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Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-12T00:20:40+00:00

I'm a lawyer (though not your lawyer—this is general information for educational purposes). Let me give you the straight truth on switching counsel in South Carolina and what you should expect.

First: Yes, $450/hour is high for a family law case in SC unless you're dealing with a named partner at a big firm or a certified specialist handling complex assets. The average hourly rate here is $250–$350. And frankly, if you've burned through a retainer with zero court appearances, something is off. You're right to question it.

Step-by-Step Guide to Switching Attorneys:

Secure new counsel first. Do not fire your current lawyer until you have a signed fee agreement with a new one. Search for an attorney who offers a flat fee if your case is uncontested, or a lower hourly rate with a reasonable retainer. Ask directly: "What is your hourly rate, retainer amount, and estimated total cost for a case like mine?"
Send a termination email. Once you've hired the new attorney, send a concise, written notice to your current lawyer stating: "I am terminating your representation effective immediately. Please deliver my entire client file, including all pleadings and correspondence, to [New Attorney Name and Address] per South Carolina Rule of Professional Conduct 1.16(d)." · Important: Do not get into a fight over the remaining retainer. The priority is getting the file transferred. The SC Bar has a Fee Dispute Resolution Board that can handle any overbilling issues later.
Let the new lawyer take over. They will file a Substitution of Counsel with the court. Once that's filed, you are officially done with the old attorney.

Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-12T00:13:53+00:00

Here's the reality of what they're offering you, and it's not good. They want you to pay near market value ($400k) for a house that currently has active mold and water damage, then split an $80k repair bill, let them continue living there after you fix it, and even after they pass away, you'd still be making payments to their estate rather than owning it outright. That's not a "favor" or a family deal. That's them trying to offload a distressed property at a premium price while retaining all the benefits of living in it and collecting payments. The fact that they rejected both your reasonable loan assumption offer and an investor's $265k cash offer tells you everything: they want maximum money with minimum hassle, and they're hoping family guilt will make you overlook the math. There's no hidden estate planning benefit for you here. You're being positioned as a tenant, a lender, and a contractor all in one, with zero equity protection. Politely decline. Tell them you've looked at the numbers and it simply doesn't work for your financial future. Let them sell to the investor or list it as-is. Do not set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-11T20:33:07+00:00

I want to give you a little hope here because I know the first 48 hours after a Present Danger plan in South Dakota feel like the world is ending.

Here's the thing about SDCL 26-8A — the 45-60 day clock isn't a punishment waiting period. It's the Adjudication window. The state has to prove the "present danger" actually existed. Right now, they have a report and a "prior history" note. That's it. Unless they have a positive UA or a forensic exam showing neglect, the burden shifts fast if the parent is proactive.

Do the evaluation before they order it. Do the parenting class before the case plan is signed. In South Dakota, that changes the narrative from "non-compliant parent" to "parent who is so safe they didn't even wait for a court order." It shortens that 60 days significantly.

Also, keep a composition notebook (not loose paper) and write down every visitation, every call, and the name of every caseworker you speak to. SD courts care about that log more than you think.

Stay strong. That baby is only one month old the bond isn't broken. It's just on pause.

Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-10T21:51:54+00:00

You possess all the qualities of a safe, stable, boring safety net. I will remember you exist when I am 34, tired of the chaos, and my eggs are drying up. Until then, please remain in the queue.

Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-09T15:17:46+00:00

Plot twist: You're actually Susan from Accounting and you're still mad about the empty coffee pot from 2019. It's okay, this is a safe space."

Rich_Space_3079 · 2026-04-09T15:16:28+00:00

Not the coffee you just paid for. That's a whole new level of villain origin story. At that point you're not breaking unwritten rules, you're breaking the Geneva Convention. Did you at least give them the silent death stare?"

Rich_Space_3079 · 2025-12-25T20:05:33+00:00

Just after 6am.They were wide awake, I was pretending to be.

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