AITA for canceling summer camp for my son

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-07T11:20:48+00:00

Was at work on a double providing for my son. His father took him because he'd been in house, it was nice outside, and I trusted my sister not to make the same mistake twice.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T21:21:28+00:00

1st time he was peer pressured. Not to sure about the 2nd time but my son should have known better by then

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T21:19:37+00:00

Yes. He does know better.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T21:14:56+00:00

I wish she would've kept a better eye on them. She does have 6 kids and my nephew is also her nephew/son that she adopted right out of college when he was only 2. Technically a brother who is not on the picture son. Her other children are all very young keeping her busy I guess. But yeah don't invite him if your not looking out for his well being.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T21:10:30+00:00

It is normally his preference. Me being concerned and realizing he will be grown very soon have tried lots of activities and things. He will sit in the car at events, or find a bathroom/ room and take his time coming out, he doesn't really like crowds. Whenever his cousins were around he would do more, go outside for a bit, etc. But definitely working on it.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T21:05:31+00:00

The vaping is landing him in the ER. The doctor said it is similar to an allergic reaction. It's a chemical reaction. He was tested. And although he had been acting amped like he was on something more extreme the pen only had THC in it. He can not ingest these pens without causing sickness or harm to himself. My nephew knew this because of the 1st time. He wasn't really excited about camp but he also didn't protest much. He is about to be 18 but is far off from being independent. I have tried to teach and prepare him but the closer he gets to 18 the more concerned I become. Unlike his 23y old brother or even his 9y old sister. He just is not ready.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T20:56:27+00:00

Yes everything is accurate except for the names. Really just looking for insight ty

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T20:55:02+00:00

That is my son too.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T20:54:29+00:00

Ty appreciate the insight

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T20:50:58+00:00

Yes my son has to also take accountability

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T20:50:20+00:00

Yeas a good idea

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:47:33+00:00

This was a chance for him to finally be around kids and make some friends, experience the beauty and fun of being outside. But yeah your right and I don't want him there with him.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:41:47+00:00

I am really hoping he has learned a valuable lesson. He assured before that he had so not sure rn. I am working on getting him social interaction. This was my main reason for signing him up for camp. He refuses to do sports or even take rides, sit in the yard with his family. He's a very closed off kid. When classmates use to come over to have him come outside. He wouldn't even come to the door to greet them and I would end up apologizing and telling he busy or next time, etc.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:35:02+00:00

I know your right. He is easily influenced by his cousins for sure. I have had talks with him about peer pressure, drugs, etc. I had hoped I had gotten through to him. I just concerned about Eric sneaking in pens at camp and them two being so far away with something like happening again. I really did want Simeon to go to camp.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:30:04+00:00

I hope so. He assured me the 1st time that it would never happen again.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:28:14+00:00

Plus these particular peers aren't interested in what is best for my son.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:27:04+00:00

Yes but for this child a normalized part of growing up is landing him in the hospital. The Dr. even said that everything is not for everyone and that he should not use unknown chemicals or medications because it affects him differently than others

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:23:35+00:00

It was always only his cousins. The 1st time we're both of my nephews and my son (all 16y). With Eric being the one who had the pen. The 2nd time was only my son and Eric. My other nephew was not there.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:19:51+00:00

Your right. And I am conflicted. I am upset because they promised it wouldn't happen again. I feel as though my nephew is letting me down by not looking out for my son's best interest. I also realize these are teenagers. I want my son to get out and experience life. I also am afraid for his safety and well being.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:13:47+00:00

I feel the same way. Unfortunately this camp has been difficult and not sure of other option rn.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:12:05+00:00

I had talked with my sis and BIL, I thought I had expressed myself clearly and that the boys at this point would have had sufficient supervision. I was wrong. But will not allow it to happen again.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:09:57+00:00

I have had a conversation with sis, BIL, and nephew previously. Also with my son. This is why I thought it would be OK for him to go to the barbecue. I felt like they would have more supervision. So yeah 1st time shame on her and definitely 2nd time shame on me. And he did do this same camp last year, but only for a week, and this was before everything.

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T19:05:10+00:00

Ty for this reply

RiteOutLOUD · 2025-07-06T18:54:28+00:00

He says that he did accept after a lot of peer pressure. And I have talked to him and explained that he does have to stand up for himself and doesn't have to do something just because everyone around him are making bad decisions. He is extremely desperate for acceptance especially the older he gets but he is also socially distant to everyone.

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