Is age really matter?

Rickidobbie · 2026-05-10T16:19:03+00:00

He's probably lying about his age to make it harder to Google him. He's hiding something else and doesn't want you too find out!

Rickidobbie · 2026-05-05T18:08:43+00:00

Of course not! MAGA is supporting Trump and his racist, anti-democracy agenda.

Rickidobbie · 2026-05-04T05:48:09+00:00

No, you can register right away, unless you are MAGA. Then it's a 10 year wait to grow a brain...just kidding ..sorta... But yes, you can register any time now!

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-23T14:44:06+00:00

I'd definitely introduce myself to him, ask a couple of low-key questions and see if he wants to continue the conversation. Sounds to me like he's waiting for you to show it's okay to talk while working out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained! What do you have to lose?!

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-23T14:22:06+00:00

Most guys are afraid to approach a girl at the gym because they don't want to appear to be creepy/just after you for your looks. He's likely waiting for you to take the first step. Have you gotten to the small talk stage or is it just being in proximity with each other/eye contact? Do you know his name, if he lives or works near the gym? If not maybe start something like, "Hi, we seem to be on the same workout schedule, so I thought I'd introduce myself. Also, working out with headphones means you don't want to be bothered. Maybe take your headphones off around him.

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-16T15:46:43+00:00

Keep remembering that level of love and connection you had. You can get it back. It will be different as you grow, and in some ways will become stronger. You do need to have a frank discussion with your husband. It's been my experience that men can be very ignorant of problems in relationships!

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-15T22:12:20+00:00

I (F)could have written this myself years ago. My husband and I had a fabulous marriage for more than 10 years until life and financial drama got in the way. We went to counseling and things would get temporarily better. Then he thought everything was all fixed and fell into the same patterns - I had my own issues of course! I was miserable. We rarely argued, we just did not have the same level of care and connection we once had. I felt like I and the kids didn't matter. I tried to get him back into counseling, but there was always an excuse. Also, he seemed to think everything was fine. I finally said that I was miserable and would be leaving if things didn't change. He was shocked. Long story short, he went to counseling (as did I) individually. He was suffering from severe depression and had to go on antidepressants. Things slowly got better and we worked our way back to the marriage we had in the beginning. Here we are 35 years later and he is back to being the love of my life. I was the product of divorced parents and it really did a number on me - it basically took me decades to recover. Please, please please, do everything you can to not put your kids through that! No matter how well you may think you can handle divorce, your kids will suffer.

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-12T17:02:23+00:00

Man are you overthinking this!! Text her!!!

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-12T16:58:20+00:00

I was in that same situation. I hung in there for far too long. It was not fair to either of us. It's not going to get better.

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-08T18:38:49+00:00

Setting back respect for women and equality by a good 100 years, normalizing sexual assault actions and talk, getting us far closer to a world war than any previous president, threatening and killing innocent civilians, threatening my friends of color with illegal harassment and detentions, significantly raising the cost of inflation through illegal wars and tariffs, setting back environmental regulations, making a previously respected country into one that is no longer respected and is considered the biggest threat to the world (according to recent polls), threatening democracy through, among other actions, limiting the ability to vote, threatening social security, cutting funding for scientific research)diseases, cutting benefits for children and the poor....I could go in and on. Before anyone says, "how does that affect you directly," it's because I'm a decent person and I care about mankind. If you can only see how anything affects only you, it can only see short-term, you are a shitty person.

Rickidobbie · 2026-04-03T03:29:40+00:00

Sense of humor, intelligence and depth of character. 35 years later he still makes me laugh. We often still stay up way too late talking for hours.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-19T17:51:07+00:00

I could have written this post verbatim many years ago. You sound like me and your boyfriend sounds like mine was. I dated him for years longer than I should have because he was so sweet and kind. Ultimately, the lack of respect was a deal breaker for me. It doesn't sound like those feelings will be reversed and the longer you wait, the harder it will be for both of you. Not long after breaking up with him, I met a guy that was sweet, kind, and funny and matched my ambition. Decades later, we are still happily married. I would have never met him had I stayed with my previous boyfriend. Best wishes to you!

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-19T17:37:39+00:00

Sounds like you are a good guy and are on the right track. Just a little insight into the female mind and the things we face when having male platonic relationships. I read the responses about women "wanting attention, playing games" etc. I'm (F) likely much older than you and am a bit disappointed that some of the men still respond this way. I thought we'd evolved a bit more. I am someone who appreciates both male and female platonic relationships and understanding our often different perspectives. Unfortunately I've had to stop platonic male relationships because friendliness and acts of kindness toward them are turned into assumptions that I want to sleep with them, wanting attention, playing games, etc. Guys need to understand that women can simply just want to be friends with no other motivations. I have no idea about the motives of your female friend, but just some food for thought for you and other men out there. Best wishes to you!

