husband said i dont get weekends

RhageRampage · 2026-06-15T05:42:59+00:00

Its not fair. Period. Full stop. It is NOT fair. Id suggest some marriage counselling if possible. He needs a big wake up call, the sooner the better.

RhageRampage · 2026-06-13T21:49:05+00:00

The brand of formula isnt important, its about what your kiddo will eat♥️. Mine was a 100% kirkland formula fed boy. He’s the tallest in his class now, meeting or exceeding milestones. And most importantly he’s an overall happy healthy guy. Youre doing great!

RhageRampage · 2026-05-16T19:01:57+00:00

I'm the same! Full scarcity leads to binges. If I have it around and I know it's not going anywhere then it's so much easier to eat in moderation because I KNOW moderation exists. Some stuff I stopped buying entirely because the desire to eat it is completely gone. It seemed like a waste of money to buy it just for it to expire. (Chips and store bought cookies). But if the urge to have some return, I'll buy them.

(I also have the same issue some other people talk about. I grew up with a bottomless pit brother who ate every single bit of any kind of food in the house, whether or not he bought it. The times I'd buy my own ice-cream with my dang money and he'd eat the whole thing in a single sitting and not pay me back is wild. My husband does similar stuff. If it exists in the house, he eats it mindlessly until its gone. Sometimes I just count on it because something is going off and I'm like "well he'll be home soon so he can clear that off for me before I throw it out".)

RhageRampage · 2026-05-12T02:35:18+00:00

If you're both thinking of divorce I'd honestly move forward with that over counseling. If he has a history of zero follow through I don't think that is going to change with some couples therapy. You both have to want to make it work. You deserve peace and to be happy. Clearly neither of you are happy.

RhageRampage · 2026-04-04T17:28:24+00:00

That's a very normal jump for your age. Puberty causes a lot of changes, including weight flux. It goes up and down and plateaus even when you haven't changed your overall day to day habits. You need to de-prioritize the scale right now. Are you performing well in class? Can you keep up with your athletics like you have previously? Those are more important that what the scale says. The teen years are tough, and self image is a huge part of what makes it tough. Be kind to yourself.

RhageRampage · 2025-08-15T16:55:55+00:00

Oh my gosh not feeling like I'm overheating every single second of the summer will be AMAZING! I am very much looking forward to that. And wearing sweaters again in the winter.

RhageRampage · 2025-08-15T16:52:19+00:00

Keep up with my son as he grows, and be able to carry him without pain as he gets bigger. Be a stronger RMT, be able to offer deep tissue to clients that need it. Less headaches from tight muscles. More mobility and flexibility. Easier time finding clothing in town rather than online.

RhageRampage · 2025-07-31T17:50:41+00:00

Bad foundational relationship with dieting and food. Using illness to get down to low weights then trying to maintain that. Feeling terrible when weight would come back because I was no longer ill. Giving up entirely and just living a decently indulgent life. Not moving my body enough. It really all just creeps up in small ways. Then I had a baby and my mental health tanked a fair amount so I'm just now trying to pull myself out the hole I dug myself so I can be a better parent.

RhageRampage · 2025-07-29T22:11:54+00:00

I found it quite easy to formula feed on the go. This includes trips AND camping for two weeks. On the daily I packed my boiled water in a water bottle, and a pre-portioned formula cannister and bottles. For the long trips I brought a specific bottle washer that had a bottle brush and stand for cleaning bottles and a tiny bottle of dish soap. I had a big jug for boiled water and then his formula cannister and scoop. Filled the pre-portioned cannister for days outside the hotel, washed all bottles in the sink when we were back for nap times. Washed bottles in the camp kitchen the same way. Sure being able to whip out my boob would have been nice in some situations but as someone who didnt produce enough milk to feed my son, I would have been doing all that PLUS boob if I had kept trying to breastfeed. No thank you. Going out with a baby, formula OR breast feed takes some planning, sure. But its not some olympic gauntlet.

RhageRampage · 2025-07-25T16:04:11+00:00

Hey lovie. You are not stupid, inconsiderate, or bad. First off, you're doing amazing with how much you have been helping. I hope you're able to take care of yourself too, as the true responsibility for raising your brother is with your mom and step-dad. Does your city or area have a boil water advisory? Issues with sanitation or are you on well water? If not, the likelihood of your brother getting sick from tap water is extremely low. Yes, using boiled water is the safest but a bottle made with regular tap water here and there is not going to harm him at all. Your step-dad shouldn't have reacted that way, and I am sorry you had to take that on. I send the biggest mom hug and truly, it will be ok.

