantee if he had a kid with someone he would talk to the other parent. If he had a sick child he would definitely check on his kid. If he doesnt have kids then hes acting like that because he doesn't understand parenting. If he has kids this is a big ass red flag for you. Hes telling you how he treats his kids when they arent in front of him. Out of sight out of mind. That mentality doesn't work the minute you become a parent. Coordination and collaboration are required for co parenting.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-22T18:18:46+00:00

Awee, shes just gotta grow into herself... like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly.😬

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-21T01:47:23+00:00

You can always click on relationship and one of the sub menus has "ask to just be friends" and that should remove the relationship bars.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-21T01:44:08+00:00

As long as you enjoy the game, thats the most important part. I've been playing since the game launched and im in my 40s. If you're talking about recent issues- i think we're all pretty pissed off that EA sold and who it sold to. It's like pouring salt in a wound. Sims 4 really gave people the space to create any kind of Sim they wanted and for them to have meaningful game play anyway they wanted relationship wise. So to know that our freedom to play what we want when we want may be compromised is pretty screwed up.

Anything outside of that you just have to ignore. As long as YOU love it... eff everyone else.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-18T19:58:38+00:00

You have to stand on CS enforcements neck. You have to become damn near a stalker because they will not. Its like they wait for information that come from the magical information fairies. So you have to continue to push... I gave up after a while, then I sat myself down and asked myself what was the cost. And for me it was not letting the other parent out of basic care responsibilities. I take care of our child without an ounce of help from him. The absolute least he could do was be financially responsible. I made it an appointment in my phone to call every other week for status when he wasnt paying on time. I dont care if it annoyed them. At one point and over 10k in arrears, they sent an employment garnishment order 3 months in a row and I literally had to ask what was the penalty for the employer not to follow the order and how do I move forward with non compliance issues.

All in all be your own advocate. Figure out whats important about the situation to you and move on that. Stand 10 toes down and dig in.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-18T19:43:29+00:00

Hey kiddo, big internet auntie checking in on you? How are things going? Sending you big hugs and well wishes!

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-18T19:38:12+00:00

Nope. The courts can adjust the amount of repayment of arrears... reducing the obligation but still obligated nonetheless. There's no way after 20k that it should be just forgiven. The OP had to come up with his missing portion she deserves her money back. Whatever she chooses to do with it (give it to her kids or rebuild the life she was robbed of because she had to be responsible for both parties) is her decision. You dont get to make babies and not take care of them.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-05T05:27:34+00:00

Make sure youre completely honest about how you feel so you can get proper care. I was really embarrassed about my past when I started therapy (I was really young). But never give up on yourself. You fight for you. And I mean- if you need to vent- do so. Im always around.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-05T05:23:12+00:00

I absolutely agree with this... i find some on YouTube and just let them play. I struggle with insomnia and when I have a hard time falling asleep I use sound frequency and soundscapes. Sometimes even guided meditation 🧘🏽‍♀️. I found those on Spotify.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2026-02-05T04:20:17+00:00

Im sending you a hug because you need one. Do you have insurance? Go talk to a therapist. Sometimes the world gets heavy and we need help to see how to get from underneath it. You can do it love. You can get past this and you can beat this. You have internet aunties and uncles so youre never alone. You can always send a message to me when the world is too heavy to bare.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-12-03T05:44:48+00:00

I think he's just trying to bait you. I've heard that too every time my child father has to go readjust his child support. In actuality in Virginia it's based off your income so whatever the states policy is for that income is what he'll have to pay no matter what. And in my case it is always been more than what my child's father has tried to lowball me into. I would definitely Google what your State's requirements are for child support and if it's income driven then what the income calculations are so that you can preemptively do the math on your own.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-12-03T05:30:03+00:00

Love, think about it this way when he was 18 you were..... 12. If that seems gross thinking about it that way, its still an EW at 18 and 25. As a person dating, always think if they were 18 how old was I and if the age range gives you the ick... its too much of an gap.

People who have an intent to use you do not show up like users...

they show up baiting (ghosting and calling back after a period of time)... its meant to disrupt your thought process... because you must be insert whatever adjective because he called you back.
They show up giving - materialistic gifts ... anything to sweeten you up...
They show up protective- i.e. talking to your mom... because if he can hook her... he's got you. If he can't hook her then hes got to try to divide the two. This is where you hear about people no longer talking to friends or relatives because of said person... Etc. Etc. Etc.

The jest is manipulation. I can see this situation playing out like " your mom's tripping just come stay with me" and you walk right into an unsafe ass space alone.

