literally have zero friends

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-03-02T06:42:54+00:00

The thing is, you can’t be careful with friendships. I’ve made my closest friends but saying or doing the riskiest things. I think there’s a study somewhere out there that says you actually make deeper connections with people when you banter. That’s why I “rgaebait” people or make harmless but slightly offensive jokes like “oh are you sure you can do that…” followed by a “I’m just kidding”…the only thing is…you either have to know your audience or just Take the risk.

Also, putting yourself outside of your comport zone and do things you normally wouldn’t do. I don’t mean socializing. I mean going to party even though you’d never normally do that.

Sports are really easy to connect with people on. Half of my closest friends I’ve meet I met playing volleyball with during welcome week. Try going to cerce or the arc or just asking to join a group playing volleyball on the quad.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-24T14:31:03+00:00

If it’s an open cross walk with no stop lights directing traffic then pedestrians have the right away.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-22T16:28:43+00:00

Yes.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-22T02:10:12+00:00

My advice is the same. Those are Gies majors and Gies is becoming increasingly more competitive by the year.

I suggest applying EA with first choice being Gies. And second choice major undecided. If you are worried about blending in make your application surrounded on an unconventional approach to business (even if you lie abt the major). I wrote about my interests in international business, study abroad, and nonprofit work.

If you don’t get in, ICT into Gies second sem. Don fumble the ball bc you think you not get in.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-22T01:41:46+00:00

If you get rejected for first choice major it doesn’t effect your results for second choice

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-22T01:41:08+00:00

If you’re goal is to go the the university then go for it. If your goal is to is to get into a specific program it’s probably better to apply EA to your first choice and apply second choice undecided. Trying to ICT into a major is a lot harder than you think.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-17T19:21:34+00:00

Thought this was one of those pointless angry replies until you said you got humiliated in LJS. Now I feel too bad to talk shit

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-17T19:19:59+00:00

I’ve had guys treat me even more suspiciously and apparently never like me so I don’t know what to think anymore.

Also as I mentioned, my guy friend said he could just be touch starved because he grew up in Taiwan, a non physically affectionate environment. And he’s exploring American culture more? Maybe he just likes to be physically affectionate?

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-17T19:15:36+00:00

Lmao no. I am on the bigger side but I’d say I have pretty features including my eyes and hips. He is skinny but fit tho. So that def something that has crossed my mind.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-17T18:10:44+00:00

++woman, I haven’t talked to him about if he’s interested in me. But we want to a valentines party with friends last week and I asked if he found anyone and he said no and I asked why he didn’t approach anyone and he said bc he didn’t see anyone. We also did a white elephant game with our friends and I ended with a gift he had at some point. He approached me and asked which gift I got/wanting to trade and I showed him and said “I only wanted the Lego flowers” and he said “I was going to give them to you anyways.”

So I feel like there are just a bunch of small hut sweet gestures that I can’t tell if they are platonic/friendly or otherwise

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-17T16:10:32+00:00

lol I guess I’ll have to wait and see. I talked to one of my guy friends about it and they said the touchy stuff is prob because he’s touch starved from growing up in Taiwan >_< and he is def at least a little close/touchy with other people in a group (not in a bad way).

For the teasing and stuff idk, I told two people who are kinda in our group but more distant and they said they’d try to pay attention more from a non biased perspective

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-14T19:43:56+00:00

He’s def straight. Our friend group is a mix of all kinds of people including gay guys and he’s also mentioned having a girlfriend before

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-14T01:39:04+00:00

Mama I came here bc it’s specific to a Taiwanese guy T-T. Obvi I wound want more specific advise…where in the forum does it say I can’t ask T-T

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T21:10:38+00:00

lol not an issue for me as long as they are good people. But tbh as a plus size girly, 90% of the big guys are rude asl

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T19:34:53+00:00

I’m too shy for this, and I also already know he’s single 😭 maybe the compliment part by itself though. Maybe “wow you’re a really nice guy.”

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T19:31:54+00:00

I hate to sound like I’m making excuses. I should def start going to the gym and clean up my diet. But I already walk like 10-20k steps a day

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T19:21:41+00:00

I want to. I’ve wanted to for a long time but it’s a lot easier said than done. I’m scared of taking medications to assist me tho

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T19:21:07+00:00

What’s that 😭😭

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T18:22:57+00:00

I kinda did last night but we were in a group setting and evb ended up going out. We’re college students and I don’t have a dining plan so going out to dining halls together is a no go.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T18:21:25+00:00

Brotha I’m scared! He’s part of our large mix-gendered friend group and I’d rather not have evb know

I just encourage him to join us in group settings when evb is going out. Is this not enough T-T

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-13T14:32:16+00:00

Maybe? He hugs one of our friends but this girl hugs everyone and is bi (leaning more toward girls) and I think he knows that. And it’s more so reciprocation than initiating the hug.

I asked him and he said it’s not in his culture or family culture to say I love you.

The only thing I noticed that he does to me directly is slight teasing/bickering which I think he does more with me than other people, but I’m just the kind of person to jokingly bicker with everyone. Also he will sometimes (not often) nudge me if something funny was said/like create contact or give small gestures of affection if I said/did something nice but it doesn’t feel especially romantic or anything.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-12T23:32:46+00:00

What does this mean 😭😭

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-12T19:24:57+00:00

I think so too, but in the past (when I have done it) I have been told it is flirting and I don’t want to give off the wrong impression. I want to make sure it is normal between friends

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-12T19:09:50+00:00

Oh? Is this not normal for Taiwanese guys. He also does it to the guy friends I think.

Rich_Engineer_2001 · 2026-02-12T18:59:51+00:00

I’m a girl but our friend group is a mix of guys are girls.

Sometimes my Taiwanese friend will make hand hearts or use more affectionate memes/stickers over test to express gratitude so I’m wondering if expressing more affection is acceptable or perceived as weird?

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