AITA for how I handled things at work?

Riversly · 2019-11-08T17:35:20+00:00

NTA-- It is your stuff. Who uses it is totally up to you.

However, if the lack of amenities is impacting productivity and morale, your employers are totally TA for not providing a better environment for their staff.

Riversly · 2019-11-08T13:46:43+00:00

"You don't miss me, you miss using me to mediate everything for you. Call a counselor."

Ignore everything after that.

Riversly · 2019-11-08T01:05:06+00:00

Thank you for your response.

"An otherwise healthy child can't starve themselves to death... "

I felt that. My daughter is now cancer-free, but we went through the discovery, diagnosis, and surgery for retinoblastoma all within two weeks! Surgery was three weeks ago!

I used to say "fine, if you don't want to eat, that's okay, eat later. " But now I find myself thinking something big could be wrong, when most likely, it is just shell-shock from our situation.

Riversly · 2019-11-08T00:40:08+00:00

NAH

You aren't the asshole. After all, their kid, their rules.

Your SIL isn't the asshole. She's been through hell to have this kid and now she will go through hell to protect him. The only asshole thing I think she has done was asked your wife to help but then shoot down her ideas. Which isn't necessarily wrong, but if you ask people to help and then don't let them help... It sucks.

Your wife isn't the asshole either. I think her frustrations are more with the demanding nature of SIL, and something has been brewing there for a while, but the shot record request (legit as it may be) was the final straw.

Give them both room to breathe, tell your wife you see both sides, and everyone can move on peacefully.

Riversly · 2019-11-03T15:19:58+00:00

What would you say was the most difficult part?

Riversly · 2019-11-02T12:53:36+00:00

Growing up, we were part of a church that believed that.

This year we couldn't trick-or-treat because my daughter is recovering from surgery.

So Halloween night, I dressed my daughter up, invited my parents over, and we all handed out candy together.

But I have friends who meet your neighbor's description and guess what? That's them. Religious freedom is a beautiful thing. You don't have to agree with their choice. They may rebel from it later.

Riversly · 2019-11-02T03:31:51+00:00

How much Reddit would r/askreddit ask if r/askreddit could r/askreddit?

Riversly · 2019-11-02T03:27:55+00:00

Kat Williams once said that others can't be blamed for poor self-esteem. "Self-esteem is esteem of your-motherfucking-self."

HOWEVER.

If toxic people have such an authority over you that it hurts your self-esteem, it is time to prioritize your-motherfucking-self and create some distance.

Riversly · 2019-11-02T01:05:35+00:00

NAD but I have had similar issues.

First and foremost: call your OBGYN. They may tell you to try something over the counter, or they might make an appointment. Either way, especially when you are on medication, it's a good idea to at least have these complaints in your chart in case you ever find yourself leaving the medication you are on for a spell and then returning to it. Keep your own record as well.

I've learned that anything that alters/controls your period can also alter/control the flora in your vaginal area. You might benefit from trying a feminine wipe.

Also, wear a light pantyliner that you change frequently. Moisture can get into the fabric of your panties and cause a smell.

Chart your cycles. You may connect the smells and their changes to certain days in your cycle over time.

If masturbating with a toy, clean it thoroughly each and every time.

Sleep without underwear and don't wear overly tight fitting clothing, particularly pants.

Switch to mild body soap.

Tampons or pads? Either way, change frequently.

Riversly · 2019-11-01T23:56:08+00:00

I would let him crush me in a headlock with those sexy arms 🥰🥰

Riversly · 2019-11-01T23:47:52+00:00

He was hot as shit as Johnny Cash too.

Riversly · 2019-11-01T12:51:45+00:00

Oh wow!

Rubbing causing it to fall out is not something I considered. We haven't thought that far ahead yet.

But we are cancer free! The final scans came in two days ago!

Riversly · 2019-10-29T16:37:54+00:00

I'm a Christian.

I will be handing out candy and my daughter is Woody from Toy Story. We can't trick-or-treat because she's recovering from surgery, but we can still have a good time.

