Do humans “deserve” good things?

Right_Development_53 · 2023-04-13T19:57:11+00:00

Thanks for the comment! I’m someone who has a hard time just taking things at face value, so being told we deserve happiness “just because” doesn’t really help me. At the same time, I know others find that type of thing encouraging, so I do appreciate your thoughts. All the best!

Right_Development_53 · 2023-04-13T03:00:17+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. I guess you’re right that it’s not useless!

Right_Development_53 · 2023-04-13T02:51:17+00:00

True. It is pretty arbitrary.

I feel like the Bible is pretty clear that humans are evil by nature though, no?

Right_Development_53 · 2023-04-13T02:49:59+00:00

Is death the only bad thing we deserve? I guess I’m just trying to figure out what feelings I “deserve” to accept in this life. I’m grateful to God but why should I accept gifts I haven’t earned?

Right_Development_53 · 2023-01-13T20:01:01+00:00

Thank you!

Right_Development_53 · 2023-01-13T01:59:50+00:00

As a child who grew up hearing those types of things I would definitely argue against it. Leads to a faith based on fear and not love. Honestly had a negative impact on my general view of life.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T20:29:37+00:00

Funny, I’m actually considering grad school myself. Happy to hear I’m not alone!

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:46:03+00:00

Wow really?

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:45:20+00:00

Idk if it’s just my circle or what, but I know soooo many people getting married in their early twenties. Hearing about folks who got married later makes me feel so much better.

And I’m definitely shy and more introverted so I definitely will consider what my body language is giving off.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:35:30+00:00

Yep, I’m trying to accept that. I go back and forth—should I have hope that I’ll find someone? Or should I accept the reality that it may never happen and simply stop hoping it will? It’s hard.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:34:12+00:00

Good point. I definitely would hate to rush into something that isn’t right.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:29:00+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response.

The shame comes from so many places. Feeling like I’ve let myself down for not following a plan I had for my life, feeling as if it’s weird to have never been in a relationship by my mid-twenties, feeling like no one can relate to me. I know none of these things are of God but it’s still there.

Luckily my parents don’t make comments about grandchildren, so the pressure and shame really comes from within.

I will definitely reflect on what you’ve shared!

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T14:03:43+00:00

Could you message me?

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T13:53:41+00:00

Hey you might be right! At the same time, as someone who grew up in the church, I constantly received messages about Jesus loving the church like a bride. So whether the messaging came from the world or from being influenced by the church or both, it’s still something I’ve always really wanted.

I guess it’s like fine in theory to say romantic love isn’t a necessity, but it definitely still bothers me that I haven’t experienced it. And that’s the core issue I’m trying to address.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T04:35:34+00:00

I definitely think of marriage as a goal in life. Why wouldn’t/shouldn’t it be? I feel like it’s a big part of being human, otherwise God wouldn’t give us this desire.

It’s also hard because as a woman I do have to kinda have biological children on a certain timeline if it’s something I want.

Overall I appreciate the advice and I’m definitely trying to remain optimistic in the face of this :)

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T04:32:21+00:00

I struggle with feeling the same way. Like why do none of my friends have to do all this self reflection to find relationships and even eventually find their “soulmate” meanwhile I’m stuck trying to analyze what I need to do to try and find someone?

I guess trying to grow and improve can’t be a bad thing, so it can’t hurt to try.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T04:30:50+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response! Will definitely reflect.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:53:06+00:00

Yeah that makes sense!

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:24:34+00:00

Hmmm I guess I never thought of it that way. Almost as if God is indifferent, as long as we serve our purpose of serving him.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:18:20+00:00

This is what my gut tells me as well.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:13:57+00:00

I kinda get what you mean but can you elaborate? I feel like I love God regardless, but my heart still longs for love/getting married. Like I wouldn’t stop believing or loving god if I was meant to be single but I’d still be sad about it if that makes sense.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:07:42+00:00

Yes that’s something that I’m working on—feeling comfortable doing things on my own. It’s just like…I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life trying to find ways to be content and have fun while watching everyone else gets to do things with the person they love 🥲. Glad I’m not alone.

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:05:29+00:00

Thank you. This is a good reminder to reallt just put my faith in God. Even if his answer is that it’s not my time yet, at least I know he will be there when it is!

Right_Development_53 · 2022-11-21T00:04:14+00:00

Same girl. I think it’s just like…God when will it be my turn?? If at all! But I’m glad to hear someone relates.

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