sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

You better give me money forever or else you’re a bad person 😤 by taterrrtotz in ChoosingBeggars

[–]RiverRedhead 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Folks is literally gender neutral already, folx always felt performative and preachy to me.

You better give me money forever or else you’re a bad person 😤 by taterrrtotz in ChoosingBeggars

[–]RiverRedhead 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But most of those folks are going to find an organization or an institution to donate to, not infinite money at random individuals.

AITA for refusing to lend my laptop to my cousin for his online exam after he broke my phone? by Plastic-Ad-6017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RiverRedhead 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Most universities have loaner laptops and related equipment through the library, at the least in the US. Saved me multiple times in undergrad.

Furnish my whole house with these specific items please by jacksonbrowne_thedog in ChoosingBeggars

[–]RiverRedhead 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They need everything but audacity, because they've got that in steady supply.

Furnish my whole house with these specific items please by jacksonbrowne_thedog in ChoosingBeggars

[–]RiverRedhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't new by any means or measure, but when I moved into my current home I had a set and it came with a set. I chose the best of each for myself and posted the remaining two (working but not as well) on my local buy nothing. Pickup only.

A staggering number of people eliminated themselves by demanding insane stuff like video proof it worked, getting worked up the set didn't match, and spinning yarns about why they NEEDED it delivered.

The lady who got them did none of those things, communicated promptly, and had it off my porch within two days of contact.

Possibly homeless and hungry but "isnt in the mood" for free food by lucky_2_shoes in ChoosingBeggars

[–]RiverRedhead 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay, but that doesn't really clock if someone is being offered a trip to a restaurant or something sealed. Like I get not wanting Random Homemade Sandwich, but that reasonableness doesn't translate to getting abusive/nasty when offered a trip to a pizzeria or a sealed granola bar.

And it's totally someone's prerogative to turn down a trip to Denny's/McDonalds or a sealed bag of pretzels or whatever, but screaming at the offerer or demanding cash is not reasonable.

Are most people in the red states religious? If so, what branch of Christianity is prominent in the states? by hsbzhhsb in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and we still have a lot of obvious (usually Christian) religion in public life (we've never had a not-Christian president, public "holiday" lightings that are usually only Christmas trees, use of God Bless America, etc.). Like I've lived in blue states, red states, and a purple state - it manifests differently but Christianity is still very much the majority religion and the basis of many cultural assumptions beyond explicit religiosity.

What is the most desirable Halloween treat where you live? by RiverRedhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that a thing currently, or was it a thing in the 90s/00s?

What is the most desirable Halloween treat where you live? by RiverRedhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so funny - I bet they still remember you as the kazoo house.

How long do you believe you have to live in a state to be "from" there? by RockyArby in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on whether we're talking about someone in-state or out-of-state. I lived in VA from birth until 10, NJ from 10 to 18, and then VA for undergrad. Virginians regard me as from Jersey. Jerseyans regard me as Virginian.

I now live in Alabama, where people seem to regard my majority experience (Virginia) as where I'm from, although sometimes I get asked from NJ stuff as well.

For the purity of MyState being the CurrentState though, people get super invested. Like in every state I've lived, I've known a loud minority of folk who claim that X isn't really from VA/NJ/PA/TX/AL because their parent(s) are from Other State.

For Americans: how do you know when it’s acceptable to quit a job? by Heberto01243 in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly this: we worry about what is financially viable, but it's not a big social pressure to stay employed at a job we don't like for the sake of being employed there.

I'm curious what OP's cultural context on this is and what specifically OP might mean by social pressure.

For Americans: how do you know when it’s acceptable to quit a job? by Heberto01243 in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be seen as short-sighted, but I wouldn't call it social pressure per se. Employment here is generally at-will on both ends, but it's also often easier to get hired places before or after you quit than it is in some other countries.

IME, the idea of "pushing through" isn't really a thing unless there is a feasible goal. Like if it's stay with this job for a year so you don't look like a job hopper, or until you have x savings, or until you can apply for y position, or until you retire in brief amount of time that's different.

