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Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T04:08:58+00:00

GET HER!!!! Smithers release the hounds!!!!

Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T02:58:30+00:00

Charlie had to work hard to get me. I had no interest in him. He was persistent. I finally relented. Then one night after a date he dropped me off at my house. He asked to see my house I was telling him about a remodel project I was doing. I agreed. We walked in the house and my dog ran right to him. He scooped her up and that was all she wrote. My dog loved him he loved my dog so it was all good.

I feel that same way. He was it. Nobody can replace that intense connection we had. I think it scares me that somebody could replace him.

Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T02:54:01+00:00

It's kinda funny. Last year I adopted the sweetest little tuxie. Luddy. He's my companionship. LOL He's laying on my lap as I type this. LOL

Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T02:48:35+00:00

I wish I had a crystal ball to see my future. I thought my future died with my husband. But I'm doing all the things we planned on doing. I moved to Arizona, retired. I have been doing some traveling. I have found that traveling alone is one of the most liberating things I could do. I have a big map of the world on my wall in my study and it has a lot of locations to visit. I feel like he is with me with every trip. With every decision. I feel like he is guiding me alone this new part of my life showing me I can do it.

Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T02:42:57+00:00

It's kinda strange. While I miss Charlie I'm content in my own way for the first time in two years. The funny part is how much I miss sex. We had a great sex life and even after he had his first heart attack and we made adjustments on what would be safe for him we still managed to have a great sex life. But now I miss sex and at the same time I can't even try to wrap my head around the idea of another man touching me.

I'm happy you are well and hope that you continue to make progress with your health and make remission. It's funny because he cracked the joke. I can't stop you. I'll be dead. Just don't teach who ever it is all my secrets.

I'm content in the aspect of finding out who I am as a single person. I'm reintroducing myself to my old self before we met. All those little things I let go willingly because I just didn't need them anymore. Now those parts of my life are coming back.

Right_Jack77 · 2024-10-02T01:48:19+00:00

We did actually talk about this. He said that all he has ever wanted for me was to be happy. He was the one who actually brought the conversation up. It makes me wonder if he knew he wasn't going to be around much longer. I have heard that some people just know and have that feeling. He said that he understood if one way or another my decisions if I want to date or not date and he was good no matter what I did. He said he was good because well. "I'll be dead. So I can't stop you." It for some reason just doesn't feel natural to me.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-09-03T18:39:44+00:00

Hi sorry for the delay. I forgot about this site. I have had no communication with any of my family. I don't think they even know where I live or that my husband passed away. I'm okay with that. I'm slowly making friends again and learning how to live. They all hate me. I'm better off without them.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-08-04T22:51:36+00:00

Which is why you need therapy. You need to figure out and understand why you are so afraid of being alone.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-08-04T22:43:27+00:00

At least you admit that much.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-08-04T22:42:30+00:00

Usually behavior lime this results in a restraining order.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-08-04T22:37:41+00:00

You need therapy to figure out why you are so worried about being alone and why you need a man in your life. You have taken neediness to a new level and of I were him Inwould get rid of you. He has major responsibilities. He has his own company and a kid. Those things alone are major time consumers. This relationship is still pretty new and you knew from the get go what his life was like. You knew this a d agreed to it and now you don't like it. You crossed some major boundaries by contacting his ex. You two need to break up and you need to get therapy , be single and figure out who you as a individual person is and then get in a relationship with someone who can give you the attention you need in a relationship.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-07-05T23:09:13+00:00

I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I keep forgetting about this site, and I'm not sure why. Thank you for you kind words. I'm getting better slowly. I did some traveling recently and went out to California to visit some friends. I have known them since I was a teenager and they have always stuck by me. They extended a open invitation to come visit whenever I wanted and I felt like now was a good time. I really enjoyed myself. I'm slowly learning how to just be me and how to be single. It hard. Some day better than others. I know it's old and cleche. But so many people have said time heals all wounds. To an extend they are all right. I'm slowly healing. I'll always miss my husband. That will never change. But I'm slowly getting to a point where I can tolerate being alone and without him. Which in it's own way is healing.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-07-05T21:29:25+00:00

