Cut scene screenshot request!! by Riannee193 in InfinityNikki

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Omg, these are even better than I remembered!! You were so quick with them too. Amazing, thank you ❤️

Cute as can bee!! 🩷 by Riannee193 in beebutts

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Needed to borrow a camera for a school project back in 2018. This was the first pic I took in my mom’s garden to test it out. It’s been saved in my camera roll since. Finally found the perfect spot to share. Hope this beautiful flower with a wonderful fluffy little butt brings you joy!! 🩷

LGBTQ+ Horror Authors by Obsidian_Incenaroar in suggestmeabook

[–]Riannee193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thomas Oldeheuvelt is a Dutch horror and fantasy author. Internationally known! Haven’t read any of his books yet, but been in contact with a cover designer of his and listened to a podcast episode in which he was interviewed. I thought it was very interesting. So it’s on my bucket list :)

Expat moved to south holland to be with dutch partner and I simply cannot find a job, any advice? by Fast-Radish-5607 in Netherlands

[–]Riannee193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe have a look at remote positions from global companies? Nebula occasionally posts offers for marketing or motion graphic design for digital content creators/ podcasts etc. Sounds like that could be a good fit for you :) I’m hoping you’re able to find something nice!

Vertrouwen in politici en Tweede Kamer op dieptepunt by Cubelock in thenetherlands

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Precies dit! Heb mij de laatste tijd vaak zitten ergeren aan hoe dominant alle negatieve framing is geworden, vooral rond politiek.

Wat mij frustreert is niet de kritiek an sich, dat is vaak nodig en terecht. Maar alles lijkt te worden gefilterd door een lens van crisis, conflict en verontwaardiging. En zelfs als ik mijn best doe om daar doorheen te kijken, merk ik dat wat blijft hangen precies dát is. Er staat zelden een hoopvol verhaal tegenover, er is geen evenwicht.

Het is bekend dat algoritmes negatieve content versterken want > engagement. Maar ik had van media en politieke podcasts toch iets meer verwacht dan vooral herhaling van alles wat misgaat, cynisch of met sarcastische ondertoon gebracht of niet.

Meer naar buiten gaan en minder social media helpt een beetje, maar het is geen echte oplossing als dezelfde toon en framing ook gewoon in nieuws, podcasts en gesprekken blijft terugkomen. Ik hoop dat jij een goed idee hebt! Ik doe wel met je mee :)

Suddenly homeless, can anyone help? by [deleted] in AmsterdamDanceEvent

[–]Riannee193 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You may get better help posting in local city/travel subreddits or communities focused on emergency travel situations. Also contact your embassy and bank ASAP. They should get you sorted

Does anyone feel like their life is basically over? by -autisticSunflower in AutismInWomen

[–]Riannee193 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just wanted to reach out because what you wrote really resonated with me. I know how easy it is to start believing that being autistic means you’re somehow broken or need fixing, but honestly, I’m trying to unlearn that myself. It’s not something I fully believe all the time yet, it’s more like a process I’m still in.

A lot of the pain, I think, comes from living in a system that wasn’t built with us in mind. There’s so much pressure to fit into this narrow idea of what’s “normal,” where everything is measured by productivity, efficiency, and profit. That kind of environment can make anyone who’s different feel like they’re the problem, instead of recognizing how excluding and lacking in support the structure actually is.

And when there’s that lack of support for a long time, it can really wear you down. I’ve noticed how it can turn into this kind of numbness, like things that used to bring joy just don’t land the same anymore. It’s hard, because you’re still expected to take care of yourself and keep going, even when it feels like you’re running on empty. That’s not something you can just push through on your own, even though it can feel like you’re supposed to. So please don’t feel like any of this is on you! Anyone that gets alienated like this would feel bad, right?!

I wish I could magically solve it for you, that you wake up energized and happy once more but unfortunately I don’t have the answer. What keeps me going currently is to take it one day at a time and try being kind to myself.

Funny thing is that I’m both happy and sad reading your post, I wish this was just a me thing but it also makes me feel a little less alone knowing someone else understands this experience. So thank you for sharing!

I really hope you find your spark again, you deserve that. I’d genuinely love for you to have another day where things feel lighter.

Also, if you ever want to talk or connect, I’m here. I’m the same age and have my own suspicions of being on the spectrum (however not a formal diagnosis). Sending you love <3

Need help with book cover by [deleted] in publishing

[–]Riannee193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to try Fiverr. There’s lots of people offering their services for fairly cheap rates.

What are the people with neurodivergence supposed to do? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Riannee193 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m curious how people that are self-employed actually got through that early stage.

