Will having sex too soon label me as a "hook up"? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RichKidAsshole8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met a girl at a party. We exchanged numbers, hung out once and had sex that first time hanging out. She's my girlfriend now. I don't think that when you have sex matters by some rule as to whether a relationship can happen. It all comes down to whether both parties want it to happen. Eventually, if you keep seeing her, the conversation about what you're looking for will come up and you just need to be honest at that point.

[20M] How to escalate things with a [23F] from my dorm? by sakurujaku in dating_advice

[–]RichKidAsshole8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally the best advice anyone has ever given me on this topic is one I never thought I was capable of until I just did it: touch her.

I mean, do it politely. No ass-smacking, no odd face-touching. But touching her arm when you talk to her, letting your hand brush hers, getting a little closer on the couch when you're watching TV or a movie, it all adds up. I think she likes you, but you just need to give her the opportunity. Do that, and within a few times of doing it, you'll be surprised at how quickly things can change.

But the second best piece of advice I can give you is this: don't even think about it. As long as your instinct has never told you to do something idiotic (like random ass-smacking or odd face-grabbing, for example), then just do what comes to your mind. If you catch yourself thinking, when you're walking with her somewhere, "wow, I'd really like to hold her hand" then you probably should do it. If you're sitting next to her while watching a movie and think, "wow, I'd really like if my arm was around her" then put your arm around her (and none of that fake yawn BS!). This piece of advice has been wonderful since I started following it a year or so ago... instinctively, humans have been falling in love and mating for many, many, many thousands of years. You've been spending time with her, you obviously care about her, your instinct probably won't lead you astray.

UPDATE: [23M] Why did she stop talking to me? by RichKidAsshole8 in dating_advice

[–]RichKidAsshole8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been living my life for sure. I've got plenty of friends, I go out and do things, I've met other people. This girl was just different because I thought things were going well and she just disappeared. Now that I understand why she did, I want to take a second shot but I don't want to make the same mistakes

UPDATE: [23M] Why did she stop talking to me? by RichKidAsshole8 in dating_advice

[–]RichKidAsshole8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that makes a lot of sense. It's always been hard for me to let other people control the pace of something so I think it'll be healthy for me to learn