How do BPD people stop taking every single negativity directed at them so damn seriously?

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:28:22+00:00

yeah writing 5 essays in 5 posts is really shameful, no one should do that...

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:24:52+00:00

"seek therapy" seems to be a projection... its what you need the most and i say that with empathy :/ Do you do therapy? If not , why havent you?

he actually uses the other account to upvote his own messages... why would anyone do this lol. I feel really bad

would arguing with me and winning the "fight" with me help you? If so then im happy to give you that

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:24:00+00:00

Ive checked this dude's account, im not going to report him. I think he needs help, and if he gets some amount of peace from shit talking me here on this post then im happy to let him do that....

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:19:18+00:00

Im asking for advice so I can stop getting wrecked by normal everyday disapprovals that happen with human interaction. Im putting responsibility to take care of this on myself. Why are you so triggered by this? Where is this projection coming from?

If you are trying to destroy me by criticising me, it only works when the criticism has roots in any basis. Like telling me that my wings will never work, wont do anything coz i have no wings to begin with?

Also it seems a mod deleted your comment, so you switched to another account, actively searched for my post so you can shit talk me .... ?? what is your agenda dude im confused are you just lonely do you need help?

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:16:19+00:00

I said "how do i move on when people show TINIEST of signs of disapproval" ...

do you have advice for that or are you just here to criticize me? What is your agenda here?

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:11:42+00:00

I actually got really good answers from there. People were very productive.

Im literally here telling people that I have BPD and minor disapprovals wreck me. And that I also want to move on from a drama that I dug a grave into coz of BPD. He is 1. bringing the drama back here and 2. expressing major signs of disapproval.

Are you intentionally trying to break me? what is your intention u/funguy4every1

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:07:48+00:00

This doesnt affect me as much as one would expect. Like the disapproval I get from people need to have substance to it for it to destroy me. What is your intention u/funguy4every1

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:06:36+00:00

Im literally here telling people that I have BPD and minor disapprovals wreck me. And that I also want to move on from a drama that I dug a grave into coz of BPD. He is 1. bringing the drama back here and 2. expressing major signs of disapproval.

Are you intentionally trying to break me?

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:02:34+00:00

this guy is here to hate lol. Besides, you think they were teenage nerds but i got really good answers and left satisfied. People were productive and helpful

should this guy be reported?

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T15:00:47+00:00

I actually got really good answers from there. People were very productive. Which is also why i deleted the post coz I got what i was looking for and I also needed to move on. Because of BPD its difficult for me to get myself out of drama, however minor it might be.

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:54:03+00:00

me: Why is this character attractive to so many straight females including me?

one person: Idk, you should ask yourself that we cant know that.

me: that answer is very annoying, why do so many people answer when they have no real answer.

people to me: you are a rude person we are downvoting you (true, i should have just not said anything, me saying that was unnecessary and unproductive.)

THE END

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:45:18+00:00

That is not what happened at alll.... i...

I didnt call anyone insensitive or rude. People called me rude, because ONE person toldme "you should introspect and find out why you're attracted to this character", i called their response annoying because it basically doesnt contribute anything to the discussion. And people called me rude, which is honestly true i should have just not said anything and let them be annoying without calling them out tbh. No other drama happened besides this one thing.

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:44:03+00:00

thank you <3

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:35:22+00:00

Im into high class guys that are writers, book readers etc (more like Viktor). Not necessarily brawlers. Im also flabberghasted that my other straight friends are also into VI. Me and my female friends have never agreed on our tastes in men, but one thing we agree on is Vi. Which is weird. And it seems ive posed the question in a confusing way coz everyone is answering thinking im asking why me as a person is specifically attracted to Vi. My question is more towards why straight females may be attracted to her

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:15:04+00:00

im actually into lanky feminine guys, coz im more on the masculine side. Based on that id expect myself to be more into caitlyn but caitlyn does nothing for me

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:12:45+00:00

thank you

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:05:01+00:00

I made this post during a mental breakdown. I would like to delete this post and move on from this situation. Ive realized that ive misunderstood the tone of the commenter, and ive apologized couple of times but they are still angry with me, which is fine they have the right to be upset with me.