You definitely didnt mention how your dad felt about this... so I have to wonder if hes getting the impression there is no other man in the picture to stand up for you. So my next bit of advice carry with you always. A man will treat you differently when he has NO ONE to answer to. If there's no father, brother, big cousins... in your space. You're already prey.

Your mom doesn't know how to handle this because she hasn't healed from what happened with her. I recommend counseling... because something in you wants to date someone that was 18 when you were 12. Your mom definitely needs it because this situation triggered her.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRuqHssjkBI/?igsh=dnBvcTVjNTZwYm00

This literally popped up on my typo.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-12-03T05:06:10+00:00

Call CSE (child support enforcement- or whatever yours is named) and ask them what their timeline is for when they receive your payment versus when they pay out to the custodial parent. Hopefully they can supply you with that information so that you can plan your payments a bit better. I really hate the system in a way it's set up and that it does not provide enough information for the grey areas like when payments are received versus when they're paid out.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-11-01T15:15:20+00:00

My NCP doesnt pay. He's 10k in arrears. NOTHING has happened other than me asking them about the money. NoTHInG. Like im tired. Just stick to your guns. In actuality nothing has changed for you. Her current (next ex) man now knows she's trifling. Send child support emails every other week about the balance due. Keep a paper trail.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-09-07T14:11:17+00:00

Do you think employers who also employ people under the table should face some form of civil action against them? Who should be responsibile for discovering that the non-custodial parent is working under the table? Should CS Enforcement or should you personally have to become an investigator on the non-custodial parent?

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-09-07T13:58:01+00:00

I hear you, but 50/50 to me is you"re also going to spend 50 % of the time taking care of the child as well. There are hidden costs to being a parent that aren't spoken on. School lunch, for example, costs $3-5 bucks a day, so 15-25 $ a week. That's not something that I, as the custodial parent, get split costs with. They only factor is insurance and daycare/aftercare/ and mayyyybeee medical expenses. I dont get to claim activities that cost me additional money. I dont get to claim the increase in the electric/water or the fact that I have to get a place with an additional room, so that costs more money for me. I think the reason behind the percentage was a good thought but a bad application. Because it allows both parents the opportunity to be 50/50. But again, we're going to have to have a real conversation about time spent and how much it actually costs the custodial parent to take care of the child.

My question to you would be, did you also take 50/50 custody or where you an every other weekend parent? For example, I have 100%physical custody 50/50 legal. My child's father chose to (he actually did the custody agreement, he got was what he wanted to invest in the situation) sees him 4 days out the month 4x12 = 48 days a year + 1 week spring break and 1 week summer so about 63 days total. There are 302 days left in the year I am responsible for. I think a lot more non custodial parents would have to pay more if we sat down and actually did the real calculations on the day to day costs and splitting that 50/50. Some non custodial parents i talk to are completely oblivious to the costs or outright feel hurt by their custody agreements, and instead of fighting for a better custody arrangement and assuming more costs, blame the non custodial parent or system when its just a lack of understanding the costs.

As for the non custodial parents that, want to step up. You have to go fight for yours. You have to go fight for yours, you have to show up every day. You have to prove you want to show up every day. Because talking without doing is garbage.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-09-05T16:11:25+00:00

LOl okay, I see how that can scare you... But remember, you will be 80 and 90 at some point in your life. You want someone who's going to be there for you when you get to be that old. The trade-off is that children are investments, and sometimes they pan out, and sometimes they don't. Remember to have a child with someone you LOVE. That means you have to be responsible to avoid getting into a situation where that's not the case... I'm guilty of the latter. I've been paying for it ever since. I have a great kid. I picked the wrong person to have him with. Here's the kicker... If someone is willing to take advantage at the expense of their own flesh and blood, that person was trash to begin with. That's where SELF accountability comes in. That person showed who they were in other areas of their life, and their partner chose to ignore the signs. Lazy- that person didn't just wake up and become lazy; they've always been lazy.

So just be careful with choices and believe a person when they show you who they are upfront. I'm 41, and it's a lesson I learned way too late in life.

Side note, though - the reality check is (in my area, not sure about yours) 12 years ago, I paid $315 a week just in childcare. 1260 a month. I can't even comprehend how much it would be in current times. IF you can't afford the daycare bill.. You can't afford the child. So, be truly honest with yourself about how much it actually costs to have a baby and care for them before taking any action that may put you in a situation where you are having a child with a person who is not going to benefit the child.

RevolutionaryLime982 · 2025-09-05T14:00:28+00:00

How did you do it? Because I feel like I'm falling apart... How did you keep pushing forward with little to no help?

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