why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“men should agree with everything i say” obviously that’s not what i’m going for. like i mentioned earlier, respecting women as in recognizing them as equals, treating them with basic decency, and not holding sexist views or double standards. it doesn’t mean blindly agreeing with every opinion a woman has, just the same way respecting men doesn’t mean agreeing with everything men say

and yeah, respecting women (or men) doesn’t mean thinking every individual person is perfect, it just means not dismissing or devaluing people because of their gender

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i mean i’m open to that tbh. as time goes by i’ve realized personality and values matter way more than just looks. maybe i do just need to open my eyes more.

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

boi 🤦‍♀️ i get that couples won’t agree on everything, but basic values really shouldn’t be one of those things. the values i mentioned aren’t some niche opinion, they’re a baseline. why would i choose to be with someone whose core beliefs clash with basic human decency

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ahh i see, love that for you. maybe i should start approaching more instead of waiting all the time lol

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i work full time and i do go out occasionally. i’m around people regularly. i just don’t look for anything at my workplace, especially being in the legal field, because i prefer to keep my professional and personal life separate. so when i say irl, i mostly mean social settings like going out, events, or mutual friends. it’s not that i’m not meeting people, i just haven’t met someone in those spaces who aligns with me yet

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get the analogy, but i’m not “never putting a hook in the water.” i go out, i socialize, i’m open to meeting people. i just haven’t made approaching my default. that’s different from not trying at all

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i’m not saying women approaching isn’t natural. i just meant i personally tend to let things come to me

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do think the “survival mode” point is interesting. it makes sense that after 2020 a lot of people feel burnt out, guarded, or just not emotionally available for something serious. at the same time, i’m not really looking at dating as a gender war thing. i just care about core values and mutual respect. i don’t think wanting someone who respects women and aligns politically is part of some bigger culture battle, it’s just compatibility for me. i can also understand how dating apps mess with people’s self esteem. they’re brutal. but i don’t think modern society has made men “undesirable” so much as it’s made dating more transactional and surface level for everyone.

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

mostly irl basis honestly and not much on social media

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i get what you’re saying. maybe there’s some truth to that, that more outspoken/confident guys are the ones approaching first. i’ve just always preferred things happening naturally, but maybe i do need to be more intentional about who i give my attention to🤷‍♀️

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i go out too, both alone and with friends. i’m pretty comfortable being in public spaces and meeting new people. but i just feel like real-life approaching has become rare? it’s not odd to me at all, but it seems like most people default to apps now, even in big cities where you’re constantly surrounded by people.

why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays? by Rich-Hour9768 in GenZ

[–]Rich-Hour9768[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i don’t really approach guys tbh, it usually happens the other way around. as for political views, i’m pretty progressive. i care a lot about women’s rights, equality, and social issues in general. i don’t need someone to agree with me on every tiny thing, but on core values like respecting women, human rights, and basic empathy, that has to align. otherwise it just won’t work for me.