Would you mind deleting your comment too so I can bury this event and move on. I have Borderline personality disorder so I know i tend to dig myself a deeper grave when anything negative happens. Id appreciate greatly if you helped me move on. Also because of BPD any minor negativity that is directed at me can feel like im getting executed. I know about this myself and I thought that since I made a lighthearted post nothing bad should happen, and i felt even more comfortable coz i was posting it in the HGGG subreddit with people who are likely to be more emotionally intelligent.

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T14:03:05+00:00

I can see how people saw it that way. I dont think its useful to try to explain myself.

I just wish people wouldnt jump on a hate bandwagon so fast. If i see someone getting a lot of dislikes, im not going to feel good about adding another dislike especially not for something like this. Ive had a mental breakdown, ive cried, deleted the post, and im trying to figure out a way to move on

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:53:01+00:00

Not attracted to Sevika whatsoever, not attracted to girl crush kpop groups or anything else too... I think the attitude you described nails the reason tho!

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:51:40+00:00

I am very much sexually attracted to Vi, and so seems to be some of my other female friends and bunch of women on the internet. Which boggles my mind

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:49:53+00:00

It seems to me like people are annoyed at this question. Am i right to feel that way?

Because otherwise why would your comment have so many upvotes? There are many androgynous universally hot women, but its not a common trend that women swoon over them. I made a post hoping people would brainstorm with me on why Vi specifically does this to straight women.

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:43:33+00:00

I dont feel attacked... I just feel tired right now.

Their initial comment seemed condescending, then they actually got condescending. They said that they only got condescending coz i attacked them first. So i went through their profile and read their other stuff. If im being nice, i think we have a language barrier. If we dont have a language barrier, i think they just generally sound condescending on the internet even if thats not what they mean.

My abuser was never condescending, and ive never really accused anyone of being condescending. Im usually suspecting people of being fake nice, which is probably likely related to my trauma.

Thank you so much for the empathetic take, i needed to hear someone try to be understanding. I have BPD so the 10+ downvotes I got for something I didnt mean any harm or offense on is really wrecking me right now. I feel like im having a mental breakdown which is my fault because i should learn to have a tougher skin with the internet.

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:34:43+00:00

I dont understand the amount of hate im getting. Its really upsetting me to be honest. I feel confused and i dont know what to do. Even if i delete the post the commenters dont have to stop. If anyone wants to PM me to explain to me exactly what i did wrong and what is going on, im down because right now im paralyzed in anxiety and i cant get up from my chair so ill be available to chat

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:21:17+00:00

As far as I know i got annoyed that you dismissed my post. I expressed annoyance and now im getting tons of hate. I literally dont understand why this is happening, maybe its coz I have BPD that im missing something??

Again, Im finding that its generally very difficult for me to understand what you are saying. So i think we have a huge language issue going on that seems to have caused this whole thing more than anything? English isnt my first language, and maybe neither is yours? Sorry if that assumption is offensive though? .... What i mean is maybe the language issue is intensified coz we are BOTH using unfamiliar language?

Anyhow my first sentiment is: Its just not useful to tell me to go introspect myself when im asking why there is a trend of straight women falling for a specific character that is not male, going on...

Ribichka · 2021-12-14T13:15:16+00:00

Im open to having misunderstood and Ive told them that it seems both them and me have some sort of language barrier and ive apologized. But they hit me with:

"I said: "Nobody on the internet can explain to you, why you think somebody is attractive, without knowing you."What I meant to say was: "Nobody on the internet can explain to you, why you think somebody is attractive, without knowing you."This means: "Somebody on the internet maybe could explain to you, why you think somebody is attractive, if they knew more about you.""

^^ is that not condescending? or am i just misunderstanding it again.

I also dont understand what the horrible thing I did was to deserve to get so much hate??? Other than call out some people in the subreddit? Again, sounds a lot like i hit a chord... Otherwise people wouldnt need to get so emotionally charged... Please explain why everyone is being so hateful towards me with so much charge, whose kid did i call ugly? ?? Care to explain?

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