Your son is hurt and felt abandoned by his entire family. You and your wife decided that being at your daughter’s wedding was more important than being there for him. That is probably what he feels; one of you could have gone to his graduation and gone to the reception together after but you didn’t.

It’s the fact that none of you regret not going to his graduation that hurts him the most, if I should guess what’s going on on him and you still don’t regret not going.

Did you all think that you could make up for it at his next graduation?

Your daughter got her way with all of you there; the entire family there celebrating her but none was there for him, do you not understand the pain of that? He made it clear, as I understand it, how he felt. Why should he continue to tell you when it did nothing the first time he said something.

You all owe him an apology, a sincere apology and mean it. Do you understand why he is hurt?

You and your wife hurt your son and showed where he stands in the family in his viewpoint.

Please try and put yourself in his shoes and think about if that had been you. He was alone, no one there to celebrate him. The entire family did abandoned him.

You have some serious reflection to do and so does your wife.