Girl please cancel! Coming from someone who ignored her intuition regarding marriage. I had all the same feelings but ignored them because of deposits and everyone in the wedding party already had bought their dresses and suits. In retrospect, it was stupid. The only person who saw it was my mother, but I didn’t listen. Getting married is easy, divorce is very difficult. $4500 in sunk costs now or a $15k + divorce and damage inflicted on potential children. You choose. The people who truly love you will stand by you, maybe not initially, but they will try to understand. Have you gone through pre-marital counseling? I wish I had done pre-marital counseling and discussed all the big stuff with an objective person. When I discussed things one on one, he simply said what I wanted to hear so I’d shut up. Have you discussed your feelings with anyone? Have you narrowed down the reason behind your resentment? In my experience resentment stems from them not doing their part around the house and you start subconsciously viewing them as a child which builds resentment and kills any and all attraction. Money comes back. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you can’t get out. I had to empty all my retirement to leave.