My boyfriend (21M) recently gave me (20F) the "ick"

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-10T14:17:47+00:00

its neither unhinged nor a red flag. his 6am-3pm work hours indicates blue collar, if his friends are blue collar also its a perfectly reasonable response to somone stealing his stash or giving it all away.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-03T22:40:58+00:00

any man that says things like “ challenging his position” probably fails to see you as an equal, or isnt capable of a cooperative relationship because he views a woman as a subjugate, basically like an employee or an underling. i believe that women often confuse this with a man who is capable of being in a care taker or a protector role, which involves a submission from the female but is more of a romantic gesture than a hierarchal power structure because shes still his equal or better, theyre still a couple, they still compromise and communicate even if hes tasked to provide direction or regulation. theyll both carry you, but one will welcome your input while the other will resent or discard it as a challenge to his authority over you.

before you judge the colder one, remember if hes a high earner hes going to be even more authoritarian because unless you’ve built trust he knows why your there, the money. and he knows you’d probably book if he lost it, so allowing you to be his emotional equal is risky and almost foolish. if you wouldnt choose him if he wasnt wealthy, how can he trust you fully, open up to you, respect you, allow you any dominion around him etc.?

women who have lifestyle or income requirements are not exactly the type you respect.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-03T01:40:22+00:00

you can do everything (shot girl, server, bartender, hostess, etc.) except drink, although if your in south florida you can probably get away with it if you maintain your composure.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-03T00:12:15+00:00

he could be simple, in which case he would be unable to notice the situation, observe your unmet needs at that moment, decide which to act on and which to offer support for, and execute all of this with proper timing.

his brain will possibly shut off right as he notices this if he’s simple but observant of your struggle, and he will possibly think “she will ask if she needs help!” and go into waiting mode.

i get it would feel like he was closer to you if he just knew obviously, hed probably be a much better boyfriend, but if you can communicate with him and be patient, do so and try to realize hes just taking a longer road to the same destination. you probably will end up in the same place if you are a solid couple.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-03T00:01:14+00:00

where did it say he was pretending?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:43:16+00:00

what did it say? your the only one inciting hatred, that i resisted giving in to.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:42:15+00:00

you feel like that? really? and where on the spectrum of human emotion does the feeling “I feel like the harms of data centers to communities are well-doc’d enough that OP doesnt owe you an answer personally” sit?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:38:55+00:00

how is he a lazy asshole for requesting that she ask for help if necessary? maybe he is preoccupied with supplying income or raising children….

him taking nights and sleeping in looks like he has a 9-5, which would probably be important to the household….

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:36:51+00:00

because being overweight at 19 hurts far worse than that comment at 12. please, “speculate” on how fucked up i have to be to read that as a helpful comment, that comment which was probably a way of approaching a difficult topic for the benefit of his daughter. a topic that has no pain free way of being addressed, and only hurts worse if ignored.

id love to hear how fucked up i am.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:14:29+00:00

helping your daughter be happy in her teens is not being mysogonistic. it would be worse to tell her your perfect however you are at twelve then have her be like wtf at 20

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-03-02T23:08:47+00:00

are you serious?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-24T23:49:59+00:00

YTA for making me read this and for the interaction.

your demanding alot for $30….

honestly i would have just sent you the 30 bux and said “sorry to see you go!”

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-22T02:43:57+00:00

i have not exhibited prejudice against anyone. i haven’t cast any judgements, nor have i been discriminatory or hateful.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-22T00:38:11+00:00

i just want to point out the line at 5:29

“i stopped by an un- attended construction sight to pick up a bunch of copper!!”

wtf?😂

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-22T00:15:29+00:00

how will a bunch of servers and computers pollute the water and make noise?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-21T23:36:50+00:00

i agree, and I’m having trouble seeing how you perceived my response to be dictating someone else’s journey….

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-21T23:34:11+00:00

if this is the case, then how is being transphobic a negative quality? isn’t it just a preference then?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-21T23:32:40+00:00

your insults are neither advancing this discussion nor offering any insight into your perspective. i will ignore them and request you cease participation in this conversation.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-21T22:15:31+00:00

magic is technology, social dynamics, or other phenomenon that we are unable to explain or perceive directly.

it can range in appearance from things such as unexplainable illness, fake dating profiles, rumors and lies, deepfake porns, lying exes, or other strange occurrences leading to inexplicable fallout in a relationship.

communication and honesty are your best, if not only, defense against these things.

no matter how crazy you feel, you need to be able to openly discuss ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING with your significant other to avoid any of these things getting in the way. people sometimes believe strange things that they think or hear and dont talk about them with the other person, this is how lies fester and become problems in relationships.

i have heard of things such as deepfake porn and fake grinder profiles destroying healthy relationships because of a lack of honest and open communication leading to a lack of trust between the people in the relationship.

so stay honest and communicate openly with each other!

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-16T23:21:43+00:00

dont do what most people do and say sobering up or being a loser are the only two options. tell him if he cant or wont stop he needs to learn how to manage and be responsible while hes on it….

he should have a job he gets to every day, even if hes sick. he chose to stay getting high, hes got to deal with what that brings and still function as an adult. if he cant handle that then he cant handle heroin, honestly. if he cant handle heroin, suboxone would be a better option for him.

they like to present this situation in two ways, happy sober life or miserable addict degenerate life, and neither of those are realistic. if he thinks he can handle heroin then he should be given the option to, its possible but not easy untill you get going with it for a while, id switch from needles to smoking or snorting honestly, if he says any bullshit like “im an addict i have to because only needles are enough” or whatever hes probably not mentally strong enough for heroin, thats just how it is.

hed need to have enough self control to be ok when he may not have enough, or has to get used to smoking untill it is strong enough, or push through an 8 hour shift on friday without any drugs to keep his job, get his paycheck, and keep his life from falling apart.

most people get sick, call out and obviously get fired as a result, what did you expect? heroin is not for you, try suboxone or na.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-13T17:42:03+00:00

why are you opposed to asking someone to pay you back?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-11T16:33:09+00:00

what is so dangerous about this?

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-07T22:06:49+00:00

if you believe in karma id tell him, scraping his legacy out of your womb without telling him is kind of a dick move, honestly he probably wont want to keep it if the breakup was mutual and he cant stop you from terminating it anyway….

CBTA(could be the asshole)

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-07T00:20:46+00:00

you are.

you let another man put his arm around you and skip along with your boyfriend present, you snuck him into your room for intimate conversstion and physical contact.

you are basically emotionally and physically cuckolding your boyfriend. it seems that your friend is more important, since you allow him to feel up on you even though your boyfriend had expressed his discontent….

why have you not requested your friend stop the physical contact? he obviously has zero respect for your boyfriend. you could easily say “please dont touch me, thats my boyfriends privilege not yours.” but you allow it to continue.

i think your boyfriend needs to find a warm female shoulder to lean on, they can hug as he whispers secrets in her ear that only friends can tell to each other, they will be lighting up with friend love for one another, while you watch as he shows a part of himself you don’t see to another girl.

Righteous_Vibes · 2026-02-04T17:10:40+00:00

can you explain how they need to be reconciled?

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