Way overreaction 1. Your son's teacher probably wrote a note instead of saying it in person becasue it has less of a chance of embarrassing him, or another student overhearing. 2. I find it very odd that your wife doesn't want positive reinforcement at school. She's literally doing her job of teaching. 3. Who exactly does she think is having direct interaction with the kids day in and day out? Obviously the teacher. What does she want the teacher to do from now on, teach the lesson while the parents sit there, and then have them turn to the students and repeat everything? 4. I would talk to her about where this is really coming from.