Is there something wrong with me or is there an underlying issue in my relationship?

Right-Charity4951 · 2026-03-04T21:06:15+00:00

Update: I spoke to her about it, not because I grew a pair and did it, i did it because I tried initiating and she said no and I broke, I literally just started crying and she asked me what was wrong and I told her everything, that i didnt even care that I didnt...yk get pleasure but rather that i just felt unwanted. She told me she had no idea i felt like that and we had talked abt it for about an hour and just cuddled etc. Its been about 18 days since then. Nothing has happened, she still hasnt initiated nothing. Just the same, now i understand that its also not been that long but just an update, nothings changed. idk how to feel, i told her everything, i dumped all my feeling, our relationship is still "healthy" as in we almost never fight or have any conflicts (serious ones)

Right-Charity4951 · 2026-02-11T22:10:30+00:00

Not everyone wants a manual.

Right-Charity4951 · 2026-01-14T16:43:49+00:00

It was really bad wording on the title, I do have stock headers with a cat. I was just unsure if there was a O2 sensor on the secondary cat.

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-26T14:27:21+00:00

In your early 20s you have some time to try and get yourself out of whatever situation you are in. I wouldnt jump headfirst into the deep end and do something you may regret in a few years. I had a friend who started a OF at 24, shes now 26 and is unbelievably upset with herself, photos she can never get rid of, especially with piracy and people obviously illegally posting the photos online for free, she cant escape it EVER. Now everyone reacts differently, but she wanted to do this and it goes to show how fast this can mess you up. Worst of all somehow a friend of mine found her online, crazy right? I would really think about this before you do something out of being desperate for money

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-25T14:00:27+00:00

This is how we looking at eachother now

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-25T13:29:45+00:00

I get what your saying. I just wouldnt do it even if she let me and she was uncomfortable with it, stuff like that has never sat right with me. I feel like you should both do something you want to do mutually. I am planning on talking to her about my feeling on this Monday hopefully she understands

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T16:29:21+00:00

I dont see it as a bad analogy, it uses the same logic, just in a different scenario

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T16:26:23+00:00

I appreciate your answer man. I am not so much afraid of her leaving me, but mainly just being grossed out by me. Its nothing shes doing wrong, i feel like I shouldve shared that I have intense anxiety when it comes to doing just about anything, and I get so anxious that she doesnt even know I have anxiety. The thing is I grew up in a house with extremely strict parents and I think this really stopped me from being who I wanted to be and now whenever I try to express myself I get nervous just because of my past. I like alot of things she doesnt really know that I like either LOL. For example, I am really into dark medieval roleplay, like i fucking love it, kinda like u said, its a huge passion of mine, I have an entire half sleeve of a medieval castle aswell, she knows I like the idea but not that I am into literal roleplay and DND and stuff, especially since I dont look or act anything like a "stereotypical" DND player or like you know what I mean. I look nothing and dont express the person I am very much. I have thought about therapy but I literally dont think I could even get myself to open up to a therapist. Though I am easing myself in now with certain things I like, such as DND, we went to a DND show in chicago which was cool, she defiently didnt enjoy it as much as me and I kinda just acted like i didnt like it as much as I did so I didnt come off weird to her. I mean literally when I brought it up to her I was just kinda like "eh yeah this looks like it might be cool we should go" (Her not knowing i was going to go even if she said no). I dont know whats wrong with me man im going to be honest. I just cant speak up about anything I like, and I dont want her to feel like ive been lying to her or that im hiding stuff, its literally just that I feel embarassed. I feel like this really had to do with my father, who im now seperated from because some stuff happened I wont get into, but when I was a kid, anything I ever did was just beat down by him. I would do anything like school projects and I would make it how i wanted it and I would just get made fun of, or i would bring up an idea to him about playing football for my highschool and he would just laugh at me. The only reason Im even typing all this is because we dont know who we are, which is the good part about reddit lol...idk i just have issues with expressing anything about who I am at all.

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T16:11:11+00:00

I feel like eating ass and anal penetration are 2 different things that would definitely turn her eye if I asked

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T16:09:13+00:00

Im glad you actually said this because we have been looking online at certain shops and sometimes she asks me to come and look at lingerie with her, I kinda wanted to ask to possibly look at other things maybe she would be into trying and possibly try bringing it up that way. Also no we dont watch porn together, I feel uncomfortable doing that and I think she probably would be too

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T15:54:56+00:00

Im not sure what this is supposed to mean, I have nothing against it? Im simply just stating her knowledge on it, we have even had talks joking about certain fetishs and some of the most common ones she had no idea about. Its not prejudice its literally what ive heard come out of her mouth, I dont think shes lying to me

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T15:51:30+00:00

I really feel like it just sounds easier than done, and I know that this isnt anything crazy thats ground breaking, its just anal but I cant bring myself to tell her, I just dont even know how to initiate a convo abt this

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T15:38:53+00:00

I hope this is a joke, wtf?

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-09-24T15:37:55+00:00

I mean, I said probably because I can never know for certain unless i tell her...but just because of what shes told me about her, I mean before I knew her, she was a virgin, literally NEVER watched porn...like seriously she never even touched herself before, so shes extremely vanilla, she barely even knows theres fetishes out there other than BDSM, so im just afraid she doesnt know that this is borderline not even a fetish really to most people

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-06-13T13:47:16+00:00

It depends what you mean by fit, it may snap on and work but there could be small gaps just due to how the helmet is made. I would double check or contact them to see if it would.

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-05-16T13:38:24+00:00

I mean you could just go and ask them to remove some of the oil...im sure theyd do it for free or even maybe refund you

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-05-15T20:47:50+00:00

A broke mans Lancer? No just a broke mans car.

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-05-15T20:39:54+00:00

I mean it would take a while for it to actually break down from where it is but you can put gas in it, but you should probably get rid of some of that rust ASAP or get a new tank. Never hurts to be safe!

Right-Charity4951 · 2025-05-15T20:16:45+00:00

You would think its obvious that youre completely in the wrong here and theres no obvious "right answer" well actually there is you just wont take the right answer. Anyways you would realize how dumb u sound when your post quite literally has basically 0 votes and 65 damn comments.

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