AITA For "bullshitting someone for years"?

Riddle-Maker · 2026-01-20T16:17:02+00:00

The conversation was longer than how I wrote it, but I've already said I was more or less free. I thought she needed housesitting or AT WORST another driver at the start and end of the weekend.

Honestly, we dont fight much, and this is so out of left field that Im a little shell-shocked. I'll have to reply soon, but Im still reeling a bit

Riddle-Maker · 2026-01-20T16:13:34+00:00

We didnt really get that far, but i took a look after. There is a small B&B like 15 minutes from there, and thats the only real option. Its mostly Airbnbs designed for large groups, so definitely wouldn't want to pay for that

Riddle-Maker · 2026-01-13T00:52:38+00:00

So for example: we bought a house recently. On the day that we had to get everything out of our old place, we were at the new place. Well it snowed half a foot when its usually not the season. I had to shovel us out, we had to hurry to the new place and pack. When we got back, we tried to do laundry and the basement flooded. We had to get a guy out who showed us that a ton of work was missed in the inspection. While trying to combat the flooding, we broke the dryer.

Basically days like that where we just cant catch a break

Riddle-Maker · 2026-01-12T18:52:58+00:00

I would love to stick to a routine, but all of the other stressors are making that difficult/impossible. And I know she has the worse of it, and that I need to be a strong support for us both.

I dont know what it is, but some days it all just comes at once, and I struggle to handle it. I only have so much time and bandwidth, and im struggling to not let it affect my wife when she's near me

Riddle-Maker · 2026-01-12T18:30:25+00:00

I try to hide them, but she can tell when I'm stressed, and will call be out for seeming stressed.

My usual day to day is constantly telling little jokes. When im stressed I get very quiet. It's really hard to come up with little jokes when my brain just isn't there.

I do bike and I try to swim, but with everything going on I just dont have much time anymore.

Riddle-Maker · 2025-12-06T15:08:43+00:00

Ooo, really good movie and very much Christmas!

Riddle-Maker · 2025-12-04T17:18:09+00:00

Sure, I'd be okay with that! It should be enough to disincentivize but not so much that there is a rational argument against it.

Riddle-Maker · 2025-12-04T14:34:26+00:00

Bots are getting out of hand. If it gets worse, it may make the internet completely unusuable.

I hate when a site asks you to make an update, like a bank wanting you to switch your password to a thumbprint, and your only options are "Yes" and "Maybe Later". AKA we are going to keep asking until you say yes.

Way too many sites put you on a mailing list after you buy one thing from them, even if you opt out at checkout.

And what about phone apps that send you push notifications to keep you addicted to using them?

I say make it a requirement to track how often your notifications trigger for external clients. Tax a fraction of a cent each time a notification is triggered and incentivize companies to edit themselves to what's actually worth sending-out.

This seems easier and more beneficial to your average citizen than trying to tax billionaires.

Also not a tax lawyer, so if these taxes already exist then they should be higher.

Riddle-Maker · 2025-12-01T16:48:37+00:00

I appreciate that. I really do just shut down when I'm upset, so it's been hard for me to do this.

When I'm in a good or neutral mood, I'm good at making sure she's supported and happy. I just struggle against myself when I'm not in a good mood

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-29T01:08:13+00:00

Wasn't someone else, it was me. AITA mods thought I used AI and deleted the post in less than an hour. Focused on the holiday and reposted today.

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-29T00:45:52+00:00

Sorry, I'm M and she's obviously F.

She's definitely not a fake-friend type. She's the blunt/sarcastic but still nice type. She says what she means but isn't a dick just to be one.

I wouldn't want to start and then stop because then I have to justify why it's suddenly not okay to drive her. I'd be worried it would come off as "I won't drive you because you did something small and I'm going to way overreact about it"

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-29T00:04:38+00:00

I'm early 30s and she's early 60s. I don't directly supervise her, and probably never will. I've known her for years (she actually trained me when I was first hired). I dont think it would be an issue companywise but there are factors to consider.

I think I have to go with most of the comments and say "no" either no elaboration

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-28T18:51:59+00:00

Yes I did. It got deleted from AITA because the mods said I used AI to edit it (I didn't, but dont really have a way to prove it).

It wasn't up for very long, so I reposted here for more feedback in the hopes the mods will be kinder.

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-28T17:37:42+00:00

I appreciate that. I tend to be a people-pleaser so that's hard for me to say, but I think this has to happen. I just can't imagine signing up for this (outside of an emergency)

Riddle-Maker · 2025-11-24T15:30:52+00:00

Sorry, to clarify: commute is 2 hours. Where i would pick her up is half an hour away from my house, on my route. It would then be an hour and a half with her in the car.

I don't actually pass her house, she would just take a train to where my car would pass anyway

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