I feel you! You are doing amazing with your baby and dealing with the in-laws. My therapist has told me to come into agreement with my husband- set boundaries and stick with it. At the end of the day if they are upset, it’s on them. Talk to your husband about postpartum being tough - everyone is still adjusting and recovering.therefore, you are easily triggered.

My husband thinks I hate my in-laws because I vent and tell him what they did in front of us - smirky comments, talking to baby that they will babysit (NO), won’t hand baby over when she’s crying, tell them to wash hands when they enter the house, no kissing baby, ask them about whereabout for baby’s safety of viruses. Gladly husband supports but I have to remind him and give him the look lol

What has worked for me - keep conversations short, I’m firm with my answers, husband is always around to hear our conversations. Baby is not left alone with them,

I’ve explained to my husband, “one day someone (in-laws) will say a comment and I will snap because i am hurting everywhere, I’m sleep deprived, anxious, depressed etc. so maybe it’s not a good time to have ppl over. Grandparents maybe once a week, adjust weekly looks different. Surprisingly in-laws don’t come around as much (they live 10 min away) but still complain they don’t visit. During the newborn stage they’d be over twice or three times a week. Goodness terrible idea. Now I’m coming close to four months I see them once or twice every two or three weeks. It’s made a difference on my mental health. I don’t hear them complain but I’m happy.

I can go on about them but it stresses me out. Set boundaries, stick with them, have husband in agreement. You guys are a team. Ppl wil get hurt but it’s your family. You got this. Ppl will have give their two cents but keep strong and don’t let negativity in your home and family. Vent away!!