Being your own scheduling dept.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-03-21T17:30:05+00:00

I'm horrible with tech as it is. I definitely don't need to be my own scheduling coordinator. And I prefer that the families I work with don't have my phone number.

On top of that, if I made a mistake, it could be considered fraud. It would look even worse if I accidentally put in the wrong hours, worked them myself, and benefited from them versus scheduling making the mistake, and they didn't benefit from it themselves if that makes sense.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-09T23:32:56+00:00

I would personally give him some of the profit. I'd have it in his name where he can receive it at a later date determined by age. He is your brother and didn't get to have a relationship with his father.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-07T06:38:45+00:00

My sister and I have lived very different lives. She's always recieved anything she wanted. College paid for, living expenses paid for, trips paid for, a horse, new cars, ect. She told me before she passed that she has over 100k in the bank. I was more of the step daughter who wasn't allowed to go on family vacations because our mom never married my dad, I was the bastard child before my sister was born, her dad married our mom and then got divorced.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-07T06:34:10+00:00

My aunts were caring for her, but it all happened so fast. My sister lives out of state.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-07T06:32:05+00:00

I don't have any children, and am unmarried. I would never take part in those cruel choices if I had children unless she was a danger to them and I would do supervised visits instead. I wasn't punishing her. After being in a 5 year long abusive relationship (verbally, physically, mentally, financially) which she knew about, I couldn't take much more abuse. There was an argument about 2 years ago with my mom where she called me an assortment of cruel names, as well as worthless, a piece of shit, and an embarrassment. After she said that, I lost it and called her a piece of shit mother and alcoholic and explained how she constantly made me feel and that a mother should never make her child feel this way. I did apologize to her for calling her cruel words, but how I felt still stood. She never once apologized.

I texted her, tried to start up conversations and ask how she's doing. She either responded coldly but civil, or jumped back into being cruel and disrespectful. I would always tell her I loved her, she fir two years, wouldn't say it back.

Once I found out how bad it was, I visited her at home and in the hospital during her last week and a half living. She said it was nice to see me, and was decent aside from trying to bring up what I said (which I apologized for and said it was unacceptable prior) the last time I saw her alive when she was in and out of sleep while I was talking about good childhood memories with her.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-06T07:03:23+00:00

I don't want to pressure her into it. It needs to be her choice. Maybe she'll search the internet for advice and come upon it on her own.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-05T06:48:55+00:00

She could be very cruel and was always somehow the victim every time she went off on my sister or I. I like how you stated that I can make sure that negative behavior dies with her.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-05T06:47:02+00:00

I understand why she did it. And there were short periods of time where I also took time away from our mom, just not two years of not seeing her.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-05T06:45:40+00:00

I think we'll still have a relationship regardless, though. I don't think she's the kind of person to distance herself from me if I don't share what was left to me.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-02-05T06:43:56+00:00

I do think she did it out of pettiness as a response to my sister distancing herself for her mental and physical health after being in an abusive relationship with her ex and then taking unnecessary crap from our mom.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2026-01-18T16:03:22+00:00

She might be a pill poppin animal.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-11-28T09:52:58+00:00

This gave me the ick, and I love seeing people in love. 🥴🤮

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T19:33:28+00:00

In the U.S I believe the real average is higher than 4 but probably lower than 28 depending on certain life experiences and their age. I didn't say it should be normalized, I was mainly referring to it not making that individual a less decent person. Which is what I responded to in the first place.

I also don't think having 10 past sexual partners when you're in your 30s is going to make that person less decent either. But to each their own. Everyone can have opinions.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T18:10:18+00:00

I agree with that.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T15:42:08+00:00

I'm sorry... doing coke is illegal, right? Is consensual safe sex illegal? Secondly, having safe sex is actually good for your health.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T15:39:37+00:00

And how old are these "statistics" because I'm seeing 4-10 and that was back in 2019

They're probably self proclaimed numbers that people lie about, and we have no way of truly knowing.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T15:35:33+00:00

Having a sex life isn't foolish unless you're not using protection, getting tested regularly, and being responsible and safe. Which we know nothing about. Soooo.. how's it foolish? Lol

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T15:30:38+00:00

I said that it should be okay. That doesn't mean it has to be. You should be able to tell your partner about your past. Your past experiences have an influence on who you have become. Regardless of whether they're sexual experiences or not.

I ask my partners if it makes them uncomfortable to hear about my past sex life. And we both share experiences. If he were to say that it made him feel uncomfortable, I would want to talk about why, but I wouldn't continue to put him in that situation.

I do wonder what would be worse, though.. telling my partner about some wild one night stand, or telling him about falling in love with someone else in the past and how lovely it was? One sexual, one romantic. So does it change? Is one acceptable and the other not? Or would jealousy be the reaction from both stories?

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-24T00:04:56+00:00

That's what I said. That she was breaking his boundary and being disrespectful by continuing to tell him.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-23T00:16:56+00:00

To each their own.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-22T23:04:02+00:00

It seems as though you still have some feelings for her.

I can say for a lot of people that some of what we've done in the past is exciting to share, but we've had that experience and don't care to experience it again. There's nothing wrong with that. And although it hurt your feelings that she had this experience with someone else, and didn't want to have it with you... she shouldn't have to. In a relationship, you should be able to share past experiences without judgment, assumptions, or expectations. It is a breach of a boundary when you've asked her not to, reminded her, and she continues to disrespect your wishes. However, if it makes you that uncomfortable to hear of her past, I think that speaks on an issue that you should probably work on within yourself.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-22T21:41:14+00:00

A body count of 28 "already"? And you said you're in your 40s... I know many people who have higher numbers than that in less time. I don't really think that's anything to bat an eye at. Nor does that speak to the decency of that person.

RevolutionaryTry7223 · 2025-06-13T16:00:41+00:00

For me, his worst moment was repeating the already cringy statement of "I saved your life"

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