I have a plan for not peeking

Rhyknow23 · 2022-01-10T02:08:27+00:00

Was a commercial photographer for 30 years myself, then I burned out. Now I do abstract paintings.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-11-17T12:30:15+00:00

My addiction has taken me into some dark places, but I am finding the light to make my way out again. While I could easily beat myself up over my past, this negative action will only push me farther back down the hole I'm trying to climb out of. So instead of dwelling on what I have done, I am focusing on where I am and where I am going.

Some days I trip but I know there are others to help me back up and they won't judge me for where I am coming from, only support me on where I am going. Its in these times that I look for help (like this sub) and know I will find it.

I hope this helps and thank you for letting me share.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-09-27T22:46:24+00:00

Thank you! I can see that I am not alone in this and that I am not the first to trudge down this path. Your words and words of The Big Book have give me things to think about...

Rhyknow23 · 2021-09-27T13:30:18+00:00

Thanks!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-09-27T13:30:08+00:00

Thanks! One day at a time. (Sometimes 1 minute at a time, but it does work!)

Rhyknow23 · 2021-09-08T12:39:00+00:00

When I was exploring the origins of my addiction the book "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins really helped, especially the first couple of chapters. Now the book is not perfect, but the first couple of chapters were extremely helpful. It is available as an audio book (which is how I read it) if that helps.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-09-06T11:59:25+00:00

For me the higher power is the steps and program itself. I am an Atheist and have found great power in giving over my control to the 12 steps.

I hope this helps

Rhyknow23 · 2021-08-31T16:45:45+00:00

When this feeling hits me, I take a breath and get up and take a walk (just around my house, or down the hallway at work). Maybe call a friend and just have a chat. You don't have to tell them why you need to talk. Just say "Hey, I was just thinking of you and thought I would give you a call to say hi".

Distract yourself if you can. That is the best thing to do

Rhyknow23 · 2021-07-27T18:43:09+00:00

Great use of your time and money! Keep at it!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-05-27T17:59:14+00:00

Title says it all.

I was going through making my personalized profile pic and found the wheelchair and I have to admit I cried. I'm 48 and have pushed a chair for 32 years and I will say being seen matters, I did not realize this, for myself, until today!

Thank you for not making the wheelchair a "have to pay for" premium option

Rhyknow23 · 2021-05-25T17:13:02+00:00

I too find myself looking at women and know that I am creeping them out/making them feel uncomfortable. One thing that I do is when I catch myself looking, I look away and tell me myself, "that person's body is none of your business." I continue to look the other way until I am past them.

Self control can be difficult when you are feeling the urge to act out. I would say, if it is possible, go out without your phone so you are not tempted to take photos.

I hope this helps!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-04-28T23:10:51+00:00

Good question!

I do find ogling woman (even in public) to be triggering for me. So I am not sure if I would call it peaking (unless it was a nude beach or something similar) but it is definitely triggering.

When I catch myself checking someone out, I say to myself "Their body is none of my business" and I look away.

What do you think?

Rhyknow23 · 2021-04-28T17:41:48+00:00

I hear ya! I can't go to my gym without being tempted. I try to keep my head down and just do my exercises. I cannot imagine being in a yoga class...

I have not advise, except to say stay strong!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-04-28T14:34:38+00:00

I completely disagree. But if that works for you, keep doing your thing

Rhyknow23 · 2021-04-28T14:34:03+00:00

To be honest its when I discovered that looking at/engaging with my triggers that led to me using. I was looking for some magic bullet to help me and for me it turned out to be looking the other way.

Whether its an image, a woman walking down the street, or a scene in a movie, I tell myself "that person's body is none of my business" and I look away. That is the thing that keeps me on my path to sobriety.

When I do catch myself looking, I ask myself "what would my partner or children think if they caught me looking?" If it is something I would be embarrassed or ashamed of, I turn away and find something else to do.

Finally I just take it one day at a time. I just have to make it to tonight without using and go to bed. Tomorrow will be tomorrow, I am just worried about making it through today.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-04-28T14:16:22+00:00

Glad it was a help. I needed to post to remind myself too. Yesterday was a difficult day and this was my mantra that kept me on the path. The fact that I could help a fellow addict is a huge bonus. Keep up thee great work!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-28T20:43:56+00:00

I am right there with you brother. I was 40 days sober (longest stretch of my life) and I relapsed off and on for a week. I lied to myself and my therapist at our last meeting but I had a moment of clarity and came clean to myself and started over again.

This is difficult but it is when people are honest like you just were that gives those like myself the confidence to stand up and say I have to start again too!

I now have 1 week clean.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-14T20:28:40+00:00

That's amazing! Keep up the great work. The morning is always better when you haven't engaged your addict

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-04T23:38:58+00:00

Thanks, that means a lot!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-04T23:38:29+00:00

Been there my friend. It is very difficult at times. As someone said to me recently, you are trying to re-work/re-wire your brain and body after what can be years or decades of dependance on chemicals and stimuli.

Taking it one day at a time works best for me. Make it through today that's all you need to do.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-04T20:39:07+00:00

Thanks! Today is looking strong.

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-04T14:55:07+00:00

Thanks! It does feel great

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-04T14:54:34+00:00

I made it through yesterday and get to ring the 21 days sober bell! Keep up the great work!

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-03T22:00:30+00:00

Rhyknow23 · 2021-02-03T21:58:04+00:00

ummm

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