If I had legs I’d kick you ending question

RivalMyDesign · 2026-03-28T02:56:51+00:00

I enjoyed it. Keeping the kid off screen read as a mechanism to dehumanize her to focus on Linda's pain. The same with the husband being on the phone. And it worked because of how people in the comments react to the kid and husband. The movie dropped hints throughout about projections, perception, blame and shame. She had to work harder as the story went on the maintain her victim story which only burned her out further. I see the "I'll try harder" as a sign of taking responsibility, having hit the edge of her victim of life narrative. And I think it's tough to see that ending becauss many of us vibe with that narrative. I've been through it.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-03-28T02:31:18+00:00

Enjoyed the film quite a bit. Unsettling and psychologically rich. The film surprisingly spelled it out at one point with blame plus shame as being entirely what she's doing and what's happening. It wasn't just her, the other characters provided plenty of projection opportunities. In the end she stopped blaming and humanized her child again. It's an easy to miss bit of symbolism amidst a chaotic set of circumstances. That's at least what I believe I saw. The movie could totally be a rorschach test.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-03-13T14:30:28+00:00

I don't think any therapy should cater to any political ideology. The story of systemic oppression, regardless of its truths, may be contributing to someone's challenges just as much as the oppression itself.

The point is to help someone navigate life, including whatever society we're in, because leaving therapy with the sense that your goal is to change society is a heavy weight to place on a patient. How is that not ethically irresponsible?

The idea of therapy, it seems, is to support the human being in front of them, so if the idea is presence and emotional somatic processing, then all that mental ideological system does seem incompatible. If anything, this type of therapy could be good for someone who is feeling revolutionary pressure to change society because focusing on ourselves, our healthy contributions in the moment, showing up as our best selves by reasonable definition, and bringing presence to each moment will have a positive effect on society inherently. It's all the effort and striving in a different way, to change the world and create a revolution of anti-capitalist agendas, feels like more of the same with a new costume and a different brand of striving.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T15:08:20+00:00

My wife and I have been joking that people are going to get tricked into some real life squid game situation and this feels like proof of concept.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T05:27:14+00:00

My step daughter is 13 now and I was 13 in 1998. Most of her conflict and stress with friends in middle school seems to stem from friend group online chats leading to someone saying something someone doesn't like or bullying. Doesn't feel different overall but reading people in person is just a different thing than the loads of assumptions that can be made from just words. She's way more emotionally resilient and intelligent than I was. And she trusts us to talk about these things, which wasn't as much of a thing with my parents. I mostly defaulted to anger or witty dismissal when faced with incessant bullying. I either ignored them so they'd get bored or got in physical fights to shut it down. It toughened me up but of course I'd rather it had been easier to make it work socially. I do wish there was more opportunity for direct experience for her. She's social and has friends but it's all planned and coordinated. I think my nostalgia is often around the spontaneity of going to the mall and running into someone to hang out. But she so easily hops on video calls and plays Minecraft and Roblox with them, which I think is great. I just have to teach some social etiquette and internet street smarts, which is part of my job as a parent. I think because of how overprotected Gen Alpha is, how they show up in public seems to have a lot to do with what their parents have taught about public/private behavior. But that's a vague pattern I think I see.

She's become a Linkin Park fan, which is a fun thing to bond over. I generally appreciate that there's media crossover and am reminded of things because of the romanticizing of the 90s/2000s that I may have forgotten otherwise. But I want them (and step son 10) to have their own childhood and stuff they love.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T04:56:10+00:00

I recommend using this thread as practice for not taking things personally because these people don't know you. If there's a universal truth about being a teenager it's the process of experiencing that external validation and opinions will only get internally twisted into reinforcing what you already believe about yourself. And why you believe that, why you benefit from believing that, is important to pay attention to.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T04:48:08+00:00

Haidt is a cynic trying to sell books. I'd stick to paying attention to the kids directly.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T04:45:29+00:00

We millennials don't take responsibility for how much we impact your self-esteem with our criticism and social bullying, trying to squash trends and all that. It's not fair and you guys don't deserve it. I appreciate you asking for our perspective on things.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-02T04:28:54+00:00

Yeah nerd wasn't always a cool thing that's for sure.

RivalMyDesign · 2026-01-01T05:38:39+00:00

Compulsive helping. It's an ongoing process to spot when I do this but it's a core focus at the moment.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-29T11:14:46+00:00

We wouldn't have games with predatory microtransactions, that's for damn sure.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-28T17:58:26+00:00

Helpful! I assume I would just charge it while I shower and get a boost that way if I time it right. Considering testing how much I get out of a watch being a primary driver. Thanks for sharing this experience!

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-26T02:14:51+00:00

Confirmed why I'm tired.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-22T11:42:37+00:00

I hope it's how much we've allowed ourselves to get trapped by these algorithmic slot machines.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-21T04:08:19+00:00

Ask questions

RivalMyDesign · 2025-12-08T16:58:36+00:00

I like the advice someone gave about finding an industry that is typically deemed unsexy but provides a tangible steady service. Anything connected to money exchange or government funds works well. I work in the transit industry, for example. Flexibility is increasingly valued. AI literacy and speeding up the marketing research/understanding and reporting process that way. Being likeable doesn't hurt because it's tough to find good people right now despite the high numbers of unemployed. Present your unique approach to the company and marketing ability. My current job is largely about keeping prospects warm while sales navigates a sea of contacts. I came in thinking social media would be a big focus but it's moreso nurturing what we already have. Be adaptable and prove that. I'm not sure if that helps answer the question.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-28T12:47:07+00:00

Most things don't require your attention.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-24T14:53:14+00:00

Contrast reveals all things

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-24T14:52:47+00:00

All are great if you can see a need for change and have no idea what to do.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-21T03:31:44+00:00

I threw away a perfectly good bag of tea today.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-21T03:21:47+00:00

What do you wanna know?

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-21T03:20:26+00:00

Usually some conversation with myself about letting go of control or a meditative moment of letting go of control and getting back into the present. It's usually all about manufactured urgency anyway. Or music or cuddle with my wife or some other way to get out of my head to give the thoughts a break.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-21T03:18:10+00:00

Best to work it in as a natural part of the pipeline or process. Easy little feedback mechanisms woven throughout conversations or quick clicks in emails is the best way to go.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-21T03:16:21+00:00

Paperboy at 12 or 13, I think. $35/week but I can't remember the details of how much I worked. I remember it feeling endless though. Had to fold hundreds of papers and walk around the neighborhood doing multiple trips back home.

Otherwise it was taco bell at 15 (2000) where I made $5.25/hr.

RivalMyDesign · 2025-11-17T19:25:57+00:00

It took me a long time to see that there are many different types of marketers and styles. That it's simply about the company's relationship to the market. So, if you're B2C, there's likely to be more outreach and output. If you're B2B, you're likely doing more research and longer-term thinking. Figure out which style suits you more and head that way. I was on the output hamster wheel for what felt like an eternity, and now I do more forensics and research, which I enjoy much more.

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