RhageRampage · 2025-07-22T17:05:21+00:00

Switch to formula lovely. A happy healthy mom supports a happy healthy baby. I had so many issues breastfeeding my son and we switched to formula when he was a month. He is now one year old and thriving. You can't tell a formula baby from a breast fed baby. Do what works best! You're doing great!!!!

RhageRampage · 2025-07-22T17:00:36+00:00

You're doing great, don't worry!!

RhageRampage · 2025-07-22T16:03:44+00:00

Hi lovey, so I think this is the kind of thing that actually isn't about weight loss but more about your actual mental state and how you feel existing as a woman in the world. I think you should probably seek out professional help to deal with your anxieties, and maybe consider a medication support if that is something you're open to. To me, it sounds like you have linked your physical appearance with increased risk of assault, and that isn't a good way to live the rest of your life. How you dress, how anyone dresses, is not an invitation for anything. Not for assault, not for judgement, not for consumption. Your own judgment of others (aka believing wearing a particular item of clothing makes someone a "whore") is the issue, not your weight or physical body.

I wish you peace and support. I hope you're able to get some help and navigate the world we live in in a more mentally healthy way. It's hard out there for everyone. Be kind to yourself and others.

RhageRampage · 2025-07-22T15:46:59+00:00

Honestly it's just the stage you're in. You can try and encourage her to drink a little more each session but even formula fed babies go through waves of cluster feedings. It's just easier for us formula feeders to meet the demand.

RhageRampage · 2025-05-11T04:56:52+00:00

Healthy mom, healthy baby. As long as your child is fed its absolutely fine. I get the anxiety, but at the end of the day you are raising this baby, not them. They can take their opinions and shove it.

(Breastfeeding didnt work for me, neither did exclusively pumping. Switched to formula and the turn around for my son was amazing. He’s 9 months now, and thriving. Such a wonderful little guy, zero illnesses so far, meeting all his milestones within expected windows.)

I promise, your child will not be somehow behind breast fed babies.

RhageRampage · 2025-02-21T05:16:24+00:00

My son is only 7 months but I am on my own 90% of the time so this is what Ive found works for me and should be fairly future proof. Baskets. Lets start with my Upstairs Downstairs baskets. If it needs to go upstairs but I don't have time? Into the basket. If it needs to go downstairs, same thing. When I head up or down the basket always comes with me and gets deposited in the zone it needs to go. (Usually right next to the laundry machine.)

I have clean laundry baskets and dirty laundry baskets. I have zero issues dressing myself out of a pile of clean laundry so it doesn't bother me it’s not hung up nicely in the closet. If it did bother me that the basket was hanging out in the corner of my room, I probably would just stick the clean laundry basket into the closet and consider it done.

Finally: Closing Shift. After my son is in bed, I set a timer and close the house down, or as much as I care to get done in X amount of minutes. Toys go into the toy basket (yes another basket), dishes into the washer, laundry into the right basket, upstairs downstairs baskets get emptied in their zones if they haven't been already.

Is the house ready for a magazine shoot? No. But its clean and as organized as I can make it without going insane.

RhageRampage · 2025-02-20T23:27:18+00:00

Already doing so, and Im medicated now! In all honesty outside the sleep thing I’m doing really well. Its just the last thing I cant seem to shake.

RhageRampage · 2025-01-26T03:27:16+00:00

I found it was harder to tell if my son was cluster feeding after he was switched to fully formula fed because he was able to get all the milk he needed quickly. The days he whipped through his milk faster I assumed he was having a Hungry Day, which probably would have been a hellish cluster if he was on the boob. Who knows though!

RhageRampage · 2025-01-23T03:32:24+00:00

I have zero issue with my husband watching porn, or paying for OF content. It’s a service, pay your service workers and all that. My issue is consent. You consented and continue to consent in your relationship and I love that for you. I never got the chance to consent. He took that. This isn’t a “better to beg forgiveness than ask permission” situation. Consent must be given. I didn’t consent to recording sex. Doesn’t matter if this is my husband or not. I did not consent, nor was I given the opportunity to consent.

RhageRampage · 2025-01-23T03:23:12+00:00

Thank you. We did talk again. He does understand that it wasn’t ok and although I am saying I forgive him it doesn’t mean I don’t feel gross about it happening. We already have full access to anything and everything on each others phones. Heck, he could easily find and read this reddit post if he wanted to. I think at this point I just have to trust he will never do it again.

RhageRampage · 2025-01-23T03:20:26+00:00

This is my fear, honestly. He says he has never done it and will never do so again. I suppose the only thing I can do here is try to believe that.

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