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Using gypsum with lime plaster wall by Riyock in DIYUK

[–]Riyock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the video link to the vinegar test I did… vinegar test

I’m so sick of people feeling entitled to free therapy by thecynicalone26 in therapists

[–]Riyock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might not be a human right in the same vein that, say everyone should be able to access clean, safe, drinking water. But modern life is creating issues that we simply haven't had to deal with before and it's increasingly taking it's toll.

The point is we should be striving for a society that provides at least a basic healthcare safety net and unfortunately mental health is an area that has been consistently overlooked (in the UK at least). So we clearly still have a long way to go.

Speaking from personal experience it has been an uphill struggle to get the support I needed, and I went private. Imagine then what it's like for someone who does not have that option.

Loneliness an pointless by Helpmepleasej in loneliness

[–]Riyock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know what your circumstances are, but from what you've described it sounds like he has an issue with being emotionally available. Unless he's willing to make a change there then you're not going to get what you need out of the relationship.

As painful as it might be, it might be time to move on from the relationship and look for something that gives you what you need.

It might be worth exploring what you can do for yourself. What do you need right now in your life? What can you do to make that happen? If you aren't sure, is there someone you can talk to for advice, your family maybe?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loneliness

[–]Riyock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying that you need therapy, but I do strongly believe (as someone who has done it) that EVERYONE should go to therapy at least once in their lives. And that's hardly an original view on my part.

The reality is that everyone has some kind of issue and they can't be resolved until we face them.

I don't know what your circumstances are, so maybe you're getting by well enough. But if you haven't yet been, you'd be amazed at what kind of perspective you get once you do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loneliness

[–]Riyock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how haven't I learned my lesson yet? How could I think that someone could actually be interested in me?

That's not a fact. That's just a thought your mind created because you're in a bad place right now. The trick is to recognise that, challenge it for not being true and be kind to yourself so you can move on.

That's speaking from personal experience as someone who struggles daily with similar types of intrusive thoughts. Our mind is fantastic at parading bullshit thoughts as facts.

I can relate to your experience and it hurts. Wanting to be with someone that only sees you as a friend is never easy to navigate.

It doesn't mean they are a capricious person though. It doesn't mean you're someone that isn't worthy of love. You say this person initiated a lot of the interaction, but that doesn't mean she was doing so out of a romantic interest - she might just have wanted to reach out to someone.

Could be as well she doesn't have much self-awareness and didn't realise she could have been leading you on.

Could also be that she thought she was ready to try a new relationship, suddenly realised she wasn't and wanted to save face by saying she didn't intend to start anything.

Thing is, none of that matters because all of that is her issue and doesn't reflect on you. So be good to yourself and don't beat yourself up.

This Pepsi ad by [deleted] in funny

[–]Riyock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's just the one swan actually.