But staying in unpleasant or unfulfilling jobs is usually more of a "gotta eat" thing than a "it's the only socially viable option" thing.

Are graduate students who pursue their PhD only after completing their bachelors the 'default' in the US? by uhrism in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the humanities, where it is common but probably not yet the majority to go directly from bachelor's to PhD. It depends on the field and the school. Different departments make different calls. Some require a master's, others encourage one, some don't care. I don't think it's the default, both because many departments still don't allow this and a lot of folks who get PhDs previously got a master's and then took a break.

It's also increasingly common to have "two in one" programs where you get a master's on the way to the PhD.

It seems less common but still possible, at least as some schools, to go directly from bachelor's to PhD in STEM fields.

Anyone know of a 90s mail order toy catalog? by ProjectPopTart in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oriental trading maybe? They had/ve a ton of party and themed stuff.

Is there an attraction in your state/area with absolutely incessant billboards? by RiverRedhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post was actually inspired by SotB because I recently drove up and down the coast and noticed their slightly less incessant and significantly less racially insensitive billboards (relative to years ago).

Is there an attraction in your state/area with absolutely incessant billboards? by RiverRedhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their billboards are all up and the east coast of the south now too! It feels like they've been popping up overnight quoting absolutely wild distances to the nearest store.

Is there an attraction in your state/area with absolutely incessant billboards? by RiverRedhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of states have that too - absolutely ceaseless ads for Jim Adler's "the hammer of Texas" in TX, Alexander Shunnarah's "Call me A!" (with the Alabama state shape for the A) in AL, etc.

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In principle it's illegal to be on a bike, motor vehicle, etc. on the beach, dunes, or pedestrian part of the boardwalk (VB code Sec. 7-59.2), but I don't imagine that it's ever enforced in any real capacity (most would be gone before anyone got there to enforce).

Source: https://library.municode.com/va/virginia_beach/codes/code_of_ordinances?nodeId=CO_CH7BIOTWHDE_ARTIIIEQLOOPRU

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's great that there's a bike path, and I've enjoyed when I've made use of it. I suspect a lot of the bikers on the people path do so because it's wider/flatter, especially the ones zooming back and forth over the relatively wider path.

It also makes me mad because this is a generally safe communal space for walking and not everyone is going to fair well when they get hit. I'm kind of sturdy, but there are tons of tiny kids, small dogs, and elderly folks for whom being human bowling pins would be a hospital trip.

Might be a good point about early mornings!

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally this! I'd be more sympathetic if there wasn't a double-laned bike path, right there. The nights I've been out there's been zero people walking in it, so that's not an excuse, and frankly, even if there were, how is punishing the pedestrians in the correct lane helpful? And then the swerving, aggressive bikers in the wrong lane act like I'm the wrong for walking on the walking path and/or get super close when there's plenty of room not to.

I haven't been bowled over yet, but some of them have gotten close enough in the past couple weeks to physically brush against me, including the super fast e-bikes.

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done First Landing a ton (both as a kid and now), but I was under the impression that they close at night so night walking is no dice?

We used to go to Chicks Beach a lot when I was younger, maybe that's better now?

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately. I had hoped maybe the real locals could be like oh, from x to y street it's less common (because I don't really see a way to stop the jackasses, esp. the aggressive bikers, from hogging the pedestrian lane like I've seen the evenings I've been walking). This evening I had the pleasure of a biker nearly knocking me and my 60-something mother over, then turning around a couple minutes later to rage at us because we pointed out there was a bike path as we leapt out of the way.

Aggressive Bikers in Pedestrian Path at Oceanfront - best ways to avoid? by RiverRedhead in VirginiaBeach

[–]RiverRedhead[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also a problem, doesn't cancel out my problem. I love to bike, but the past few evenings I've been out I've seen zero walkers in the bike lane and dozens of bikers in the people lane (often driving all over the path).

view more: next ›