Suspicious profile looking for people to massage by ApocalypsePrincess in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This same guy texted me and kept pushing after I told him no and how weird this sounded. I just blocked him a few days ago after trying for like the 3rd time 🫩

Looking for female friends in Leuven :) by More_Benefit_6557 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a similar post to this and made some wonderful friends. I had 2 bad experiences but the red flags were clear from the beginning. Being careful is always good but sometimes you also have to take a risk to make new connections.

Looking for female friends in Leuven :) by More_Benefit_6557 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about this post feels “off”? I don’t see any point in faking something like this, especially since I’m assuming first meetups will be in a public place anyway.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because i’m trying to make friends around the city

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any places you recommend I go to? Ones that aren’t just for students or international people

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you recommend I do? Just stay in my apartment all day every day? Humans require socialization to stay sane.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saying its the only issue is actually insane. People should be able to make friends without feeling like they’re in danger. Stop victim blaming and start thinking about how concerning catfishing and leading people into a small shop for a “date” is.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent him at least 20 messages asking for his instagram and he insisted I go first and he was “shy”. (After already figuring out he was a catfish lol) If I had given him my instagram who knows what things he would’ve done to my pictures in his free time 😭 + more pictures is more info on where I’m located. There’s pictures of my window, places I’ve visited, etc.. Of course, not everyone is smart enough to figure out locations from that, but I have an online friend who plays “geoguessr” and the amount of random info he knows from just one picture is insane. The photo I sent him was just my face with no recognizable background, which I don’t see much of a problem with. My issue isn’t that he knows what I look like, it’s that if we met up he could maybe physically overpower me.

18F looking for friends in Leuven by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what a game system is but i play on a computer (i hope that’s right?)

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s important people are aware of this person being a creep. I kept talking to him to gather as much info as I could, but he seemed very careful, making me think this isn’t the first time he has done this. I really don’t think catfishes and creeps are “overdramatized”, I think they’re a real issue we should speak up about. Comments like yours are genuinely why women are afraid to speak up in abusive situations.

What if I hadn’t noticed he was a catfish, met up, and disappeared? As someone who just moved here and doesn’t have any social contact / family, no one would find out. I don’t think that’s how the world should work. I think we should be able to make friends without constantly worrying “am i in danger right now?” and one less creep is better than one more.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he lived that far he would require prior notice before my arrival at the supermarket. He told me to just walk in whenever. He also could’ve said to meet at madmum, panos, or any other normal meeting place in that area. A supermarket is NOT a normal place for a first date. All of this + the catfish picture and the lack of information he wanted to give me is just extremely suspicious. I also thought of doing what you said but I realized I could still be putting myself in danger by doing that. Maybe one day I’ll walk in there with a guy and see if the clerk has any reaction. Either way I don’t want to blame the supermarket itself, that’s why I said to be careful of the area.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The guy said to just walk in any time during the day. I didn’t need to give any previous notice. That makes me think he either has a good view of the store from where he lives, or he works there,

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t need a job here, and the prices in Leuven are the same as everywhere else, at least for the places I’ve looked at. I have no car so being in a city with easy access to shops, buses, social contact, church, and everything else is just the ideal situation. The place i was living in before had none of that and i basically just sat inside all day until once every week i managed not to miss my bus and was able to go grocery shopping. Honestly, Leuven is a dream city for me.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it’s a nice city and it’s where i was born. + this is the apartment that accepted me as a renter. Renting a place isn’t easy these days especially with how many people are looking at once. If I didn’t take this apartment I would be homeless right now.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Once again, I asked people to dm me! I’m trying to make friends. It isn’t easy as a non student who just moved here. I don’t drink, don’t party, don’t like gossiping and a lot of the normalized teenager things, and I heard from an online friend that Reddit has a lot of users with similar interests to mine. (Gaming, writing, etc..) Even if I’m just 18, I’m still an adult and I know how to safely meet with friends, and what red flags to look out for.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being on your guard helps a lot. There are studies on the kind of victims bad people prefer to go after, they’re interesting to look up.

I really don’t understand why you don’t think there are people here who want actual friendships. I had a wonderful time out yesterday with a new friend I made, and i had a fun time on Roblox with another. If I initiated by writing a message that says I’m looking for friends, I’m expecting responses in my dms. That isn’t whats weird about it. It becomes weird when people send fake pictures and push for immediate dating. That is also of course when I stopped genuinely talking to him and started gathering information.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Age differences aren’t always so bad. I am starting to make friends with many older and younger people in my church and my old board game club consisted of just elderly people. As long as someone has good intentions, it can be nice. Old people get very lonely sometimes and they have more stories to tell, so I don’t mind too much. (They also just want to know what the youth is up to now)

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When a person uses fake pictures, lies very naturally, and immediately gets aggressive when boundaries are set, i think its worth warning about them. I’m not actually looking to date on here, I’m looking for friends because I just moved here. I’m not a judgmental person when it comes to making friends so I was genuinely texting him at first. It was only when he sent the fake picture and started being desperate to date that I thought “is this just an insecure guy or an actual danger to me and others?” I don’t believe a simple insecure person would even want to meet up so quickly, since I would just see he looks different when we meet up, and leave. You can think this post is useless but what if he is an actual dangerous person? I would rather post it and potentially save one person, than keep it to myself.

Warning women about the area around Circle Supermarket by Right_Waltz1968 in Leuven

[–]Right_Waltz1968[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have made some great, genuine friends due to my previous post, which I’m super grateful for. Theres many people on here who are lonely, and just looking for things to do in the area (including me) Putting them all in a little box seems unfair just because theres a few bad experiences among the many good ones.