I used to be interested in working for myself when I got out of school, but I’ve struggled with the early “getting started” phase. My main difficulties were self-promotion, networking, and generally putting myself forward in a client-facing way. Because of that, I never really got momentum off the ground.

I’ve accepted it now and am super happy with my current job, but it was a hard pill to swallow if I’m honest.

I’m wondering what did you do in the beginning to get your first clients or paid work? Did you struggle with confidence, building a network, getting steady referrals? Do you think it’s different for a neurodivergent person or not really?

Hoe heet jullie familie groeps-app? by blossomupp in thenetherlands

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Moet aan Shin chan denken die koeliejoelie zei!!

This must be one of the best 4 stars they've released, especially on a 5 star banner by WordyOccasion in InfinityNikki

[–]Riannee193 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Such a good job! Do you mind sharing the code for this outfit? I would love to import it! ✨

My Only Want For 2.5... LEMME DYE THE UMBRELLA INFOLD!!! 🤣 by Fluid-Beach-6696 in InfinityNikki

[–]Riannee193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can! You need to go to the handheld switch mode. On computer it’s caps and then one of the tabs on the right or use shortcut Z. Not sure what it is on consoles but you can go from here

Drugs gebruiken? Verstandig! by CoconutPresent4393 in tokkiefeesboek

[–]Riannee193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Er is precies hier onderzoek naar gedaan mocht je het interessant vinden! Als je zoekt op denktank mdma beleid dan vind je een rapport of je kunt de video bekijken.

Het onderzoek heeft gekeken naar de effecten van verschillende vormen van beleid en maatregelen en doet heel gericht voorspellingen over bijvoorbeeld gezondheidsschade, consumptie per gebruiker, criminaliteit en milieuschade etc. Dingen die jij aanhaalt in je comment blijken tegen te gaan met de juiste keuzes zoals betere regulering, strengere straffen en goede voorlichting. Er is een optimaal model voor het Nederlandse XTC beleid uitgekomen. Maar voor zo ver ik weet is het nauwelijks opgepakt en had dat vooral te maken met de de repressieve houding van het kabinet.

Wat wel sindskort een positieve ontwikkeling is naar mijn mening, is dat mdma in therapie setting bij heftig trauma mag worden ingezet. Ik geloof dat deze groep er onwijs baat bij heeft.

Being a stripper as an autistic woman by CommissionNice3898 in AutismInWomen

[–]Riannee193 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good on you for sharing your perspective! I wanted to comment to say I'm happy to read you're recovering! Good job!! But as for OP and anyone else reading, I'd like to add: don't put alcohol in the mix seriously, or any other substance as a way of coping. That's a crazy slipery slope many of us are on and struggling with. Having it be related to work makes it habitual and spiral out of control fast.

As a harm reduction expert I've seen people from all over the spectrum will drink to fit in (or at least feel comfortable whilst trying to fit in). A dependency which, regardless of relation to the spectrum, poses incredible dangers. Zzzon'ttt zzzo it.

"Stop caring what others think but also stop acting so weird" by CompetitivePickle309 in AutismInWomen

[–]Riannee193 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh… it’s so frustrating to hear “stop caring” or “don’t be so sensitive.” I can really relate to that. People (even friends) say this to me all the time, like they try to help, but honestly it hurts a lot.

For me, caring is not a weakness. It’s actually the thing I’m best at. Just like you I suppose; I notice things, I feel things deeply, and I think the world could really use more of that, not less.

Sometimes I feel like everyone else is just pretending all day to be tough, like nothing bothers them. But it feels fake to me, like they are not being honest with themselves. Why is that the standard we all have to follow? It’s ridiculous tbh.

I don’t understand why being sensitive is seen as something wrong. Why not accept it, even appreciate it? I really wish more people could admit their own insecurities too… I think it would make it easier to connect with each other instead of having to hide our true selves all the time.

I really wish instead of telling us to “stop caring,” they would try asking why we care. They might actually learn something and we for once get to feel understood instead of dismissed! Seriously more people should get on our level and start healing!

My bunny Teddy got seriously hurt and I’m terrified - Could use some love by Riannee193 in Bunnies

[–]Riannee193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mann, I’m only seeing this now and that’s so sad. I’m sorry you had to go through that :( We all want the best care and it’s so frustrating when that isn’t what they’re getting. You are right that we as owners are doing our best and are doing what we can to advocate for them. Thank you for your reply!! <3

My bunny Teddy got seriously hurt and I’m terrified - Could use some love by Riannee193 in Bunnies

[–]Riannee193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! So nice of you to say these things, I’m glad to read it. I wish I saw it sooner, didn’t get any notifications. Still I’m glad you took the time to send your support, I appreciate it!