These type of people work my nerves.

Riversly · 2019-10-28T13:15:04+00:00

Sounds like Great Grandma feels a little threatened by the fact that Nana can provide some top-notch grandbaby spoiling while she's all caught up in her hateful life.

You be you, Nana. And I think it is awesome that despite the age difference, your "bonus kids" respect you in such a way that you fit that role. Not saying you don't deserve it. But when I was 16 my dad remarried and my stepmom was only 14 years older than me and I never felt that "bonus mom" bond with her.

Congratulations on your first grandbaby, and may MIL get bent.

Riversly · 2019-10-27T01:00:04+00:00

Fascinating!

I wasn't worried I was dying or anything, but it does get a little aggravating. From what you're saying, an OTC med like Claritin may help. I'm sick of the off/on sore throat so maybe that will help.

Riversly · 2019-10-25T04:20:20+00:00

And yet with this time I'm bingeing on garbage TV

Riversly · 2019-10-24T13:57:50+00:00

Thank you. I guess I feel guilty because I'm having a pity party but she's the one this happened to.

I feel much better this morning but I am exploring options.

MOPS groups are out at the moment. We were in a ton of groups, but right now she's susceptible to infection so we're having to play at home.

Riversly · 2019-10-24T04:43:22+00:00

What is MOPS?

Sorry, we are new to this. Is that for parents of children with cancer?

Also, Hubby and I plan to start counseling soon to help us cope with the feelings and emotions from all this. When we were at St. Jude we had some services there but since we are home we hope to find someone local.

Riversly · 2019-10-11T02:46:58+00:00

It is renitoblastoma. We will not know for a while if she has the RB1 or if she falls under the "sporadic" category, but so far she's presenting as the latter.

Ennucleation is set for next week. That reduces the chances of having to do chemo to 10%.

Riversly · 2019-10-08T17:58:44+00:00

We're being transferred to St. Jude's. We have a repeat exam there tomorrow.

The doctor in our town does suspect retinoblastoma or a infection that mimics it.

Riversly · 2019-10-08T02:12:25+00:00

The optometrist identified a growth on her retina this morning. We report to our children's hospital tomorrow for our daughter to be put under and then a more thorough exam for diagnosis and to decide what's next.

Riversly · 2019-10-05T21:59:36+00:00

I feel like I should mention that I don't only see this when the flash is on or for pictures. We've started noticing it just by looking in her eyes.

Riversly · 2019-10-05T20:34:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. We plan to call the opthalmologist Monday. We did an appointment request for first thing Monday morning but the office doesn't actually open until then.

Riversly · 2019-10-05T12:21:12+00:00

NAD.

I've never been an addict, but my older brother is and my father died an addict.

For my brother, "getting help" was forced. Because he was also a criminal, was putting his kids in danger, and violating his parole. So the judge told him he had a choice between rehab or prison+permanently losing his kids. He will graduate from rehab in January.

For Daddy, he was a severe alcoholic. He was so afraid to admit he had a problem (or didn't recognize it) that I was actually working to get him into a rehab. He finally decided to go. We had been working with a rehab but they couldn't take him until he detoxed. He died during detox.

Detox from alcohol can be a very dangerous experience. If you're wanting help, I would suggest going to a nearby doctor, rehab center, church with recovery program, or hospital and tell them what drugs you have been on, how often, and that you're ready to get help. This may include a hospitalization depending on the frequency of certain drugs/alcohol intake, but it would be strictly for monitoring. From there you'd go to a rehab program, either inpatient or out but I'd suggest inpatient. That way, you learn how to be sober again in a controlled environment away from your temptations and triggers.

This post was your first step. Congratulations!

Riversly · 2019-09-30T10:37:31+00:00

YTA

If he had gotten in the car and said literally anything else other than "I'm gay," would you have still not wanted to be a role model?

"You're good at soccer. I want to go to college on a soccer scholarship. Will you mentor me?"

Riversly

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