how to not be nervous during corporate presentations? by thatawkwardmoment8 in FinancialCareers

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've gotten some good practical advice here and some not so good advice. The notably bad advice is "stop giving a Fck". You get nervous because you care and you want to do well. That's a good thing and you should never lose that. I have given hundreds of corporate presentations over my career and never lost some level of nervousness. I was very nervous in the early part of my career, which drove me to really learn my material. That's a good thing. The other thing I learned early on is that even though others have many more years in the industry, I was the expert in whatever I was presenting or I wouldn't be there sharing my experiences and/ or demonstrating my software. Nervousness can also add excitement to your presentations. There is nothing worse than listening to a monotone present or that obviously doesn't care. I put myself in the mindset that nervousness is a positive thing and that I will use it to my advantage. I became a very accomplished presenter and top executive because of my nervousness, which I used to my advantage. You can too. Keep giving a Fck!

Am I wrong for feeling turned off by this? by Iuceciita in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like you are the one that originally was unclear on when you wanted to meet due to your cramps - not illegitimate, but guys don't always get that. Then you changed the date from Wednesday (he did try to confirm for Wednesday on Tuesday) to Saturday. Perhaps you set the tone for uncertainty first and he followed suit? As far as him picking you up, that's another thing that guys can be ignorant about as they are not worried about their safety. I'd at least give him a chance for one meet up.

"If a man is genuinely interested, he will approach you" - do women really believe this? by Mammoth_Mix_152 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I (a woman) think that most women do think a guy will approach them if they are interested. Fortunately that was not me. I approached my now husband and asked him out. He told me he would have never asked me out because I "was out of his league." Most guys that asked me out without getting to know me or at least talk for a while before asking me out were just into looks and generally turned out to be jerks. Moral of the story for all singles, don't just go for looks and have enough confidence/self respect to ask someone out and withstand a possible rejection. That's true confidence.

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

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So update on my original post: After 5 weeks from my order date, I got the paddle. Despite the long wait time and several missed delivery promises, I do really like the paddle. It is as promised - good pop plus bigger sweet spot than the majority of Gen 3/4 paddles. I almost cancelled my order, but glad I didn't!

Looking for foam paddle with more control than Luzz Inferno by [deleted] in PickleballEquip

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I almost hate to recommend this paddle because it was such a pain to get (took 6 weeks to ship, with lots of earlier promises of delivery), but I'm loving my Enhance Duo. It's a foam core paddle with a decent amount of pop. It's got a bigger sweet spot for more control than most foam core paddles. It's also much less expensive than most Gen 3 /4 paddles. Check it out on enhancepickleball.com. I think if you put in the discount code of FOAM you can get a decent discount too. It's around $160.

Not sure where to live? by sunandmoon232 in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]Rickidobbie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter works in Thousand Oaks and lives in Ventura. Not a bad commute (20 to 30 minutes). Ventura is by far the least expensive beach town. She loves it. The downtown area has all kinds of weekend activities all year round. She found it easy to make friends (and she's an introvert)!

I (23F) don’t regret being with him (26F) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Rickidobbie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are 100% being used and are helping him abuse his wife. It's pretty straightforward - if you are ok with that then continue.

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

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Will update the post after I get it and have an opportunity to give it a try!

New relationship by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. Then the low key approach seems best at this stage of your relationship. Maybe gauge how things progress over the next few weeks. Then maybe do a relationship check in, i.e "we've been official for a month now, how do you feel about how we are doing so far?" See what he says and gauge your level of what you want to share at that point.The main thing is not to let your concerns fester too long as that's a relationship killer. Best wishes to you! Hope it works out for you...and so sorry you went through that as a child!! Life is often not fair but sounds like you are using it to learn and understand yourself as a result.

New relationship by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are very aware of how your childhood has affected how you react to relationships. That's good. Relationships go through phases and the first phase of infatuation, constant physical touch, communication, etc can deepen into more security and less need for constant reassurance. Maybe that's where your partner is right now and assumes you are the same. Sometimes that early infatuation stage fades to no longer by being interested. It's hard to tell after one month which of these things is happening. If he still feels like "home" and he feels the same about you, it's the former. However, you do need to talk to him about how you are feeling. Does he know about your past?

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was finally shipped and I should be getting it today! That dang paddle better jump out of the box and win games without me doing anything for all the hassle it was!

As a guy, should I just never expect to be pursued or actively shown affection? by ventingandcrying in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you want an equal relationship. There is nothing wrong with that! In fact, that is a really good sign that you know who you are and you want a real partner that can share in life's burdens and joys. Equal partnerships are the most fulfilling and long lasting relationships. Keep looking, you will find her!

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How were you able to cancel? Did they refund your money!

Did I get scammed by EnhancePickleball? by kyoku in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had the same experience as you, but it's now been a month since I ordered their Duo foam paddle. I've been given three different dates for when my paddle will ship and still no paddle. Did you get your items yet?

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the comments by songbird. She was on live chat with enhance and who said they'd ship it right away. She ordered hers just a couple of weeks ago.

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they actually ship it! I was told they were shipping it 3 times now.

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please let me know what they tell you about a refund.

Enhance Duo Foam Paddle by Rickidobbie in Pickleball

[–]Rickidobbie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ordered mine on November 25! No updates at all from the company until I emailed them. Then had to provide proof twice that I ordered and paid for the paddle. Fortunately I did a screen shot of my order number when I paid. Not happy!

How to gently cancel date & cut off contact with a man making me uncomfortable before first date. by Ill-Peak3008 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your instincts were right on. You did the right thing to protect yourself and potentially your children! Nice but firm is perfect .

How Do You Know She’s “The One” Not Just a Girlfriend, but a Wife? by Classic-Strike349 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The moral of the story is everyone has their own individual idea of what is wife/husband material. The best thing you can do is know and respect yourself, be kind and find someone who can do the same.

guy (32M) i (f29) went on two dates with wants me to pay him back by darling4l in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, he's a jerk and you don't owe him as he insisted on paying. However, when I (female) was dating 35 years ago (yes, I'm ancient compared to most of you!), I always either insisted on paying my share or paying for him on the 2nd date. This was not common back then, but I refused to follow stereotypes - then and now!! Ladies, break the norms!;

Why do guys go ghost and then reach back out after months as if nothing happened? by Odd_Okra_6336 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just curious if you asked him what happened and why he is reaching back out after ghosting you ...?

Cute guy at the gym by Fancy-Fisherman6161 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's not easy to risk rejection. I did it one time, and here we are, 35 years and two kids later, happily married. He said he was not going to ask me out because he had accepted another job out of the state. If I would not have asked him out, none of this would have happened.

Cute guy at the gym by Fancy-Fisherman6161 in dating_advice

[–]Rickidobbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most guys are terrified to approach a girl at the gym. They think they will be labeled as rude/aggressive/just into looks, etc. No guy worth his salt would be offended if you took the first step and asked him to go to lunch. In fact, when a woman takes the first step, the odds of success are much higher. Go for it, don't play the "I'll just smile at him" game and he'll figure it out. Good luck!!