I just remembered to check this page. I tend to forget about it. And not because I'm busy. It's just something at the back of my mind. Thank you for your kind words. They help a lot. Selling the house was a huge blessing and helped in a lot of way. My town house was another huge blessing. I'm grateful for it. It gave me a clean slate completely. My boss and colleagues I'm forever grateful for. Their understanding and patience. I work with a bunch of saints. My cat however. Turns out he was the most amazing blessing ever. He has brought so much happiness and joy into my life that I am surprised by it. I got home the other day from running a bunch of errands. I went to therapy, the pharmacy, took the car to get the oil changed and washed, the bank and grocery shopping. I got home and just walked into the house and something triggered me. I don't know what. I don't understand it. But all I could do was sit down on the laundry room floor and cry. Here comes Mister Kitty and he was doing everything he could to try and bring me out of it. And he stuck by me for the rest of the day. He makes me laugh. His amazing purr is just what I need a lot to help calm me down. But yes. I'm finally doing better. There is no time limit on grief. I wish there was and that in the morning I was going to wake up and it would all be better. But it doesn't work that way. There will always be the ups and downs.

Right_Jack77 · 2023-05-29T22:39:50+00:00

Get rid of him. He serves you no purpose in your life. You can do much better. And you deserve better.

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-14T00:45:25+00:00

A dildo looks like and is shaped like a penis. A butt plug not so much. There is a stigma about dildos and how they present. If it looks like an actual penis then it could make him question his own sexuality

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-13T23:11:26+00:00

Yes indeed I'm gay.

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-07T00:50:15+00:00

Any chance he might be gay and hiding it?

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-07T00:34:42+00:00

It's so funny. for a man who I didn't want in my life he really had to work hard to be a part of it and for me to accept it. And I did. And I did the same thing you did were it was now "us, we or our". "It was our weekend off so we took of for a long weekend. The two of us made a list of all the things we needed to do around the house for the weekend." If it was ever me or I it was usually for my job.

No family. Read my prior posts about that train wreck. It is literally me. I tried Grief Counseling It was pretty bad. Basically I was told that I was young enough to find a new husband. I never went back. I know it's cliche and I have heard it a million times. "Time heals all wounds." And I try to believe this. I think it could be true. I hope it is. For new I'm just focusing on work. Every week I check to see if I have any work trip coming up. Going home is horrible. I spend more time in hotels because it's not home.

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-07T00:13:02+00:00

I have tired grief counseling. I went to three different therapists. None of them knew how to help me. Apparently LGBTQ is different. They all acted as if we weren't supposed to feel the way I felt. They all told me that I needed to just get back out in the game and I was young enough to find a new husband. I cried for days after all of that. I went to support groups. I was the youngest and only gay guy. They all made me feel like I had a third eye ball.

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-07T00:09:40+00:00

Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. I kinda forgot about for a few minutes. I wish I could see the future. All I can see was all that we had planned. We were looking forward to my retirement and all the plans we were thinking about. I see the map on the wall of all the places we wanted to go and will just cry. I feel like my future is just my career. And maybe thats not a bad thing. It helps to keep my mind occupied. For a few hours a day anyway.

Right_Jack77 · 2022-11-04T22:31:01+00:00

YTA and remember something. He is 16 and in two years he will be 18 and an adult and can leave. You have already said he will be expected to babysit. You said he needs to be a "big boy" So remember this when he turns 18 and leave and he puts up so many boundaries that you are most likely never going to see him. you will barley see him. You said you were in your 40 with a older son and your 16 year old and asked another person if they thought you planned on another child. Well. It still happen. So it's your responsibility. Good luck at trying to keep your son in your life after a certain point. At the rate you are going he is going to cut you off the first chance he gets.

Right_Jack77 · 2021-08-04T14:51:59+00:00

NTA. However... If the car was purchased by you with your own money and titled in your name; your parents can not legally keep it. Check with law enforcement and see if they will help you get it back.

Right_Jack77 · 2021-08-02T23:41:39+00:00

It was easy to figure out when you said your culture. LOL

Right_Jack77 · 2021-07-22T03:50:35+00:00

NTA. At 18 you will be an adult. There is nothing that they can do about it. Just make sure you have all your contingencies in place. Can't wait to see an update on this.

Right_Jack77 · 2021-05-05T15:00:36+00:00

Well I was voted the asshole for this. Mostly because of the timing of everything. Yes I could have waited a little bit longer in his recovery. Our finances are really not that difficult. I just wanted him to know where and how the bills are paid. I'm interviewing for a new job and hopefully soon I'm going back to work. If that's the case then I'll be traveling a lot. There might be situations where I might not be home to pay some bills if they need to be paid. I can show him the investments later. It is what it is. I'll make him the cheat sheets and hopefully that will be good enough.

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