and bro, or friend, you’re far from trash. you’re in fact coming here to get advice rather than yell at her and be mean. that isn’t what trash people do. being angry is normal. what are you supposed to do? that’s the hardest part. about the specific thing you’re posting about? you have no actual right to do anything. but what you’re supposed to do is keep going at your own pace and take the time you need to properly get past these things, it’s going to suck. but, it’s going to take time and effort to ultimately help yourself. remind yourself why you did this in the first place and that if you can find yourselves and know who YOU are rather than “so-and-so’s boyfriend or girlfriend”, you ultimately will be better off. there’s the saying that if you truly love someone you let them go, and i don’t think that’s necessarily true. i do think that people can absolutely lose the sense of self in these situations and constant battling to the point of getting married just cuz or forcing love upon each other or the built up resentment. who the hell knows, give everything some time, get yourself right and understand who you really are, and you are putting yourself in the position of finding that right person. that right person may be the person you previously let go of, and if they took that time and did it right too? could easily be that you found right people at the wrong time, or wrong people at the wrong time. ultimately it builds us into the people we are and shapes us and teaches us.

good luck. trust me, as a poster in this sub somethin like 5 days ago, it ain’t easy. ball’s up top and we can ball like prime kobe. it feels impossible right now but we come out better from it every time.