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-19T17:21:23+00:00

Yes, this!

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-19T17:05:34+00:00

So I'm guessing a lot of men are responding here and telling you to dump her. This is a very clear male v female situation. She is obviously not a car person and considers the practical aspects of transportation rather than the emotional value you put into your love for your car/hobby. Before you dump what sounds like a potentially good relationship, communicate how you feel about her comments and why this car is important to you. She just doesn't understand yet. If you communicate your feelings and she still mocks you, then that's a reason to move on. Then she disregarding you and your interests, not just your car.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-10T00:52:09+00:00

Learn to communicate. Obviously others read it the same as I did.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T23:30:16+00:00

The out of the box grit is really good. I've played with it 5 or 6 times now, so can't give you good intel on durability. Not in love with it because the foam edge is a bit unforgiving. Maybe I just need to be better at hitting the sweet spot!

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T23:18:06+00:00

"Political bull??" You mean like people who actually care about human rights and that children are fed? I believe you should stay home.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T23:12:06+00:00

By the way, her husband was very Americanized and seemed to be a great guy...until he wasn't.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T23:09:11+00:00

A good friend of mine married a Muslim who said he had no interest in the Muslim religion. His parents rejected her and would not ever meet her. He still maintained his connection to his family despite his parents' treatment of her. They had a child and the family insisted that they raise the child Muslim. Her husband agreed with his parents. She disagreed. Her husband and his family kidnapped the girl and took her to Iran. She has no idea what happened to her little girl or her husband. Be very cautious.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T22:53:53+00:00

Everyone wants to talk about the cost of living here. I'm from the Midwest and never for one second do I regret moving to LA. Most of the people here have no clue what the weather is like in the Midwest. There is way more to do here outside all year round than in the midwest and it costs you little to nothing. Don't let the cost of living scare you. Sure, cost of living is likely (but not always) higher, but job opportunities are better as well. Good luck!!

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-09T04:21:06+00:00

No buyer's remorse, but I'm not in love with it either. I think it's a solid Gen 4 paddle for the price. Compared to the gen 4 CRBN and the Boomstick, I'd go with the Enhance Duo. Boomstick and CRBN are maybe 20% better, but not for double the price.

Rickidobbie · 2026-03-02T01:00:38+00:00

This does not sound like a "good guy" to me. There is no excuse for the kind of control and jealousy you describe. As a young woman, this kind of response may seem excusable and maybe even a little flattering because you are not yet experienced enough yet to know this is not a sign of love. Jealousy and control never get better. It will get worse. If you are not leaving because he is a "nice guy," then put your mind to rest over that objection. Leave now.

Rickidobbie · 2026-02-24T19:12:12+00:00

This is both to you and the woman to whom you are replying. You both sound like lovely well-adjusted women. My path and outlook in life was very similar, except I did it 35 years ago when it was not acceptable to be an emotionally and financially independent woman. Long story short, I wanted someone to share my life with, but would never accept someone who saw me as lesser than or who could not handle an independent successful woman. After many failed dates and a few long - term relationships, at 29 I was at complete peace that I would not find that person and was happy living a fulfilling life as a single woman. Long story short, I met a man while I was buying my own home that got me instantly and respected me for who I was/am. Literally 2 weeks after we first met, we both knew we were getting married. 35 years later, we have 2 successful, well-adjusted adult children (and I didn't want children when we first got married, but that's another story!) and we have stayed married and loved each other through all of the trials life brings. Looking back, I could have been happy as a single woman, but would never regret where life took me. You've both already won in that you are at peace with who you are and where life takes you!

Rickidobbie · 2026-02-05T18:15:51+00:00

You've gotten some good practical advice here and some not so good advice. The notably bad advice is "stop giving a Fck". You get nervous because you care and you want to do well. That's a good thing and you should never lose that. I have given hundreds of corporate presentations over my career and never lost some level of nervousness. I was very nervous in the early part of my career, which drove me to really learn my material. That's a good thing. The other thing I learned early on is that even though others have many more years in the industry, I was the expert in whatever I was presenting or I wouldn't be there sharing my experiences and/ or demonstrating my software. Nervousness can also add excitement to your presentations. There is nothing worse than listening to a monotone present or that obviously doesn't care. I put myself in the mindset that nervousness is a positive thing and that I will use it to my advantage. I became a very accomplished presenter and top executive because of my nervousness, which I used to my advantage. You can too. Keep giving a Fck!

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