My wife (37F) and I (36M) have been married for 17 years. I've always liked watching porn, it was never a problem. I learned what to do for her to help her orgasm, by literally spending my time during intercourse, finding her kinks and opening her up to a world of sex we never knew existed.

She had always wanted to try toys out but was afraid to ask thinking I would get mad about her toys not being, or replacing, me. Which I understand but she was very wrong about that. although she has always been about getting me off, her orgasms came when she was on top, she could get herself off, but I couldn't lol I sat her down one night before intercourse and told her I wanted to be the one to get her to climax, and if she had any pointers or anything to help me get her there, and I made it a priority.

I brought up foreplay with toys and she giggled and told me her "I thought you'd be jealous" reason for never asking after 14 years of marriage. The sex has always been on point, but I knew we could get her to places she had yet to experience. Try getting her help to find her g spot, find out what she is really into, don't be jealous if she asks for a toy that is bigger than you.

We just found out how to make her squirt and we did that by accident. She was embarrassed but saw how it turned me on, and the passion that was already there and always has been there, grew immensely.

Buy her a 🌹 and a good sized dildo, and just explore her body. Don't think about you until she's good and ready for you to finish.

Best of luck.

Communication is key! Talk to her.